I do all of the shopping for the household. Since COVID, my wife has ended her shopping trips to places like TJ Maxx, Marshall's, etc. She plays volleyball once weekly and I strip down naked as soon as she leaves the house and enjoy some "me time".
As I've gotten older and sex with my wife has become less frequent, I've begun masturbating in bed with her. I'll jackoff while she plays with my balls. I get the euphoria of cumming and the pleasure of her participating at least partially.
We all need to be in charge of our own happiness. If I waited for my wife to satisfy my needs, my penis would fall off from atrophy.