Do you have a conversation about setting limits before sex?

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Before you go into a sexual relationship with a guy, do you find it's important to talk about limits or do you prefer something more spontaneous?

As an example, if you prefer a guy to be more dominant or enjoy a certain act, is that something you would talk to him before hand or would you prefer to just figure out each other's turn-ons after/during the first time? This goes for limits as well such as not enjoy getting your hair pulled for example... do you make it a point to have a talk about this or not?
 

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While I love spontaneity, it's always best to talk about ... important things. (if you're a sub and he's a sub, it's not gonna work to well.)

It depends on how I am meeting them. Over the last 5 years, all my encounters have been found over the internet (got sick of guys lying about their size), so there is plenty of time and space for discussion. By the time I am meeting them, I have definitely talked about such things as - I must have trimmed pubic hair, must have at least 8"x6" cock, don't really care for cunnilingus, etc.

Honestly, I don't expect the first time to be spectacular. I suppose I expect it to be fairly vanilla, and kind of an hour or two of discovery.
 

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Before you go into a sexual relationship with a guy, do you find it's important to talk about limits or do you prefer something more spontaneous?

I prefer spontaneity and set limits as we go.

As an example, if you prefer a guy to be more dominant or enjoy a certain act, is that something you would talk to him before hand or would you prefer to just figure out each other's turn-ons after/during the first time?

I'd rather us just experience the moment, the passion/lust, and as it's happening we'd communicate verbally/physically what pushes our buttons.

This goes for limits as well such as not enjoy getting your hair pulled for example... do you make it a point to have a talk about this or not?


If I didn't like a guy doing a particular thing I wouldn't put it on the table before the sex took place. If he does something during sex that I don't like I'll let him know.
 

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Yes, let's get the kinks all out into the open so that we both have a good time.

Before you go into a sexual relationship with a guy, do you find it's important to talk about limits or do you prefer something more spontaneous?

As an example, if you prefer a guy to be more dominant or enjoy a certain act, is that something you would talk to him before hand or would you prefer to just figure out each other's turn-ons after/during the first time? This goes for limits as well such as not enjoy getting your hair pulled for example... do you make it a point to have a talk about this or not?