Of course the underlying assumption kind of is that all gay men want all men like they are not selective in what they like in men,
Isn't that what the stereotype is that gay men are fussy and particular. Being gay myself certain men are hot and some are not, clothed or otherwise. I can also find a man attractive and not want to sleep with them. As well I can find and appreciate fine beautiful women. One thing I think heterosexual majority can appreciate is the opening of sex boundaries the queer community presents. Sex should be free and unbound by social conventions. If you define yourself as straight, great, bi, fine. gay, straight with occasional dalliances with the same sex. Orgies, couples, threesomes whatever. Openness and acceptance of peoples' sexual identities is one of this century's growing issues. Sex and intimacy is all good!