Do you notice the little things?

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Like if we have our nails done, are our roots growing in, do we have spots, our cellulite or our funky toe nail? I think we women worry too much about the small stuff but maybe i'm wrong.
 

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Ok, I think ladies do worry to much about the small stuff, but the thing is, A LOT OF YOU DO IT to please the man (or significant other) in your life. Most of you ladies don't do it to please yourselves. You ladies are very giving that way. You like to look nice for other people. I try to notice the small things, the unfortunate thing is "you ask us" before we (guys) have slowed down enough to take a look. If I see a lady I don't know obviously she is not going to ask me what I think of her nails etc. I do try to pick out something to compliment her on, just to try and break the ice and start a conversation. It does make me feel bad if you gals beat me to the punch and ask before I have had a chance to compliment you.. That is me, not sure how other guys will respond...
 
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Yes, because I be touched lightly and tickled on my ribs by the fingernails, When I cuddle and scent hair, I look at ones face when am spoken too, and massage ones feet (now and then :) ) If you started looking and feeling like a hobbit, I would tell ye... my precious.

Ok, time out, off to the naughty corner.
 
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Every situation is different. If we do not notice the little things, it could be a sign that we do not care any more, or that we are secure and comfortable in the relationship. In fact, we think that these things are not important, but to many women, they are so important to their feeling of self-respect. And if these things are important to you, why should you not expect your partner to attach the same importance to them?
 

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I don't think i made myself clear in the question so firstly, i apologise. What i meant was do you notice the little imperfections? Our chipped nail polish, roots needing done, that spot on our ass cheek you know, the things women seem to make a big deal out of. I used to worry about it until i realised none of that little shit ever stopped me getting who i wanted to get. So really i mean do you notice and say nothing, or do you just not notice? Sorry for the confusion!
 
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Being imperfect is sexy. I understood every word you said. Even SHE was not immortal. Her age, imperfections and whatever have not dulled how I think about her. It's the same as for those we love.

I took my dad to the hospital a couple of weeks back for a CT scan , when we were checking out there were an elderly couple at the counter before us checking out of the x-ray section. My dad is 82, they were about 10 years older. They were not tall people, she was in a wheel chair, with an oxygen bottle attached, he was sorting and looking after the paperwork from a small bag he had around his forearm at the counter. Slow but confident in his movements. He spoke to his wife gently and kindly, and she to him. When finished he took his place behind her and they slowly walked away him pushing her wheelchair, it was his job, and as long as he could no-one else would dare do it. The thing that struck me the most, was the way they looked at each other, perhaps I'm a little more observant than most, but you could tell he looked at her, and she at him with the same eyes as though it was the first day they had met. I saw this most of my life because of the way my parents looked at eachother. I know my dad saw this too, even though mum passed away 12 years ago.

I suppose what I am trying to say here, is that we all know we grow older, we all know we have imperfections. But for those we love and care for, they will always remain immortal to us.

Yeah, I still remember Ursula this way, no matter what happens :) :)
 

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I don't think i made myself clear in the question so firstly, i apologise. What i meant was do you notice the little imperfections? Our chipped nail polish, roots needing done, that spot on our ass cheek you know, the things women seem to make a big deal out of. I used to worry about it until i realised none of that little shit ever stopped me getting who i wanted to get. So really i mean do you notice and say nothing, or do you just not notice? Sorry for the confusion!

I do notice it from time to time, but it's not an everyday occurrence. For example, if I'm giving her a foot massage (which happens fairly often) I'd notice a funky toenail. I've noticed chipped fingernail polish from time to time, but it rarely bothers me. The only time I think I'd ever mentioned it is when I know that she'd just had them done. Roots? My beard has some gray in it; why should I worry about mentioning her visible roots to her? She's probably already harder on herself than I could ever be.

What I do notice, however, is when she gets all dolled up, when she looks particularly nice, when she smells particularly nice, and when she tastes particularly nice. When that happens, I tend to fawn all over her.

If your guy is harping on the little things, lose him. Life's to short to worry about someone who always finds faults.
 

