Do You Have a Standard Set of Rules for Chat?

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  1. D_Kitten_Kaboodle

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    I am not sure what it is about the chat room, but it appears that when people go in there, they throw away all courtesy and leave their respect and class at the door. :confused:

    I love to chat, and enjoy having fun with people. It's where I go to have fun, sometimes to talk about what's going on, but mostly to just check up on my peeps here and enjoy their company. (Peeps = people I KNOW are REAL, and have had conversations/interactions with.) :friday:

    I have a few general rules that I use in chat room. I know lots of folks here will never see this (as many do not ever read the blogs, even when you ask them to.)

    Please feel free to add your guidelines, if you have any... or tips that you use to help make chat a fun place for you to be.

    Mine are pretty simple:

    1. NO, I do NOT want to private chat with someone who hasn't even tried to get to know me first. :aargh4:

    2. NO, I do NOT allow you to view my cam if I do not know you.. (I often show FACE for my friends and pple I know. If I don't know you , you cannot see my face. When I'm only showing boob-age, I could care less who sees that, but face... a different matter altogether.) :rant:

    3. If I decline you twice... MOVE ALONG...
    I'm not changing my mind. :nono:

    How do you get to know me? Well NOT in the Chat room... You can try to strike up conversation in PM. If I don't respond to you, it's because I am either busy or not interested. That does not mean that I do or don't like you, hell I don't KNOW you. But I have very limited time and have to manage what I can here, like everyone else.

    It's not personal... it's an online adult sex site.

    Why must I have to resort to putting a person on IGNORE list? I hate doing that....all I want is a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.... LOL :wave2:



    OK, I'm done now... :soapbox: :rocketwhore:
     
  2. Joll

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    Aww, FP. :(
     
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    I've always said that the Chat Feature here is like watching fisting porn ten minutes after you've cum. It's not my thing at all.
     
  4. ArtofDesire

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    I've only entered the chat room twice and have never participated in public chat. I like my conversations to be more private and did not care for the atmosphere of the general chat room but I can see how it might be good for touching base with a number of people at once. I actually prefer PM's or outside email which gives me more time to compose my thoughts plus I do not cam for anyone, ever. It's a strict rule that I have as I am very camera shy and like to control the images that I allow others to see.

    If I am chatting with someone on Yahoo, I always turn my light off so that I remain invisible and can therefore carry on a conversation without being interrupted.
     
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    RESPECT is where it all starts FP
     
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    i need to search out a FAQ for chat.. stupid think jumps and locks up on me.
    they was playing win, lose or draw.. or some such combination.

    can't believe nobody told me about a graffiti toy.
     
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    I've been to the chat a few times and it seems like it is a combination of stoned 20-somethings looking to cam while publicly making random stream-of-consciousness babble and regulars who all hey and wb each other.

    Plus the random users who invite you to a private room to ask questions that are already answered in the profile. Don't invite me to a private chat if you didn't even read my profile. It's just weird.

    I've had one or two interesting encounters in chat, but find the forums and browsing profiles much more entertaining.
     
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    FP, sorry to hear that chat hasn't been the greatest for you lately. I'd like to think that chat would be a place where people could hangout without being constantly bugged and harassed but obviously thats not the case. I mean it hasn't happened to me, but I can see it going on and its a shame to see. As bummer as it is to say, I've only met a HANDFUL and I mean small number here of people who I've genuinely come to like and enjoy conversations with. I am even lucky enough to say I found 1 person I absolutely LOVE talking to, but that's beside the point I guess.

    You are right, this is a sex website, some people come to chat for the tits, ass, and cock. Some people will keep asking and just won't take no for an answer. I mean in this case persistence DOESN'T pay off, and of course the simple no thank you will not work. In this case I really don't know what the answer would be to help you out with the people that just can't hear no for an answer, I'd honestly say to put them on the block list, they're probably not worth the time anyways. However it is a nuisance and I apologize on their behalf :smile:.

    Now for my only camrule I'd say,

    1. I don't show my face to people I haven't talk to for a while without getting to know them, I guess I'm shy or just don't want to people to see my troll face :tongue:.

    2. Private chats with me are pretty rare, again its not personal I just really can't keep up with both the regular chat and private chat. If its really really quiet in the room I can probably swing doing a private chat though.

