Do you know your neighbors by name?

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Do you know your neighbors by name?

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  1. earllogjam

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    There used to be a time where the community you lived had a great deal to do with your life, livelihood and well being. Neighbors looked out for each other and created a community - connected and conscientious.

    I wonder how the state of our communities and neighborhoods are now and what that means on a macro scale in terms of the state of things today.
     
  2. Shelby

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    It's still out there. You just have to look for it.

    I live in a small town in the Pacific Northwest where it's not at all uncommon to see small children out riding their bikes unsupervised. I know all of my neighbors and most of the people within a block or two.

    People stop their cars for pedestrians when it's not even a crosswalk.
     
  3. Blocko

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    I know some of my neighbours by name, the ones I don't are the ones who choose to keep to themselves. Some people are introverted no matter where you go. Or they run meth labs.
     
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  5. DC_DEEP

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    Most people generally associate "knowing the neighbors" with small towns and rural areas, and that's often true.

    However, I live in a very densely populated metropolitan area. When my partner and I lived in an apartment complex, we knew just one of our neighbors (we tried, but it seemed that most everyone didn't want any friendly neighbors.)

    Now that we bought a townhouse, we do know our neighbors, and socialize with them. There are 7 adjoined townhomes in our row. One on the end was abandoned earlier this year (I think they were "illegals" who fled the area), next to that one is a Chinese family that is reclusive, next to them is a Syrian family that I've tried to cultivate a rapport with, but they don't socialize. The next four of us homeowners actually do things together from time to time. Cookouts, working in the yard, that sort of thing. I take care of Jodie's house and cats when she's out of town, Steve & Joanna pick up my mail & newspapers when I'm out of town, Joanna and I went to a craft festival last Sunday to watch glassblowing and papermaking demos, Christine joined Jodie and Tawse and me last July 4th for cookout. If one of us is the first one out on a snowy morning, we usually shovel snow and sprinkle salt for the person next door.

    It's comforting to know that there are neighbors who actually DO care about you.

    Back to my Syrian neighbors - I've talked a little bit with the father, seems a nice man. I've taken fresh-baked bread to them a couple of times as a friendship offering. The mother sent me some home-made middle-eastern style cookies, and Mo (the father, short for Mohammed) sent over some Syrian-seasoned grilled chicken once. But the thing that made me happy was a couple of months ago; Mo was out of town. His wife knocked on my door, explained that their 7 year old daughter had left the dome light on in their van, and asked if I had jumper cables. Of course, I did, and got their van running in no time. I was glad she felt that she could trust me.
     
  6. earllogjam

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    I would think the smaller the town the closer you are to your neighbors while in larger cities it depends where and what type of place you live. I would think if you live in an apartment complex you are less likely to know your neighbors just on how the space is set up and it being rental housing which by it's nature is more transient.
     
  7. biguy2738

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    Thanks DC Deep, I wasn't sure if the term townhouse complex was a South Africanism...

    I live in a townhouse complex with about 36 units. As a trustee, I have gotten to know all of the owners/tenants in the complex. It is at a point where just last week, the one owner phoned and asked me if I'd mind welcoming her new tenants and explain the rules of the complex to them. I have become good friends with some of the people living in the complex, so we'll visit each other, help each other out etc.

    In general, everyone is very friendly towards one another. The times when there is a visible sign of community within the complex, is at our AGM's and whenever there is an emergency - I am blown away at how everyone present in the complex at the time of the crisis will rush out and assist wherever they can.
     
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    I live in a 15 story, 570 unit condominium building on the north end of lake shore drive (though once you pass a certain point they change the residential address to "marine drive"....bastards.) Any way, our buildings are subdivided into five separate towers, four of which look like they are one building but are only connected via a basement walkway so each tower floor is relatively small, and the fifth is a 5 story building across the street that the developer lumped into our association to get their parking garage. And, I'm also the Board President in my second term...glutton for punishment or masochist...you decide.

    Anyway, on my floor, in my tower there are 10 condo units and I'd say that I know most everyone by face and 2 by name. (I'm bad with names to begin with.) Jeff and Antonio are the guys I know the best becasue they are the other two gay boys and we see each other at our local watering hole every now and again. I knew my next door neighbor, a dog walker, but she moved in with her boyfriend and rented her unit to a horrible tenant. Now I wish I didn't know her.

    In my building, many people know me (I'm either the good guy or the bad guy depending on who you are talking too and on what issue) and I know plenty of the residents, but mostly just the trouble makers who I'm always trying to quiet down in board meetings or people who I've had to levy fines against for rules violations. Roustam, Ryan, Elizabeth, Edward, Kevin, Juan, Sonia, John...etc...
     