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Like if we have our nails done, are our roots growing in, do we have spots, our cellulite or our funky toe nail? I think we women worry too much about the small stuff but maybe i'm wrong.
Generally no. Sometimes I notice, but if its something that I think might be perceived as a bad thing I say nothing. Girls are crazy hard on themselves in most things, it seems. Or maybe guys are just too relaxed.
 

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Generally no. Sometimes I notice, but if its something that I think might be perceived as a bad thing I say nothing. Girls are crazy hard on themselves in most things, it seems. Or maybe guys are just too relaxed.

You were right first time. Women are really hard on themselves. Tbh i think it's because other women notice imperfection in them, not men. Guys are WAY more relaxed than us! Any imperfections i've noticed about myself, if i'd mention them, the guy seemed genuinely surprised.
 

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Like if we have our nails done, are our roots growing in, do we have spots, our cellulite or our funky toe nail? I think we women worry too much about the small stuff but maybe i'm wrong.

Very rarely. I think much more often than not, I just don't notice. It's not for lack of interest, I just miss details all the time. I'll notice a picture on the wall, ask when it was hung up, and hear that it's been there for a year.

When I do notice some imperfection or another, I don't usually say anything, with a note that I often find those imperfections attractive or endearing when they're on someone I love.
 

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If we are going to a special occasion, I appreciate the fact that the lady took her time to look special. But, on routine occasions, it is not important. The most important part is that she have pride in herself to present herself as best the occasion permits. I am sure that on the construction site, EllieP still looks great for the occasion. And Lovingit, your pictures show you are classy.
 

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If we are going to a special occasion, I appreciate the fact that the lady took her time to look special. But, on routine occasions, it is not important. The most important part is that she have pride in herself to present herself as best the occasion permits. I am sure that on the construction site, EllieP still looks great for the occasion. And Lovingit, your pictures show you are classy.
Yea, I would notice things like changed hair (either haircut or dyed hair) or being dressed up more than normal... but certainly wont notice chipped nail polish unless attention was drawn to it for some reason. I am too busy looking at your beautiful faces to be noticing imperfections on your nails.
 

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Oh ok. I do notice, but it can be what makes you special, or cute. I dated a gal for almost a year, that had one nipple that did not protrude from her breast as the other one did. She was very very self-conscious about it. I loved her just the same and would have married her in a minute. The little things are all about being natural, I love natural. I have to wonder what you are hiding if you can not be your self.
 

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I do not notice things like the chipped finger nails and little things which are insignificant. Cellulite is something which is natural and happens to everyone. What women can control is how much they end up with. My wife is a perfectionist and she is hardest on herself. I do notice her roots as they are hard not too see. But the little wrinkles, the chipped nails, the mascara which is just a shade out of sync from one eye to the next....I do not see it unless she says something. And believe me, she will say something. I believe my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, however she does not see herself that way in the mirror. Just as I do not think I am a very well endowed man, yet she says I am just fine for her. It is hard for both sexes to just accept how they are when they have to compare themselves with the unacceptable standards depicted in the media and movies and some of the stories posted here...
 

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I notice from time to time and appreciate the lengths some women go to to give a guy what they think they want. For me though, the imperfections are good things. Once dated a women that was extremely upset about a scar she had. I saw it more as a symbol of her life's struggle, she saw it as a massive deformity.

As for positive nuisances yup i notice every now and then with a following compliment. Then again i am a fan of the totally relaxed looked.
 

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I can't say I'm typical or atypical, but yes I notice those things which you call "imperfections," but I find many of those things quite attractive. Give me a woman with some lines around her eyes, or some salt and pepper in her hair--I'll take that over some taut and perky twenty-something any day. Don't get me wrong, I don't find youth offensive, but when I see a woman with stories behind her eyes, and the strength and insights which comes from living those stories, that's when I'm capable of becoming deeply aroused by her presence. I need my women to be interesting and complexed; and those "imperfections" which you speak of, I see as signs of that intriguing complexity.