Do you, girls, enjoy anal sex?

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  1. Pottox

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    Hi!

    I suppose that this topic has already been treated on these forums, but I hope you can help me this time.

    My girlfriend doesn't want us to have anal sex. Despite I'm not hung like a horse (7,5 inches x almost 6), she is very scared. She thinks it will hurt like Hell, and that she won't have any pleasure.

    That's why I post this thread. Do you girl really enjoy anal sex? Are you able to have an orgasm (or more than one) only by anal penetration?

    Could you, please, help me to convince her? I have never done it, and I'm so curious.

    Thank you very much!

    P.S. Of course, if some of you say that it is a horrible experience, we won't do it. I really love her. But I've heard that it isn't. Well, I don't know. Help!
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I am one of the ones who really, really enjoys it. Even before i was sexually active i would masturbate anally. It was something that just felt normal and natural to me, and still does.

    yeah it hurts a little to begin with, but you learn to love that pain
     
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    I am new to having anal sex and I enjoy it very much. But, I was always interested in trying it out. I never did because I wanted it to be with someone who acted like a secure man and not a little boy.

    Yes, it does hurt a little when you first push in. But, the more you take your time and warm up a bit the more relaxed her body will be...so it hurts less.

    But, I will have to say....If she doesn't want to try it...you shouldn't try to convince her too. Mabye you can discuss it with her and see what her fears are...and mabye the two of you can try playing anally with other things besides your penis..
     
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    Hire a hooker. Seriously, this is one of those times when no, means NO! :mad:

    You may not be hung like a pornstar but 6" girth is pretty damned big; and if she's scared or doesn't want to do it she will tense up making it that much harder to enjoy for both of you.

    I have never heard of a woman who can only orgasm from anal. If she is having trouble reaching orgasm anal sex is NOT the answer. You need to adjust your technique.

    Some women have no interest in anal sex and you need to respect that.


    FWIW: I enjoy anal sex, and I can orgasm from it; but it's not something I want every day. :cool:


    quote=Pottox;1597433]Hi!

    I suppose that this topic has already been treated on these forums, but I hope you can help me this time.

    My girlfriend doesn't want us to have anal sex. Despite I'm not hung like a horse (7,5 inches x almost 6), she is very scared. She thinks it will hurt like Hell, and that she won't have any pleasure.

    That's why I post this thread. Do you girl really enjoy anal sex? Are you able to have an orgasm (or more than one) only by anal penetration?

    Could you, please, help me to convince her? I have never done it, and I'm so curious.

    Thank you very much!

    P.S. Of course, if some of you say that it is a horrible experience, we won't do it. I really love her. But I've heard that it isn't. Well, I don't know. Help![/quote]
     
  5. Pottox

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    Well, first of all I'm sorry if I've hurt you as a woman, but you should talk with a bit more of respect.

    On the other hand, you should learn to read too, because:

    1) I've said that I'd respect her decissions (as I've always done). It's only that I want her not to reject it due to "speculations" only. If she doesn't want to do it, it would be ok for me, but I don't want that she fear anything.

    2) Where have you read that she "is having trouble reaching orgasm"? We are very happy together, sexually and not sexually either, as we were since the first time we started to be a couple (almost four years ago). It's only that I wanted to try something new. But take it easy, we haven't had any quarrel.

    Well, sorry, I think I've just discovered what has confused you. When I talked about orgasm only through anal sex I meant "without clitoral stimulation at the same time", referred to achieve an orgasm only due to the penetration, letting other ways apart. Do you understand it now? I know my English is not excellent.

    Thank you very much for your answer (at least I've discovered that you enjoy it too)... and for the compliment about "my thickness"
     
  6. psidom

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    do not pressure her...yes some females love it,however that is usually
    after alot of sexual experience.

    (keyword usually)

    start her with a fleet enema and a buttplug.
    she will get used to the sensation and soon desire more.

    7-8x6 seems to be very popular amongst the porn scene.
    i do not understand what a "porn sized" cock is i guess.
     
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    I'm totally content with poking my meat in hole #1. Seems to have moved up to the top of the list in porn though. The videos start with foreplay, scenes of cunnily' talents, then a blowjob, then a good fuk from several angles,and the grand finale is a total ass fuking.
     
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    I enjoy anal, but I have to be really worked up, lots of foreplay, fairly close to orgasm, then I really want it.
     
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    Fap? :biggrin1:
     
  10. D_Al Frankenbeans

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    Don't do anal. It really is not safe and most girls really don't enjoy it.
     
  11. D_Dolly Pharton

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    I've tried it more than a few times and only with boyfriends I REALLY TRUSTED but oh my god I have never felt so miserable. I hate it!!! Even after the initial disgusting excruciating pain subsides it feels completely disgusting like you have to use the bathroom and that feeling, in my experience, never goes away it just gets more boring and worse as it goes on. The one sure fire way to turn me off is doing anything near that area no touching with mouths or fingers or toys ughh hate when guys think they are cute and try to stick somethin in there EXCUSE ME instant turn off for me. I have had 3 ok experiences with it, one really good one (but he had to have the smallest dick ever), one he definitely knew what he was doing and how to put me at ease even though he has a huge one! The other I was drunk lol with a close friend and dont remember too much, but I remember it just was what not was not good bot bad just ok. Looks to me like its 50/50 on women who like it and those who don't. The one thing I've noticed 100% is that those who don't like it never will and vice versa :veryhappy:
     
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    what do you mean its not safe?
     
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    My wife says "When it feels good, it feels really good." She has never orgasmed from only anal sex.

    Relaxation
    Lubrication
    Vibration
    Dilation

    Lots of patience and lube. In the spooning position, if she is willing to dilate with a dildo, you can be positioned and lubed to enter her as she removes the dildo and it will be easier for her and you to slowly enter her, watch and listen for signals of discomfort and stop when she tells you to stop, then wait for her to tell you that it's all right to go in deeper. She has to be in control in order to be comfortable. If she gets sore recovery can take a while, sometimes a few days.

    Don't push, be respectful and she her interest may be piqued. We tried it about 5 years into our marriage and once more about 20 years in and she started dilating her ass 2.5 years ago and now we have anal sex 1-2 times a week.
     
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    A MILF I know (actually a MIDF - a mother I do fuck), LOVES anal. She just sits on my cock straight away and when I fuck her hard and deep she just squirts from her pussy. That said, she does admit to masturbating anally daily, so she is very relaxed when it comes to fucking.
     
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    When I was younger I LOVED anal sex, although I never orgasmed (from a penis) it got me so turned on that when I finally got off it would be amazing.

    The best way to get me in the mood was to perform oral sex on me, while beginning to massage my anus, then use some lube and start sliding a finger in and out, after a little while add another finger, by the time you get three fingers in I am ready. However I usually wanted to be in control at first so let me mount you and get it going, once you are in and fucking then we can change positions.

    Keep yourself lubed up with a high quality lube, spit just doesn't cut it. Also don't force anal to mouth or anal to vaginal. I used to do this when I was young and dumb but got a bad vaginal infection from doing it. It is dangerous, but a weird kinky turn on for some.

    I have achieved orgasm from anal fisting though, the first time I was fisted I was really drunk and didn't even know at first that he was fisting me. Later in a more sober state we did it again and I had some really powerful orgasms.

    Hope this helps.

    PS if she says NO then NO means NO, you can ask but don't force the issue.
     
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    Have to disagree with this, the first few times I did it I hated it, but that's cuz the guys were clueless, just wanted to get off in my ass and didn't care if I enjoyed it or not! Once I got with a guy who cared, I found out how much fun it can be!
     
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    I agree with 3664shaken from a guy's point of view. I wouldn't want to kiss a girl in the mouth if I force her to suck my cock after anal and she has to suck off her own poo from it. I also would not want to give her cunnilingus after putting a cock dipped with poo up her pussy. Also a vaginal infection would make a pussy look real nasty.
    Do the butt last!!

    If you want to initially get her into it, use your fingers starting from the smallest (pinky) to the fattest (thumb) with a latex glove on it (those nails hurt and scratch no matter how short you cut them), buy small toys (no more than 3" circumference for the first one as this is the next size from the thumb) then buy bigger and bigger ones until she is ready for your enormous dick. Use Crisco oil or "Wet" Lubricant, those are the best. Spit and Vaginal lube is not enough. Also, if you are fecalphobic, give her an enema so you don't get dirt on your helmut. If you go too thick too fast, she will feel like going and it will be on you:eek:.
     
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    Thank you very much for all your replies.

    She's starting to feel more decided to try it (with the "pinky" at first), but she wants to know if there is any possibility of having a prolapse.

    I don't want her to have one, so if you have more experience... could you, please, tell how it is produced and how to avoid it?

    Thank you again.
     
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    I really dislike anal. lol. I've never enjoyed it, and I derive NO sexual pleasure from it.
     
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    Prolapsed anuses are produced by straining to push out excrements because of constipation or possibly from straining from pushing out the babies during pregnancy and the rectum being pushed out of the anal opening. The rectum will come out if you expand the hole too much during the time of straining so I would avoid anal sex during the pregnancy or if she has constipation problems. To prevent the first type, women should have fiber, of course, so that the feces don't harden. They may also induce diarrhea to break down hard feces.
    If she does have a prolapse, it is not a harmful thing as it is more common in women than men. She can always do kegels to squeeze it back in and help strengthen the muscles needed to contain the rectum from falling out.

    Historically, anal sex was used as a means of birth control and it was an alternative to using sheepskin. It is mainly for the pleasure of men but somehow, some women enjoy it more than others. Some guys claim that the anus is tighter than the vagina. To me, if they have sex with both holes, there is no difference, I am still sticking my member in a warm wet pleasure hole. I would love to do her vaginally if she takes birth control pills and allows me to fuck her without a condom (fully STD tested of course). However, some girls still use anal as a means of birth control just like the old days and just want to feel the guy in her without the consequences of pregnancy so she does anal and the guy is still happy with it.
     
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