Do you judge people based on who they date?

[luka82]

An example! You have a friend who is not a really close friend but still a friend and they are dating someone you think is, well...hm....stupid. Does your opinion about your friend change then?

 

[OhWiseOne]

Opinion change? no. Should you be concerned about the person a freind dates? no. The answer would only be yes if there was mental or physical abuse occurring. Other than that time will tell.

 

[Remington]

In a word, yes.

 

[D_Rufus_D_Dufus]

Yes, and sometimes I'm a little too harsh about it.

 

[Drifterwood]

Yes, especially if they are serious. It tells you a lot that perhaps you hadn't seen before.

 

[798686]

Yes, I'm afraid so. :/

 

[Guill]

Every factor is someone's life effects how I judge them. I try to hold that judgement in suspension until it is proven out but it certainly effects my opinions in a small way.

 

[MrHangman]

It adds a new dimension to what I thought I knew about them.

 

[tamati]

if a friend started dating a racist, how could you not judge them?

 

[B_Hickboy]

An example! You have a friend who is not a really close friend but still a friend and they are dating someone you think is, well...hm....stupid. Does your opinion about your friend change then?

The stupid one does not deserve to be allowed to live.

 

[luka82]

Yes, I judge them too But I also tell them

 

[B_enzia35]

Yes.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Don't judge on who they date, but who they marry, yes.

 

[ConstantComment]

I judge people on whom they date and are friends with. Mainly from the point of view of how they allow the other person to treat them.

At the moment, I am dealing with that issue now. My guy was dating someone else and it overlapped our time together. We have been exclsuive for a year now. But then he wanted to the "friend thing" with her. I learned of several examples in which she treated him in ways that I simply would not accept personally and as the kind of behavior impacts on one's partner, I told him that I could not accept it. If he must be friends with this woman, then we could simply be friends as well (And then I could look for a bf elsewhere).

But still though, it does get me wondering.......am I missing something.....do men really like being treated like shit.......should I behave like that as well........

 

[august86]

An example! You have a friend who is not a really close friend but still a friend and they are dating someone you think is, well...hm....stupid. Does your opinion about your friend change then?

Oh absolutely, and my friends should expect nothing less. I won't use every opportunity to highlight my layers of judgement, but I certainly judge every micro-expression to body language and gestures.

It's amazing how we find it questionable when someone dates outside of their "zone" ito hotness, intelligence, class/financial status, etc., begging questions like: "hmm, I wonder how she landed him... she must be a real freak in the bed" or "how did he get her? he must be rich or hung"

 

[luka82]

Oh absolutely, and my friends should expect nothing less. I won't use every opportunity to highlight my layers of judgement, but I certainly judge every micro-expression to body language and gestures.

It's amazing how we find it questionable when someone dates outside of their "zone" ito hotness, intelligence, class/financial status, etc., begging questions like: "hmm, I wonder how she landed him... she must be a real freak in the bed" or "how did he get her? he must be rich or hung"

Auggie, the only zone I value is the brain! :wink:

 

[701757]

I judge people based on which programming languages they know.

 

[AlphaMale]

I don't necessarily make an absolute final judgement on them, no. But I think you can tell a lot about someone by who they are dating or show time and attention too.

I've always said, you can tell almost everything you need to know about a girl by the guy she is dating (and vice versa). I.e. the seemingly nice girls who are dating the dbags.

 

[deleted556573]

In short, yes. My global opinion of the person is not based on that one facet, though. As several other people stated, though, it gives you a good glimpse into who this person really is.

On the same note, I judge everyone by the company they keep. It works much like the theme Of this thread.

 

[luka82]

I don't necessarily make an absolute final judgement on them, no. But I think you can tell a lot about someone by who they are dating or show time and attention too.

I've always said, you can tell almost everything you need to know about a girl by the guy she is dating (and vice versa). I.e. the seemingly nice girls who are dating the dbags.

I know you are good people based on the people you date! :smile: