Do you know any homosexuals that have been in a long term relationship?
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I used to go to church with quite a few men who'd been together since they were in their 20's. I met a man on this website who's been with his dreamboat for over two decades ( I think). My best friend's brother and his partner have been together since before I met them 19 years ago. The other gay dudes I know haven't been alive (or out of the closet) long enough to have a particularly long romance. One of my friends is looking for that everlasting love, but he just keeps meeting such assholes. (No pun intended.)
My other half and I have been together for over 14 years now. We have friends who've been together for 37 years, another few couples who've been together for over 40 years and know some who've been together over 50 years and one couple who're coming up for 65 years together. They got together in their late teens/early 20s and are still going strong.
As some other posters have already said, it's almost impossible to keep a long-term relationship going if you're regularly on the scene. I've seen it happen so many times. As soon as it gets out that you're a couple people seem to want to split you up.
As some other posters have already said, it's almost impossible to keep a long-term relationship going if you're regularly on the scene. I've seen it happen so many times. As soon as it gets out that you're a couple people seem to want to split you up.
Congratulations to the OP (original poster) and to the people who have transformed an implicit cultural prejudice - i.e. the "invisibility of gay couples" - into a positive affirmation. The OP's question has motivated people to identify the gay couples (men and women) who manage to have enduring relationships.
We should also give Galaxus some credit for
- having the courage to ask the question
- and thinking about the matter in the first place since he is in his early 20s and at university. How many people at the age of 21 take the time to contemplate long-term relationships - gay or straight - when 10+ years represents half of a person's life time at that age.
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My Husband(we're legally married in Massachusetts) have been living together for 31 years now. We moved in together when I was 20!
My turn to chime in...
I'm not homosexual, but my boyfriend is. :wink:
On August 10th, 2009 we will celebrate 10 years together. :biggrin1:
He is my best friend & I am so happy to have been blessed with living my life with him.
(No, he isn't a member of LPSG; that's just how I feel.)
I'm not homosexual, but my boyfriend is. :wink:
On August 10th, 2009 we will celebrate 10 years together. :biggrin1:
He is my best friend & I am so happy to have been blessed with living my life with him.
(No, he isn't a member of LPSG; that's just how I feel.)
I don't want to focus the thread on me, but thank you all for the nice things that you have to say. And I thank everybody for the posts so far. This is really illuminating.
I have a gay friend looking for somebody. I think he has always been single, but I know he's looking for his special someone too. The sweet thing is that he is a virgin and wants to save it until he's married. I don't know why he hasn't found somebody, but I'm sure that he will.
I'm glad that this thread can turn into something positive and breakdown these stereotypes.
my partner and i have been together 38 years.1971 up to now.we met in high school.i loved him more than life...still do, on good days.lol.
I have known several gay couples that have been together for over ten years. Now that civil partnerships have been established in the UK I suspect we will hear of more.
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I know 2 gay couples who have been together for 30+ years. One couple met in college.... the other in the army.
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i know loads of couples who have been together 10yrs plus. and i just came out of a 13 year relationship myself. all the guy couples seem to have open relationships and all the female couples don't seem to have much sex to be honest. is it like that with long-term straight relationships? does the passion fade/die away leading to either infidelity, open relationships or no-sex marriages?
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i know a few people who have been in long term relationships, both the 2-3 years and 10+ years. first is my brother (i call him that even though we aren't really related) and his partner. they have been together for 2-1/2 years and just had their commitment ceremony earlier this year. and next is the oldest sister of my good friend. she has been with her partner for 14 years. they were married on november 1st, 2008, just 3 days before that horrible proposition 8 was voted into law in CA.
My uncle and his boyfriend have been together for 14 years now. Happily. :smile: Own a house together and everything.
