Do you have a dating theory?

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I don't mean PUA (largely bollocks IMO), but do you apply any reasoning to dating?

I kind of think women are geared to men who are strong and can lead. So to me, every man should be aiming for that goal.

Also, being in shape helps a lot, as well as having goals, passions and purpose.

I think also having clearly defined value systems is key too. By that I mean women respect a man (IMO) who knows what he likes in life and can stand by such principles. It shows maturity and self-awareness IMO.

As for looks, well this lends to being in shape, and essentially using what you've got. Even if one is not an Adonis, he still can get women if he keeps in shape and uses his assets to his advantage.
 

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I don't think I have a "theory" as such, no ...

But in general, yes, people should try to

  • maintain a useful/accurate/meaningful set of beliefs and attitudes
  • behave in ways that show interest in other people, and respect for them
  • have some wider interests, and/or enthusiasms. But not too many.
  • learn to communicate properly, but without going over the top
  • look after their bodies and minds
  • be as kind an generous as they can. Some people spread that thin and deep, others wide and shallow. Either are better than never doing it at all, and isolating yourself from others.

... and all of this is useful for life in general, of course - not just "dating" ...
 
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Self confident sexuality... being comfortable in your own skin... being direct, honest, and authentic... intelligence demonstrated thru wit and the ability to banter, especially a sense of humor and of not taking yourself too seriously... talent... and a willingness to engage with others.

oh... and, at my age, having aged well... not let yourself go... not looking like the picture of Dorian Gray... you deserve the face you have at 50.
 

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For me, dating is about learning about a new person. Physical attraction plays a part, but it's not the only part. I prefer intelligent, open people, with a hint of mystery and depth of character. When I was younger, I'd fuck without attraction, but I don't do that anymore. Sex is so much better with friends.
 
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Mine is very basic. Chemistry starts it out but if it doesn't grow from there and continues to be a lot of work to keep it alive it is just not meant to be. Best for both parties to move on. Maybe that's too simplistic but it's always worked for me.
 

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Women love compliments. You could have absolutely nothing in common with a girl and nothing to talk about, but if you indicate interest in the least "creepy" way possible you can get somewhere in my experience.
 

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The basics that i believe are key to success in the area for me would be, to be a tidy person, and to always take care of your looks, the other aspect would be to be able to handle a conversation, good presentation, and sociability, thar eventually will work, both women and men.
 

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Be confident and genuine. Be yourself and don't bullshit anybody. Your true self will eventually be exposed...