Do you put out on your first date?

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Every guys, or every guy you pick, dream date. Heh.
I would get to know men over the phone and internet for a little while before I would go on a date with them when I was single. And the whole purpose of the date was to see if they still seemed to be the dude I had already decided I wanted to fuck. I wasn't looking for love, just sex.
 

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nope, never have all my life. too much stds and such out there. not worth it in my opinion, plus didn't want the drama from it if it should happen.
Too many STDs? If you know someone a week or two longer, does that mean they no longer have the same risk of carrying an STD? This is illogical to me.
 

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Exactly AlteredEgo!!

But for the most part, I didn't. However my last "1st date" was a bit different. We had already started our "long distance relationship" 5 mos, before we physically met. Countless phone calls, cams and chats here and privately, were all part of our getting to know each other.

As soon as he arrived, I knew he was all I thought he was, and more :07:

The ride home from the airport was almost more than I could take. You think I was waiting past that 1st night?? OH HELL NO!! :biggrin1:
 

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Well, pandalicious - it depends. Depends on the guy, depends on my mood and depends on the chemistry. I've had long term relationships that started with sex on the first date (hell, within the first hour) and what I had hoped were going to be long term relationships where I waited a month and it ended after the first sexual encounter. I have no rules for when sex occurs - only that we use condoms til the test results all come back nice and clean for our exclusive relationship! :)
 

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Not usually.... Sex is a very intimate thing with me and so I don't just "do it" with anyone.

Also, I don't think that whether the sex is good or not should be a deciding factor in whether I want a relationship with someone. That's just too shallow for me. A relationship is about a hell of a lot more than sex.... Just my two cents...
 

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Do you put out on your first date?

Why bother with a "date"?:biggrin1:

But, seriously, folks, it all depends on the chemistry and the situation. Some guys are great "friend" material, and I have to weigh the risks of losing a friend vs. gaining a lover (did I say that right?). Some guys spring unusual requests, i.e., kinky sex, threesomes, etc., that I may not feel comfortable with on a first date.

One guy seemed particularly inexperienced, and we wound up dating three times before "putting out". This turned into a seven-year relationship.:smile:

Others seemed too selfish as the date continued, or just not compatible in some ways (I'm a little choosy, even as a beggar).
 
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That isn’t something I decide beforehand. I try to remain open to whatever happens. On the other hand, most often my answer would be no. In large part it depends on how well I know them.
 

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I do, though if I'm looking for anything beyond a one night stand, I really don't want a girl to do it. In the words of senor Shakur, "I don't want it if it's that easy."
 

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My wife put it very well once, and I agree: "why would I want to invest all that time and effort in building an emotional bond with someone, even possibly risk loving them, only to find out that that they aren't very hot in bed? That would suck..."[/QUOTE]

I actually feel the same way as your wife but I usually don't feel comfortable fucking the first time I meet someone

however, on rare occasions, I will have an instant attraction to a man, in those instances I can see myself having sex on the first date
 

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I rather do it after a few dates so I can get a jist of how promiscuous they are. sex with someone you know is so much more fun
 

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I don't understand the desire to spend a lot of time getting to know someone before you fuck them. It makes no sense to me at all.

Doesn't make me right and you wrong, or vice versa, just makes you & I very incompatible. And the world is big enough that it makes sense to find the right match

My wife put it very well once, and I agree: "why would I want to invest all that time and effort in building an emotional bond with someone, even possibly risk loving them, only to find out that that they aren't very hot in bed? That would suck..."

I don't buy that. its narrow minded. Sex COULD suck at first during the initial getting to know you phase, but then people may adapt, become COMFORTABLE, and juices start to flow even more.

there were a few times that a girl grew on me after the first "nice to meet you vanilla sex." The first time felt sort of awkward but once I got to know her we started giving each other porno names and getting into passionate and kinky fucking :)

It seems like feelings don't matter to anyone on this website. the world of quick fixes and reckless, empty satisfaction... BOO!