Do You Oblige His Kinks?

LaFemme

Mythical Member
Staff
Moderator
Verified
Gold
Platinum Gold
Joined
Aug 16, 2010
Posts
41,930
Media
2
Likes
39,305
Points
743
Location
Canada
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Female
I have 3 hard limits. No choking, no anal and no cum in my mouth.
Yeah, when the hell did choking get so popular? Damn you porn! Damn you to hell!

See my simple limits are no anal, no choking (thanks for reminding me, Maddie!), no spanking/hitting/slapping. Spanking and all that triggers me. Then those off-the-wall ones...diapering a guy, etc. um, no thanks.
 

Tattooed Goddess

Worshipped Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Oct 17, 2007
Posts
14,088
Media
70
Likes
20,572
Points
668
Location
United States
Verification
View
Sexuality
60% Straight, 40% Gay
Gender
Female
I dont mind a hard barehanded ass spanking. Anything more is just too much. Porn got into choking and dudes dont even know how to do it properly. Every guy thinks he is 50 shades of grey when he puts his hand on her throat. Posers.
 

Scarletbegonia

Worshipped Member
Gold
Platinum Gold
Joined
May 2, 2013
Posts
8,335
Media
26
Likes
23,701
Points
508
Location
Purgatory (Maine, United States)
Sexuality
Asexual
Gender
Female
Okay- i just have no conception of looking at sex in that way-
if someone asks me to do something, its not manipulative if I say yes because I want them to have a good time.
If it excites them, and their excitement is what excites me, then its actually me getting excited, too, because my pleasure is founded in their's.

but then... no one has ever asked me to do anything really abhorrent in bed.
Maybe I've just been lucky in that regard.
What in my post implies manipulation? Other than if he made it manipulation, I’d be out?
My mantra is “relationships aren’t transactional.”
 

Scarletbegonia

Worshipped Member
Gold
Platinum Gold
Joined
May 2, 2013
Posts
8,335
Media
26
Likes
23,701
Points
508
Location
Purgatory (Maine, United States)
Sexuality
Asexual
Gender
Female
Do you have to pay for that?? I dont know if you can do that here in the UK

In the US, arrest and convictions are public record. A couple companies compile the info and for a small fee, you can search.
Very useful in my former life as a reporter.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Tattooed Goddess

palakaorion

Superior Member
Joined
Feb 20, 2010
Posts
1,766
Media
0
Likes
3,099
Points
268
Location
Dallas (Texas, United States)
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Gender
Male
A point made in passing upthread bears examination. One person's kink is another's fetish and yet another's vanilla.

Example: I grew up in a time when oral sex was "an unnatural act". You could be arrested for fellatio or cunnilingus. And anal intercourse? You had to get that porn "under the counter".

Nowadays oral is considered vanilla and you can't swing a cat without seeing anal in mainstream porn.

I'm of the opinion that anything mutually consenting adults do to get off is their business, even or especially if I'm not into whatever their deal is.
 

SoaringSpirit

Legendary Member
Joined
Jun 12, 2018
Posts
757
Media
0
Likes
2,037
Points
413
Location
Tampa (Florida, United States)
Sexuality
80% Straight, 20% Gay
Gender
Female
Yeah, when the hell did choking get so popular? Damn you porn! Damn you to hell!

See my simple limits are no anal, no choking (thanks for reminding me, Maddie!), no spanking/hitting/slapping. Spanking and all that triggers me. Then those off-the-wall ones...diapering a guy, etc. um, no thanks.
I am utterly turned off by choking & seeing pictures etc of it...unreal
 
  • Like
Reactions: 286798 and LaFemme

Sagittarius84

Legendary Member
Joined
May 16, 2018
Posts
2,197
Media
0
Likes
2,282
Points
158
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Yeah, when the hell did choking get so popular? Damn you porn! Damn you to hell
Its not just porn..there are a lot of women out there whom have reconciled and assimilated lots of contextual 'abusive' behaviors as part of their sexual process. Choking, being held down, slapping...all of these behaviors have been requested of me by my current wife or previous gfs, even though most had a disdain for porn or such behaviors being displayed in porn.
The closest to a 'logical' explanation provided was something about the ability of the dude to do harm, or rather his ability to demonstrate that capability without doing serious harm tickle the libido centers in these women by flaunting both the power and restraint of the man in question
 

Tight_N_Juicy

Mythical Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Oct 14, 2012
Posts
18,469
Media
154
Likes
65,020
Points
508
Location
U.S.A.
Verification
View
Sexuality
Pansexual
Gender
Female
Just speaking for myself, if someone slaps me? They're getting punched...

One man has had permission to slap me.

I live for the way he does it. It sends a shock through my body, and I clench down on him. He's only done it while inside me.

If anyone else in my sexual history had done it, I would have their balls in a jar.
 

Tattooed Goddess

Worshipped Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Oct 17, 2007
Posts
14,088
Media
70
Likes
20,572
Points
668
Location
United States
Verification
View
Sexuality
60% Straight, 40% Gay
Gender
Female
I dont care if someone wants to be choked or slapped or beaten with sand covered glass canes. As long as both parties are consenting adults. I'm not going to judge them if they are having a good time together. As long as everyone is of age, safe, sane and consensual and no animals are involved.
 

bmik

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jan 31, 2009
Posts
613
Media
77
Likes
5,228
Points
598
Verification
View
Sexuality
99% Straight, 1% Gay
Gender
Male
I dont care if someone wants to be choked or slapped or beaten with sand covered glass canes. As long as both parties are consenting adults. I'm not going to judge them if they are having a good time together. As long as everyone is of age, safe, sane and consensual and no animals are involved.

Yes that is a perfect way of saying it. We all have our own kinks. I like my ass played with during sex, I have been with women who like to role play, have their hair pulled, using toys. It’s about pleasuring your partner while also being respectful of everyone.
 

PlumTip

Superior Member
Joined
Aug 12, 2018
Posts
320
Media
110
Likes
6,007
Points
388
Location
San Diego (California, United States)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
I do like being slapped in the face sometimes and I told this to a girl. She reluctantly did it a few times and it was great but then she started liking it more than me and started doing it all the time. And really hard. I had to tell her to tone it down a bit.
 

Tattooed Goddess

Worshipped Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Oct 17, 2007
Posts
14,088
Media
70
Likes
20,572
Points
668
Location
United States
Verification
View
Sexuality
60% Straight, 40% Gay
Gender
Female
He dirty talks me like crazy while I wont break hard limits and he never tries to...I just want to please the fuck out of him in bed. He gives me endless orgasms so why not? He is bringing his A game. I'm bringing mine.
 

PlumTip

Superior Member
Joined
Aug 12, 2018
Posts
320
Media
110
Likes
6,007
Points
388
Location
San Diego (California, United States)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
Gender
Male
He dirty talks me like crazy while I wont break hard limits and he never tries to...I just want to please the fuck out of him in bed. He gives me endless orgasms so why not? He is bringing his A game. I'm bringing mine.
Sounds like a rad, healthy relationship. I'm jelly.
 
2

286798

Guest
I dont care if someone wants to be choked or slapped or beaten with sand covered glass canes. As long as both parties are consenting adults. I'm not going to judge them if they are having a good time together. As long as everyone is of age, safe, sane and consensual and no animals are involved.
+1

I have no interest in participating, but I am super not judgy about what others do. Have fun. Dont force your views on other. Be happy.