Do you hold a grudge?

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  1. Mem

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    I don't. Some people do, I say forgive, but not forget.

    The best thing is to let things go.
     
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    I used to hold grudges. It's a bad trait I inherited/learned from my mothers family. A few years ago, not sure how many :rolleyes: I realized that was stupid. It doesn't hurt the person I hold a grudge against because they don't even know about it. It certainly doesn't help me any so why bother. :confused: This doesn't always mean I have forgiven them or forgotten the incident. It just means I decided to "get over it and move on."
     
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    I'll feel animosity towards an individual for a period of time based upon the infraction but eventually I move past it (to neutrality, at best). Eventually. Regardless, I pass judgement on those I dislike and deem them so far beneath me it doesn't matter what they say or do. I couldn't care less about a fly; why would you be any different??
     
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    Me? :eek:
     
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    Not you, mem0101!!! Hahahaha sorry for not making that distinction. I was using the generalized "you".
     
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    I hold a grudge for about 24 hours, after that point if I remember why or even care that is the matter... I'll remove you from my life and probably forget why by the time I see you next... but I'll remember I didn't like you for some reason.
     
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    I don't hold a grudge just out of spite, but I'm a good judge of character, and remember when you've slighted me. I tend to be fairly trusting but if you wrong me then I'll learn from my mistake.

    On here, if you've repeatedly shown yourself to be a troll, a fake, an idiot, someone working with an ulterior motive, or just a general douchebag... then I'll call you out on it in other threads if you're pretending to be something else. This isn't holding a grudge, it's sharing information.
     
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    Yea, one of vices. I got tired of 'forgiving and forgetting'. It seems like people took it as an invitation to screw me over even more...
     
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    Unforgiveness is like drinking poison every morning and waiting for the other person to die.

    A grudge is some where to park the car!!
    (giggles)Sorry!! I just couldn't help myself!!
     
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    For that dumb pun, now I have a garage against you.:wink:
     
  11. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I don't hold grudges. It hurts me more than them.
     
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    I'll have to think about this one. I don't often get grudges, and none of the people in my life are worthy (in the bad sense) of holding a grudge against.

    I do know that if someone violates my trust, I will not trust them again regardless of the infraction.
     
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    I find it difficult to separate these two. Very difficult.
     
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    One is for giving and one is for getting.:wink: I don't know what that means, but if you search deep enough it is almost philosophical.

    You can forgive a person and not forget.

    Or you can not forgive a person and not forget.

    I'm a pretty easy going guy and can forgive pretty easily. I have a co-worker who is a jerk and threatened me and I should never speak to him again, but I don't hate him. He is a miserable compulsive gambler and I feel sorry for him, and at times he can be a nice guy too. I do kinda hate him, but I have no choice but to work with him, so I make the best of it.
     
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