Do You Think You Could Love Someone For [All Your Life]?

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  1. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    Do you? Are you halfway there?

    It's just, I actually think I could. :smile:
    There is one special person. She makes me all giddy and...thoughtful :biggrin1:

    Would anyone like to discuss?
     
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    I think you can love someone all your life, but that the nature of that love changes over it's course, it usually doesn't maintain the urgency you feel for the first few years but settles into something slower but deeper where you know one another intimately. You have to work at a relationship to keep the love alive and weather the rough patches instead of running at the first sign of trouble.
     
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    Yes, I think I could. :smile:
     
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    Do You Think You Could Love Someone For All Your Life?
    Yes, absolutely. I can say that without hesitation as I am prone to long episodes of serial monogamy.
     
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    Yes I do, and I doubt anything will change when I am 80+

    I have already been steadily in love with him for 20 years

    x

    Honey
     
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    By halfway there I meant around 40, assuming average life expectancy of course :tongue:

    And she knows who she is :smile:
     
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    Isn`t that everyones goal? To find that special someone who you can grow old and horny with, lol. I`m banking on it since a womans labbito increases with age. lol



    lafever
     
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    I both think, and hope so. Although, I haven't loved anyone yet...
     
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    Yes.... unfortunatly it will never go anywhere becuase he is gay.
     
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    I'm quite sure I could but I'm also very sure that the reason I love them will be everchanging overtime. The problem comes with others, though. Homosexuals my age don't want anything lasting. They want to act stupid and catch something, then settle down in their mid-30's.
     
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    I think I could love more than one person for my whole life. I think love doesn't have to be limited to one person, unless it's what both of you want. Love is bigger than any two people.
     
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    I have never been in love before and I am on my second marriage. I have a love for my spouse, though it is not a hot, burning love. Its more of a love friendship.

    I believe people fall in love all the time, some stay that madly in love for the rest of their lives, sometimes it fades.

    Perhaps, one day I will meet that man who makes my heart melt and with whom I will love forever.
     
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    Not to be rude, but why do you keep marrying people you don't love? Sounds to me like you are afraid to be alone. :frown1: :confused: :redface:

     
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    I have a "love friendship" relationship with the guy I had the longest term relationship with. I know exactly what you mean.

    I have found only one guy who I think I could love the way people talk about love being... unfortunately, he was already happily married to someone else when I met him. Nothing happened between him and me beyond just platonic friendship. But I'm always wishing I could've met him before he met his wife.

    Maybe I will find someone else who fits what I am looking for as well as he did (and hopefully this time he'll be single!) Maybe not, though, and that is an increasing possibility. It saddens me, but the only thing I can do about it is to just get out there and try to meet as many people as I can, and work on the shyness and self-confidence issues I have, and see what happens.
     
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    16 years and counting!At this point I can't imagine my life without my wife.
     
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    Though I understand your thinking, I do not fear being alone. It was my choice to divorce my first husband, thus being alone. I met a man who is very kind, loving, stable, who is madly in love with me. We have been married for four years. I married for reasons which I believe benefit my children. Of course, some will understand my reasoning others will not.
     
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    I'm not there and I don't know your situation. More importantly I am not God and therefore am not in a position to judge. I just find it extremely odd.:redface: :confused: I hope things continue to go well for you and your children.
     
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    I most certainly believe I can love someone for the rest of my life. I had a good example. My parents were very much in love. My Dad died, not to long ago and way too young, just over a year ago (He was only 64 and had a surprise heart attack, surprise meaning he had no heart disease and the docs still wonder why he had the heart attack after swimming that morning). Had he been alive last August, my parents would have been married for 40 years. My parents knew each other since my Mom was 12 and her family moved to Chicago.

    So, I'm gay and 37 now. I know it won't happen the way it happened for my parents. And still I believe I can love someone for the rest of my life quite happily. I'm still seeing the same guy I mentioned on another thread. And he's the best prospect ever. Who knows? It's only been two months and yet, there's something about him that hasn't been like any of the others... :rolleyes:
     
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    I have been in love, and married, for over half of my life, I am 58. We got together in 1974, married in 1975.

    My wifes parents were married over 60 years before he died, my parents were married in 1945 and are still together. Were these two couples in love when they got married and still in love after 60 plus years? We'll never knowbecause their view of privacy is different than ours so they don't talk about it.
     
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