    3. If I usually decline your first request, a second one isn't gonna help your cause. Give me a hello or a how are you? Then maybe we can go from there :tongue:.

    Oh I rarely do show my dong on cam, but if I do I really don't care who is watching, guys girls your all welcome! But face is a COMPLETE different story, so I guess were the same in that aspect Fancy :biggrin1:. I try to be as POLITE as possible when talking to people, always try to post up a can I peek at your cam? Before even clicking. Never hurts to be a bit courteous you know!

    End of rant :)
     
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    My only rule is - NO PVT CHATS with strangers!
    I hate it, it distracts me from the main room! I rarely PVT chat even with close friends.
    And I really hate getting whispers like - Hey, how are you? I mean- wtf? You can ask that in public.
    Lpsg chat is the best feature on this site, and you can`t hide anything there ;)
     
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    Dunno about chat here, but any other place, my ROT is basically-
    One-Authentic chat, no robots soliciting cams or get lost.
    Two- If I am chatting with a real person, then butting in and trying to chat whilst I'm busy gets you blocked and then some.
    Three- Same rule in my siggy applies there, If I don't know you, then you aren't getting added to my contacts -per-i-ooood.
    Four- Don't got a webcam, don't bother asking to view yours.
    'Nuff Said.
     
  11. b.c.

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    Yeah...I have a standard rule: "Don't chat." :cool:
     
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    I only have two set rules for the LPSG chat room.

    1) I don't do the private chat thing. With anyone. So please don't waste time requesting to have one with me. If you have something to say to me, say it in the main room. Even if it's a whisper message....

    2) Don't be a fucktard.
     
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    When I sign on to chat......

    Rule 1: Worship FancyPants.
    Rule 2: Be nice to people. (except luka82)
    Rule 3: Have fun.

    I haven't been on recently because there are so many new people who have altered the dynamic of the room in such a way that it disinterests me. Plus, I have a job.
     
  14. exwhyzee

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    We all use chat for different reasons, whether to enjoy having fun with familiars, or to express yourself in ways that you can't anywhere else, or to cam with strangers. It has strengths (instant gratification, a real-time gauge of personality, and if camming...a visual-sexual dimension). It also has drawbacks (frustration and intolerance, aggravation and exclusion, and if camming...a bombardment of questions such as "ASL?" and "are you gonna show dick?"). Such as life, its all about choices...the choice to respect, the choice to avoid those who have divisive or aggravating personailities, and if camming...the choice of getting to know a person or a sexual organ. Horny guys are the worst in terms of manners, courtesy, and social skills. In the end, it can be an interesting way to pass some time and at best you can meet some cool people that you can develop a connection with.

    All that pontification aside, my three rules for chat 1) Treat others as you want to be treated, 2) Try to be patient and welcoming and watch for the troublemakers, and 3) have a sense of humor. Aside from those observations...I kind-of gauge my rules for chat to the individual related to past experiences. I will admit I am generally shy and rarely reach out to newcomers the friendly way that I should.
     
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    Shy??? PFFFFFFFFFFFT! Your dick ain't shy.
     
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    As most of the regs of the room know me, I've been a very long time user of various chat room mediums, especially IRC.

    Extract from my website, which mostly centres around IRC, but feel it's equally applicable to basically any chat room I use....

    1 ALWAYS read and abide by the room topic upon entry to the room. On IRC, most room topics will have general information, & rules relating to that room. In the case of rules, quite often, the room will have a BOT set up to display the rules of conduct. Most of these BootÂ’s will have a "Trigger" (Which you type, in order to view these rules. This trigger, is usually:- !rules), or the BOT will display to you (Either in the main chat, or via PM), the "Rules Of Conduct". If you can not find anything, either in the room's topic, or in the general chat of the room, relating to these rules, ASK AN OP (@ or %), for information. This way, you will not run the risk of getting KICKED/BANNED.

    2 Please treat others how you would like to be treated. By this, I mean treat others with respect, & also respect their wishes.

    3 Some users do not like unsolicited personnel messages/PM. For your own sake, ask first in the main chat, before you PM users.

    4 Do not ask for A/S/L!!! Some users do not wish to be constantly harassed, about their AGE, SEX, or LOCATION. Get to know the users in the room, & by this way, you will be able to tell their A/S/L.