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    I use to know most of my neighbors but almost all have moved or passed away and the new people are rather busy with RL.

    This did change back in 2003 and we had a massive wild fire burning down into the main suburbs of San DIego.
    The neighbors rallied together as the fire jump the main highways and came barreling toward us... not the greatest way for a friendly “meet and greet”. ( my thanks to the brave firefighters who stopped it a half mile away from us.)
     
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    I know most by name, however they're all pretty old and tend to stay inside.
     
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    We've lived in the same mobile home park for eleven years.It's been great,everyone knows everyone.Good times or bad we're always there for one another.
     
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    I know 95% of my town. It's just the joy of living in a place where people are friendly. Maybe it's just in Canada.
     
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    I know most of the people in the segment of my road... which is quite a few people.
     
  14. Principessa

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    No, but I know their dogs by name is that weird? :tongue:
     
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    Interesting... I knew everyone in my community where I grew up. My family was pretty prominent and well-known.

    When I moved to go to school, I moved in a townhouse where I frequently hung out with my neighbors. We had "block parties" (they were in college, too), cookouts, etc. Likewise, we tried to help look after each other. Our parents, as well, where able to connect with the others and establish those types of relationships.

    Now, that I am married, my wife and I try to make those connections in our new subdivision, but sometimes we just don't. That is inpart because we don't necessarily agree with all our neighbors and likewise they with us. I remember when we built our house and the day we were moving in... blinds were being opened, people went out to "walk the dogs" just to see who we were. We are Native and we moved like "Natives." Family, relatives, friends -- EVERYONE helped us to move. It saved a fortune instead of us having to hire a moving company. Our neighbors thought we were Latino and well... were horrified that 15-20 additional people were helping us to move and were staying over really late in "their neighborhood." Shit, I should have played it and told all of them to spend the night. It was not like we did not have the room. haha Anyway, this was confirmed when we took gifts to our neighbors as a way to say hello. They thought we were ALL moving in... Assholes. For those... we say... the hell with you....

    For the others... we like 'em just fine. :)
     
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    All of the neighbors in our complex just had a BBQ this weekend. We all watch out for each other, get together almost every day. Mornings, we have coffee in the back yard of our downstairs neighbors, and help each other out with whatever needs done. It's a great feeling knowing that others are watching your back, living in a big city (Seattle) it's a good thing. When I take my dog to the park, I know the dogs in the neighborhood by name, but not really their owners. lol

    Peace
     
  17. Onslow

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    I know them
    They know me
    We gather round the willow tree
    with a knick-knack paddy whack
    Give a dog a bone--



    The point being I know them all. It's a choice to be made, either introduce yourself to them--just say hello--or find yourself in a time of crisis not knowing any of them. Even if you don't learn their names immediately, by acknowledging them with a simple hello or a wave of the hand they get to be familiar with you and that keeps the community going. Done this in larger cities and in small towns as well.
     
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    We know the neighbors mostly on a first name basis. I haven't been up to the neighbors place in three or so years when they asked me to cut up a fallen oak tree that was to big for them to handle. They are a couple, lesbians, that bought my brothers property and have been adding acreage over the years. At 29 acres we have one of the smaller properties at the end of a 2 mile dirt road, we are the last house. And the USFS and BLM have sections of land nearby. When the girls moved up I told them if they were seeking privacy this was the place.

    If a neighbor slides into the ditch, we help, if their roof needs shovelling because there is 4' of wet snow on it, we help, road work etc. but we don't have social gatherings or dinner with the neighbors, we respect each others privacy.

    When my brother, wife and kids lived in the house the girls are in now I visited with them once in a while at my shop and went years without formal visits, after all they lived just 200 yards from our house. Privacy, but call if you need help.
     
  19. rob_just_rob

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    I live in a condo tower. I know some of my neighbours by name, but I don't think I can be expected to know them all.

    I'm pretty chummy with the woman who lives two doors down - we get together for drinks now and then - but she's hot, so that's somewhat understandable.
     
  20. earllogjam

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    Yeah, I know my neighbors and have been over to dinner and some community meetings and such in the neighborhood. All very nice people. I know most of the gay couples on our hill and they are very domestic settled couples w/o kids. We had a fire on the street last year late at night and everyone came out to watch. That was the last time I saw all of them at once. No one goes out of their way to do anything for anyone however since we are all pretty well off and it is a quasi urban area. I would feel silly going next door to ask for some eggs or sugar. I do however buy Thin Mint Girl Scout Cookies every year from the kids down the street. Everyone respects each other's privacy which I like. I'm not sure I'd like to live in a small town where everone knew your business. I do feel at times that I live in a house and not a community.I don't have a strong connection to most of my neighbors other than a friendly hello.
     
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