My wife said she has caught me mastrubating in my sleep, several times. Do you think that wet dreams are completely unabated or do you subconsiously help (with your hand)?
I never had a wet dream. I guess I can't wait long enough for it to happen!
You take things into your own hands before it happens?
In my experience, my 'little friend' does not receive or need any help from me. On many occasions I have woken up at the moment of truth and there was no motion or assistance of any kind going on, just a rising tide of sensation ... oh, and a mess afterward.
I think the more you masturbate the less likely you are to have a wet dream. I only get them when I haven't masturbated in a while.