Do you think who you find attractive is learned or innate?

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Imprinted. David Cassidy imprinted himself all over me. And he still could if he wanted to. :biggrin:

Still, I believe it. Crushes on different guys, TV shows, older boys at school, movies, people who were nice to me. Certainly no one who reminds me of my dad! It's why I am not attracted to any older men at all - if there is even a hint of daddy about him, I'm completed icked out. This is getting complicated, because I'm getting older too. I may be headed towards a whole lot of alone.

I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. I like who I like and there's no reason to dissect it and analyze.


i went to high school for a year with david cassidy. he was a boarding student at solebury school. can't remember if it was my junior or senior year. 73 or 74. i never had a class or chat with him. the school was not a good choice for him at all.

i'm with hoss. i like who i like who i like.
 

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i went to high school for a year with david cassidy. he was a boarding student at solebury school. can't remember if it was my junior or senior year. 73 or 74. i never had a class or chat with him. the school was not a good choice for him at all.

:chairfall: (chairfall for fainting, not laughing!)

That's what he said in his autobiography! (I'm sooo envious....)
 

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I just had a complete flashback! lol

Patrick is indeed a heartthrob - probably the best looking of the Cassidy men, but he is not the youngest. Yes, there is yet one more Cassidy - Ryan.

Here is a family shot. Ryan looks a lot like Patrick, so he's very good looking, too. But the young David - at times, he was almost beautiful.

When Patrick & David were on 'Ruby & the Rockits' on ABC a couple of years ago - I actually taped it for old times sake. Who cared that the show sucked? I just wanted to see those guys! :biggrin1:

I meant to say "younger" not "youngest" I'm having wine. David just never rocked my world. I remember the Rolling Stone cover... and it may or may not be the first time I said "Whatever!" Rolling Stone's Biggest Scoops, Exposs and Controversies Pictures - David Cassidy Rejects Bubblegum Image | Rolling Stone
 

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Anyway, I still have a weakness for long-haired, brunette musicians with a kind of raspy, sexy voice. *sigh*

Betcha didn't know Charles Manson was a musician did ya. lol

Earl I just saw your post about Shaun Cassidy pillow cases. Would you like me to silk screen a modern adaptation for you? This attachment is more or less what I was trying to convey by time and experience in my earlier post.

Well, that was a splash of icy cold water to the face! :eek: He hasn't aged very well to say the least.
 
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Betcha didn't know Charles Manson was a musician did ya. lol



Well, that was a splash of icy cold water to the face! :eek: He hasn't aged very well to say the least.

If it makes you feel any better I've aged fabulously and thanks to you have had a scathingly brilliant idea for "nudyorker pillowcases"... I shall send you the prototype.
 
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Betcha didn't know Charles Manson was a musician did ya. lol



Well, that was a splash of icy cold water to the face! :eek: He hasn't aged very well to say the least.


:eek: indeed! In fact, :eek22:!!!!!

Charlie & the family is why I was scared of hippies as a child - see one too many newscasts....and yikes! Shaggy headed peeps wearing jeebus sandals and little LaFemme gets nightmares!
 

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I meant to say "younger" not "youngest" I'm having wine. David just never rocked my world. I remember the Rolling Stone cover... and it may or may not be the first time I said "Whatever!" Rolling Stone's Biggest Scoops, Exposs and Controversies Pictures - David Cassidy Rejects Bubblegum Image | Rolling Stone

Ah, yes ... with the Annie Leibowitz pics.
And she supposedly took some full nudes ... but where did they go?
Still in Annie's files?
Did they ever surface?
 
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For me, definately learned. For example, once I had a thing for blondes, then I dated one, and I got that out of my system. They don't make my heart beat as fast as they once did. The same cycle has revolved through different types of people...each time my past experience shapes my preferences. Most of the time, my interests forge new ground in terms of my preferences...and in thinking about who I am attracted to, I definately don't think I'm shaped by popular culture at all (in fact, I might not seek-out the popular choices just because they are so popular).
 

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:eek: indeed! In fact, :eek22:!!!!!

Charlie & the family is why I was scared of hippies as a child - see one too many newscasts....and yikes! Shaggy headed peeps wearing jeebus sandals and little LaFemme gets nightmares!

All the more reason to have a David Cassidy pillowcase to keep you safe at night. :tongue:

I was sort of counting on that as part of my marketing plan.

FYI...Drool stains on pillows surprisingly look like cum stains but not as stiff.

For me, definately learned. For example, once I had a thing for blondes, then I dated one, and I got that out of my system. They don't make my heart beat as fast as they once did. The same cycle has revolved through different types of people...each time my past experience shapes my preferences. Most of the time, my interests forge new ground in terms of my preferences...and in thinking about who I am attracted to, I definately don't think I'm shaped by popular culture at all (in fact, I might not seek-out the popular choices just because they are so popular).

I'm much the same especially in my experience of having sex with guys I now find attractive who are not white. The variety of guys I find sexually attractive seems to expand as I grow older. I also am rarely attracted to men who are deemed attractive by popular culture like you.
 

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I never really thought of it.. but I'd say mine is more primal and innate... It is just a part of who I am... for I was not "conditioned" to find men of different cultures and races as attractive... but I DO... oh yes I do...

I can find beauty in almost everything... regardless of color, culture, nationality...
 

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Hmmm. I think, for me, it started out as innate. Now, I think my preferences have been shaped over time by my own experience and things I have come to consider important.