Do you like to talk about your number of sex partners?

[malakos]

Only if they think that's a "high" number and feel somehow ashamed of it. Then I think "Oh, sweetie... you're so not even there yet. You're practically still a virgin!"

Interesting that it's the # of sex partners that counts rather than the # of times having had sex.

 

[Exbiker]

Of course some of us do. Mine is easy. I have a (short) list of all the people I've fooled around with.

I lost count around 1990.

I can only make very rough order of magnitude guesses now.

 

[nycbtm]

I for one get off on it, because I also enjoy being called a slut in bed (it's part of enjoying the feeling of being used in bed).

 

[Barberseville]

@Exbiker,

"I lost count around 1990". Is that the year 1990 or fuck partner #1990?

 

[Exbiker]

@Exbiker,

"I lost count around 1990". Is that the year 1990 or fuck partner #1990?

I think it's maybe around 6 or 700 ... not 2000... ;-)

But good point!

 

[Andrue]

@Exbiker,

"I lost count around 1990". Is that the year 1990 or fuck partner #1990?

I was gonna make the same point earlier

 

[linniejr]

If you have a partner, have you and your partner talked about the number of sex partners you have had?

I know some guys might get turned off if they knew a potential mate had an absurdly high number of partners, but for me it is just the opposite.

I get really turned on by the thought of being with a guy who has been with a whole lot of other guys. Like he has experience, but I know others might be different.

Yes, I've talked about the number of partners I've had prior to and with my former and then present partner.

 

[theplayerking]

Only three categories matter, because they illustrate how a person views sex:

1. Serial monogamists
2. Open to casual hookups
3. In to groups, sex parties, saunas, etc.

Within those categories, the actual numbers are academic and almost meaningless. If I go to a bathhouse and get sucked off by a few guys in passing, the number is not as important as the fact that I enjoy going to bathhouses and having group sex.

 

[Dirty Gay Mind]

Yes, I get where you are coming from. The guys who are in the third category are also much less likely to have any idea of what their precise number of partners is.

 

[Bunny35]

I hit around 200...stopped counting or caring. the old adage of quality over quantity is always true.

 

[sexynerd85]

only ever had a no more 15 3 of them where boyfriends and one of them is soon to be my hubby but when I was younger I was always out shagging or doing something

 

[malakos]

I hit around 200...stopped counting or caring. the old adage of quality over quantity is always true.

That it is! Part of the reason I haven't put in the effort into racking up a high #.

 

[OKCLane]

My bf and I have been together a year and a half, he's 31, i'm 29. We have discussed past sexual partners before, and i know he has been with more guys than me. But we had another recent discussion and he told me his number is around the upper 30s; mine is about a dozen. Also, he has been in a few threesomes and other adventurous sexual situations, where I have generally had 1:1 hookups and more monogamous relationships.

Do any of you think this difference is important, how would you feel if you had a lot less sexual experiences than your partner? And does it matter?

We have a fantastic relationship, and while currently monogamous, we have discussed opening it up. Part of me feels an intense jealousy, and part of me also feels regret as my mid twenties were spent in a mediocre monogamous relationship. Thoughts?

The number is irrelevant. There’s a gulf of difference between making love and having sex. Making love happens only in a one on one committed relationship (my opinion). Stick with your man. Fuck the past. Don’t regret what you can’t change, namely, the past. Embrace today and be thankful for every precious second.

 

[bwhip1011]

No. It's normally unnecessary.

 

[Beanie]

I’m a very private person (believe it or not) and I find it incredibly hard to share. Even mundane information with people, but my partner and I have a special relationship, if I am not honest with him, if I am not truthful to him, then why would I expect the same back. I am not ashamed of that past i have had, or the people I slept with, it was good at the time and it should be celebrated. I don’t dwel on the past because it will only bring you sorrow. The future is what needs to be focused on and that what I concentrate my energy on.

 

[aries303]

I never mention numbers nor ask about them.

 

[Thedrewbert]

We've been together 10 years and never bothered to discuss the numbers for either of us. Even if we had an accurate count, we know it's high on both sides and doesn't really matter.

We do discuss any notices added to the belt though

 

[nudeguy1958]

My husband and I have discussed this. We both can put the numbers on our fingers. We have been together for 18 years, 3 legally married. We have a good friend, we jokingly call slut, but monogamy isn't in his nature. It's interesting with him, he has a boyfriend for a couple of years, but they have a completely open relationship. Even when their together they have sex with other men together and singularly. My husband and I were completely monogamous for the first 5 years we were together, but decided to be a bit more open. However we never have sex with a man without the other one there.