All good observations followed by strong suggestions. Just as an FYI, I have been in and out of chat for years and I still get rejected all the time by cammers (to the point I rarely bother trying), I also find the "I'm totally straight but I want to jack off with hot guys" thing ridiculous, and I don't get all the inside jokes and comments that should probably be kept private, too. Its not just you. A minority of the chatters take up 99% of the chat room bandwidth. That's how it's always been...though arguably worse now than ever.
Thanks man, I'm glad to know it's not just me. I'm getting to the point where I don't try to open cams unless it's someone I know is open to all. Still hate it, tho, when folks in the room are commenting about some cam that the rest of aren't allowed to see. ARGH!!
I've gotten so when I go on cam...which is quite often...that I announce to room that my cam is open to all. Maybe this will help call out those who feel they need to hide the cams from most of us. I just don't get going into a public room and keeping your cam private...but that's just me. Seems like there are lots of options for private cam (Yahoo, Skype, etc)...I enjoy those too at times.
Anyway, I didn't expect my rant to change anything, but it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way at times.