do you think its odd for a bf/hubby to buy you an XL toy?

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  1. 7_incherT

    7_incherT New Member

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    just wondering what gos through a girls mind when her bf or hubby suggests getting her a toy much larger than himself? weirded out? excited? worried about loosing sensation with him? just wondering cuz i asked my gf a few months ago and she was into it but said she had never been with a guy that wanted to see her with somethng bigger
    thanks for any input
     
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    Mine bought me a toy years ago that was much larger then he was. He had no problem with us playing with it and I enjoyed it...till the itching started...my first experience with a latex allergy! :frown1:
     
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    I don't think it's odd at all. If that's your fantasy, seeing her play with a big toy, then go for it... Personally, I wouldn't judge a bf who told me about a fantasy like that and would do my best to accommodate him as best as I could.

    That said, if you're talking about a truly ridiculous sized toy, then be prepared for a firm "No". ;)
     
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    As long as he had my pleasure in mind, I would love it! *hint, hint*

    Besides, all of the items we have played with were larger than he is at his, "I could hammer nails with this bish" hardest - by a few inches in both length and girth. So, not worried about not feeling him or whatever, would just be ecstatic about the new toy.
     
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    Curious though, and Id say the OP is too, do you still feel good sensation with him after a 20min session before you fuck. And do you find yourself wishing he'd put the toy back in.

    Id bet that if theres not much difference, then no, but if its a good bit bigger, does this make you wish"Oh put the toy back in"

    My honey likes toy s as much as the next girl, but is stern that, the toy just isnt the same as a warm, hard throbbing cock with a guy you really like doing the driving.
     
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    Roger that!
     
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    I'd agree with your honey. I'd rather a 6" guy than a 10" inch toy any day.

    My FB actually bought me a toy recently. But it wasn't quite as big as him - slightly smaller in girth. I was overjoyed that he'd bought me a present, but then I like toys.
     
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    I'd wonder if he lost his mind because I'm not interested in any size larger than him and he knows that. If he told me that it would turn him on, I'd indulge him as best as I could, but I wouldn't be into it.
     
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    I prefer the smaller toys so that's what he gets for me. and ototally off topic, I want to get him a Fleshlight for Christmas :) I have quite a few toys and he only a few.
     
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    Finally got around to taking my baby to the store to pick out a toy with her. She didn't want to go above 7.5" *shrug

    Fine with me so long as that's what she wants! :)
     
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    I'm at a point where some of my older toys are too long. Except for a week or so out of the month, I can't take hem all the way, and that suits me just fine. Most of the time, my husband is a perfect fit. I don't want that to change. I wouldn't be into getting new toys much longer than six, maybe seven inches. I'm open to girths larger than my husband though, up to about 6 inches.
     
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    Not long after meeting my wife for the first time she showed me her toy collection - they were all enormous in girth and pretty big in length. She said she'd never had a man as big, but had always preferred big vibrators and dildoes.
     
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    There's a difference, however, I can go from a large toy, or cock, to an average one without missing a beat. Indeed, my current boyfriend followed two of my biggest partners - one almost as thick as my wrist - yet I was still able to squeeze and pull him in without issue. Pussy control - it's a wonderful thing. :biggrin1:

    Regarding my satisfaction. The toys are quite a bit larger, but he's also not as girthy as the three fingers he gives me when licking my pussy, and I still want to feel his cock after. Each form of penetration feels different, and I know when he enters me I will be getting the warm, throbby, thrusty, and juiciness that a toy can't provide. Which is why I use toys to enhance my sex life, not attempt to supplant good dick.


    :arms: Wonderful to read you both found a good toy!


    If you are gifting, 8.5" and girthy, please. :smile:
     
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    thanks for the input everyone. my lady just said get something you think ill have fun with so i came home with this :)
    WF STAR PERFORMERS MAIN ATTRACTION COCK 10" by: Topco Wild Fire - Discreet Romance Adult Sex Toys Store
    she likes it and is willing to try it so i hope it gos well for us both... were very open with eachother and comforable with eachother sexually so im glad it wasnt awkward when the idea came about but i was just wondering what other ladies think and possibly a little bit of a window into what my gf thought when i brought up the idea.
     
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    For some of us most toys would be bigger anyways.


    It's good that you asked her first. Just showing up with it out of nowhere might have thrown her off.
     
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    I'd buy a dildo or vibrator for a woman - even if it was bigger than me. It's all about wanting her to have joy and pleasure.
     
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    In gay porn they wrap the toy in a condom in case they wanna shove it in the other guy later in the scene... or just for easy clean up. You could use a non latex condom and it would effectively avoid the issue I imagine. Its not like the toy is going to bitch because it cant feel you:biggrin1:

     
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    No ... I have a huge dildo that is thicker and longer than my ex-hubby's 10x7, and it is just that, a toy strictly for playing. I prefer the real thing for the ultimate satisfaction.

    I have brought that dildo on business trips and you should see the look on the TSA agents face when they see it through the xray machine or manual search! Hey, a girl's gotta stay satisfied!
     
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    I picked up a cyberskin dildo that was nearly identical to my size so my girl can feel filled up when Im not around. She was extremely appreciative when I gave it to her before I went out of town for two weeks on work.

    I suppose if your sporting a small wiener; yes, it would be weird to get your partner a giant fake dick without some sort of discussion beforehand.
     
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    As dumb as it sounds, I would appreciate a guy who would buy me a sizable plaything. Demonstrates his security, plus it would be fun to play with alone/extra fun to play with in his company. :redface:
     
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