I was just wondering, do you think a closet gay man can really live out his whole life as a heterosexual or does every gay male eventually give in or give up living life a lie? and how do gay guys actually marry and have kids without being in love with their spouses. And how do they pull it off for yearrs even? Can a gay man who does not want to live a gay life really just live a heterosexual one with no problems.. Any guys out there doing that ?? letss here how you do it?
Hi
buddy:
I've read 3 of the 7 pages of answers and decided since most were pretty much the
same that I would post my reply now...
I am BI, but if I used my Gay part, I think I can give my point of view too. I would say
YES, because it has been done by millions without being discovered...or as far as we
know.
I had an active sex life with both men and women before I met, fell in love, married a
wonderful lady, and became a father. Never once did I ever stray and have sex or
have a relationship of any kind with either a male or female while we were married. I
lived and led a completely straight life during that time. I won't say that my eyes did
not stray occasionally when I saw an exceptionally handsome man or beautiful woman,
but I never acted out on those feelings. I would have never disrespected my wife or broken our wedding vows.
I have been in a committed relationship with another BI male for over 20+ years and I
have not once strayed during that time. I love him as I did my wife, and even though
I do enjoy looking and engaging in friendships and chatts, etc. with others, including
Gays, I would not take it any further.
I have Gay friends who are married and are fathers, I know they love their wives and
families very much, and all have led completely straight lives with no problem. I know
them well enough to know that none of them will ever stray or act out on their Gay
urges as long as they are married. Of course I only know the guy's side, on the most
part, and don't know if there are problems that I am not aware of, but I think I know
them well enough that they would share it with me if there were problems.
However, I have other Gay friends, also married, and some also fathers, who live two separate lives unknown by their wives....one as a straight husband and father, and the other as a fully active Closeted Gay. I don't know how they do it...I couldn't. Others I know have long ago divorced and never looked back.
So, yes, it can be done, but I think you have to be a very special person to be able to
do it.