Do You Know How Attractive You Are?

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I grew up abused and have several issues with myself. Self imagine is non existent.

My wife says I'm attractive. I had posted a few select picture of myself in the gallery, and was told I was attractive by members(some I deemed attractive and interesting). It feels nice, but the glow does vanish and I feel that trying to conquer the
"empty spaces" which needs to be refilled often.

I took the pictures down, only because my wife is involved with local politics and it would not be a wise mix for people to accidently discover or otherwise know her photos of me were on display.
 

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I think men (generally) find me rather 'hard' looking, I've got quite a strong bone structure & I have my hair VERY short (cut like a mans) which seems to challenge peoples perceptions. Basically, I'm not exactly a fluffy girlie by any stretch of the imagination! However, I'm told I have beautiful, very expressive eyes & on a recent trip to Ireland several women made a point of telling me that I've got lovely eyebrows!!!!! (What's that all about?) I'm also told that I really do look quite a bit younger than I am. Presentation is important to me & I wont leave my flat without make-up on, so I do try to look my best at all times.
I've overheard men say variously 'I'm fed-up, not hard-up!' & 'I would!' about me when they think I cant hear them so I'm under no illusions that I'm not everyones cuppa. A lot of men think I'm a lesbian purely because of my short hair - that's stereotyping for you!
Despite, or maybe because of these reactions, I refuse to change my appearance simply in order to conform to others ideas of beauty. If they dont like it, sod 'em!
Also, I find that many of the women I see in magazines these days, all look the same, especially so-called celebrities. It's often the quirkyness of a persons look that appeals to me so that probably explains why I choose to present myself the way I do with what I've been given naturally.
Mostly, when I look in the mirror I see a face that I've become accustomed to and am comfortable with. It's getting a bit baggy/saggy in places, not perfect by a long chalk but it suits me.
 

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Excellent question, SP. I've thought about this a lot. I am terrible at judging male beauty, especially faces. I'm terrible at judging how good I look compared to other guys. I'm terrible at knowing what looking good gets me.

I think it has to do a little with feedback. People, especially women, in real life don't tell me how I look or that I'm in great shape. (To be fair, I don't tell many women that either.) And even if I get a compliment about my looks or some other ability, it's never followed by "therefore you deserve/can get..." So even if I get feedback it's hard to understand how to use that information.

Like some people said, they just go by what they can get...what kind of people they date, etc. Then they use that to estimate how good looking they are. That's probably the better way to do things. I do things backwards which doesn't work as well.

If you look at ratings of pictures, straight men and women tend to rate members of their own sex lower than the opposite sex. I always wonder what my female equivalent would be looks-wise. I just tend to think women are gorgeous and men are just so-so. I see other men and think they are good looking enough compared to me that their personality would be the deciding factor to women.

I just can't believe that women would get horny by seeing me the way I get horny by seeing a good looking woman. Part of this is probably because I haven't dated enough and had women tell me honestly their feelings.

So to answer the question, no, I don't know how attractive I am.
 

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hmm...i think i'm attractive. i look in the mirror sometimes and i'm usually pleased with what i see. i know if i had a better body and if i was taller (i'm like 5'6), i'd be a stunner though.
sometimes, i catch people looking at me or complimenting my on my eyes, or my smile....

geez, i really can't go on because i'm starting to sound arrogant, and i hate that in people..
 

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I'm a 9.5 according to a certain site...although most days I think I look quite 'plain'; not very attractive.

I suppose I am attractive to other people but not to myself...hmm.
 

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I'd like to answer you Jovial, but I can't I'm too horny from looking at you naked :)
Thanks, but on the Internet I never know how serious to take that. I think hearing it from someone in real life that I'm intimate with is the only way I can believe it.
 

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I must admit I never take net compliments seriously, if you're naked people are going to compliment you whether you look good or not. I'm not one for throwing compliments around so if I say I think someone looks good naked it's the truth :)
 

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I have had people express surprise when I tell them my age. They usually guess 5 to 10 years below my actual age.
You are blessed; because black don't crack.


I took down my avatar because someone said I looked like a man.
:eek::confused::eek: You have got to be kidding me! If you look like a man than I must be Be Arthur. :rolleyes:

 

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I think that I have had enough abuse when I was a kid to have issues on this. Children are cruel. I don't particularly find myself attractive.

You are a total STUD! A very handsome man... you might have had an awkward phase, but you turned into one tasty cup of Mocha!!!!!!