    5 Spamming or flooding the rooms, with meaningless text is PROHIBITED. If you DO decide to do this, you will find that quite often, an OP (@ or %), or a BOT, will either KICK or BAN you from the room. So do not come crying to me, to get the ban removed, because you have decided to spam/flood the room, as I will simply tell you to FUCK OFF!!!

    6 Do not bad mouth, or start throwing insults at the op's. An op, can be identified by either @ or %, at the start of their user name. Their main job, is to keep order in the room. If you do decide to have a go at these people, do not be surprised that you get KICKED, or even BANNED from the room. In the case of the #southpark #spdigest rooms, if you decide to have a go at me (stanmarsh14), you also run the risk of being GLINED (Being BANNED from the entire tveps IRC network). So you have been warned!!!

    7 The use of scanning scripts, which scans ALL servers on IRC networks. They tend to be spamming in nature. This is mostly noticeable, when an IRC script by the name of IRC-ORK is used. Again, like with spamming in general, this may get you KICKED/BANNED from any room, or in the case of TVEPS, even BANNED from the network. If you find yourself banned in this manner, normally the actual ban, lasts for 24 hours. Please WAIT for this time to expire, and then you can re-join the network. BUT, remember to REMOVE/DISABLE the script that got you banned in the first place, before you connect to the network.
     
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    Pah-leez, you havent seen my dick on cam in forever...at least 3 hours.
     
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    LMAO... that's a good one... so won't be looking for you in chat...



    Now See, JJSJR, if everyone else used your rules... what a wonderful world this would be... LOL... because worshipers respect their idol. :rofl:

    My friend Ronin is right it starts with Respect.
     
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    As a new guy to the chat room, I find it a mixed bag. Most of the regulars are so busy with old friends that they just ignore me and being pretty shy myself, I don't push it. And, it's like they have their own language...their inside jokes...I've given up even trying to follow those conversations, never mind even trying to actually participate in them.

    The mix of people in the room I also find a bit hard to navigate. Some the str8 guys (those who label themselves with 100%) don't want anything to do other guys and some can be pretty rude or dismissive if you try to engage them.

    Then there are other guys that say they're str8 but treat you like a side of beef if you're on cam. Confusing to say the least. And the women, well they seem too busy with the "hound-dogs" in the room to even try to engage. What's a shy guy to do?

    Rather than my rules, here are my suggestions for making the chat better (as you'll see, they're based on my personal pet peeves):

    1. Be more open to engaging with the new people (yes, this is directed to you regulars).
    2. Recognize that that the room contains a full spectrum of sexual interests and preferences, and be cool with it or leave. Don't use it as an excuse to "dis" others.
    3. Personally I hate the feature that allows cammers to select who sees their cam. Maybe its just me, but it always kinda hurts when I get denied access to something everyone else in the room is chatting about. :-(
    4. Since that's not likely to change, it sure would be great if the software showed whose cam was open to all, and whose were only open to friends or a select few.
    5. If you're receiving whispers, respond in a whisper. I know I'm pretty new to the chat experience, but trying to follow conversations and having extraneous comments which are apparently responses to questions you can't see, is a bit frustrating (especially when the answer is tantalizing in some way).
    6. Don't just assume that someone wants to go into a private chat with you. Ask in the room first. I always feel obligated to at least go into the private chat when I get a request (it feels rude to me to not go...unless it's someone I've had an uncomfortable chat with in the past.) And, don't ask for a private chat just to say you like the cam or the person's profile...a whisper will work just fine.
    7. I'm nitpicking now: If you're not actually going to talk when on cam, turn your mic off so everyone else doesn't have to.

    Well those are the ones that come to mind right now. There are probably others...if I think of more I'll post them later.
     
  20. exwhyzee

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    All good observations followed by strong suggestions. Just as an FYI, I have been in and out of chat for years and I still get rejected all the time by cammers (to the point I rarely bother trying), I also find the "I'm totally straight but I want to jack off with hot guys" thing ridiculous, and I don't get all the inside jokes and comments that should probably be kept private, too. Its not just you. A minority of the chatters take up 99% of the chat room bandwidth. That's how it's always been...though arguably worse now than ever.
     
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