Do you think you will marry?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by rob_just_rob, May 30, 2007.

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Do you think you will marry?

  1. I'm married now, but wouldn't do it again if this one ended.

    9.9%
  2. I'm married now, and would remarry if this one ended.

    9.9%
  3. I'm married now and wish I wasn't.

    0.7%
  4. I'm single and want to marry someday.

    28.2%
  5. I'm single, but cannot legally marry the person of my choice.

    12.0%
  6. I'm single and I don't know if I want to get married.

    16.9%
  7. I'm single and I definitely don't want to marry.

    14.8%
  8. I'm divorced/widowed/widowered and would like to remarry.

    4.9%
  9. I'm divorced/widowed/widowered and would not like to remarry.

    6.3%
  10. I like the smell of fresh bread.

    20.4%
  1. rob_just_rob

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    Pretty simple question on its surface.

    Anyone is welcome to answer. If you're already married, and it ended due to death/divorce, would you marry again? If you were married, and are no longer married, would you do it again? If you're single, can you see it happening?

    If no, why wouldn't you? Local laws count as a reason, although hopefully that won't be an impediment forever.
     
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    I have never thought that I would marry.I just never saw myself as the type of guy that my married friends transformed into after giving up their single status.I'm used to having total freedom and marriage means making compromises.
    Some of my friends said they set out to get married because it's what's expected once you start work.I've never gone along with what other people expect me to do.
     
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    By the time I made it to 30, I knew that I'd never get married. I like my freedom and independence.
     
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    My first three wives died from eating poison mushrooms,the last one died from a broken neck,she didn't like mushrooms!
     
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    I'll marry if the person I love wants to, but it doesn't appear on my own agenda at all. If I love someone a piece of paper won't affirm or strengthen that, but I'm all for a celebration of our relationship, if that's the perception I have to use to be convinced. :tongue:

    I do however want children, very much so. :redface:
     
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    I'm married now but if it ends badly I'll have my cock re-attached and make a porn film.
     
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    right now i am legally single and morally married, but if this relationship does not work out i am not sure if i could do it again with a man or a woman
     
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    I honestly hope so.

    I've got MAJOR trust issues with people, and have a nasty trait that expects the worst out of everyone. This is why all relationships I've been in have fallen apart, and why I'm reluctant to totally expose my true self to anybody in the world. If I marry someone, it means that I have found someone that I can truly trust in the world, and that I'd be willing to sacrifice my freedom for.
     
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    No. Never. Definitely not. :rolleyes:
    Marriage leads to divorce, from what I've seen. So though once in awhile I still crave the 'fairy tale', I know its not in my future.
     
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    I am happily married, and would not enjoy being remarried. Suffice to say I have the perfect women, whom has my heart completely.
     
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    i don't know if i could marry because it will be hard for me to be monogamous for the rest of my life.although with the right woman this should be no problem.
     
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    Married - can't see it ending so I have no idea if I'd go again if it did end - it would depend entirely on how and when, I suppose.
     
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    I used to want to get married. I don't think I will anymore. It just doesn't seem like something I want at this point in my life and the chances that I would find anyone that I would even consider worth marrying also seem very slim. Even if I did meet someone that I felt like I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, it's hard for me to see the point in actually marrying them. If I'm single and bored when I'm in my 40s or 50s and the global economy is roughly the same I may buy a wife from Moldova or Vietnam. Maybe one of each.
     
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    I think I'll get married some day, when I meet someone who meets my standards for marriage.
     
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    Maybe; we'll see.
     
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    Gee, thanks rob. You left my status out of your poll!:biggrin1:

    I've been with my partner for 6 years (so I'm not single), and we cannot legally marry. Even if that option were available to us, I'm not sure we would. It would certainly help to have the legal/financial benefits of marriage, though. If we had been able to file our federal taxes as "married filing jointly," the IRS would have gotten approximately $5000 less from us.
     
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    I like the idea of marriage.:rolleyes:

    I mean, who else is going to cook me dinner?:tongue: :biggrin1:

    All joking aside, I really like the idea of marriage. It seems rather romantic in it's own way. Personally, I have a few ideas of who I am gonna marry and how it will be done, but I am open to all possibilties. I know it won't happen for another few years, but I would like to be married by 30, just because.
     
  18. rob_just_rob

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    Thanks for voting and posting. It's interesting especially to see the reasons cited by each poster.

    As for me, I think there might be a "marriageable window" for people - say 2-10 years after one first moves away from home. Most of us grow up in a shared living arrangement with parents, siblings, and perhaps other relatives. Sometimes we live with roommates at a university dorm or apartment after that. In all these cases, we become accustomed to the presence of others in "our" household, and spend a lot of time compromising, sharing responsibilities, and so on.

    And eventually, we move out on our own. No need to compromise with anyone else on what colour to paint the living room, what to have for breakfast, or when to go to bed. No one to split the vacuuming with or do the dishes after you've cooked dinner. And I think we grow accustomed to that. We become "set in our ways" as my mother would say. We're not prepared to repaint the living room or stop spending all our extra money on motorcycles, Bordeaux or gambling because our spouse has other preferences .

    At the same time, we date progressively more and more people. Most people start dating in their teens. By the late 20s, many of the singles among us have dated dozens of people. The idealism of the late teens disappears, replaced by a realism (I won't say cynicism :wink: ) that comes from experiencing the peccadilloes of many former partners and the unhappiness that comes from a failed relationship or relationships.

    When I was 23, I could see myself marrying the woman I was with. I now "know" that would have been a mistake. Or do I just think this because of all the other failed relationships I've been in - maybe my 23-year-old self would have made it work?

    As for right now, I wonder if marriage is in the cards. There are so many more factors in play now - being willing to change and compromise after years of living alone, being willing to take a chance on someone being "the one" after years of dating Ms-not-the-one's, and financial issues.
     
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    Honestly, I don't know if marriage is right for me....well, right now, anyway. It's hardly a thought in my mind. I turn 19 in July and I'm stil enjoying being "young and stupid". I notice a lot of my peers are getting married pretty young and, statistically, those marriages rarely last very long. I wouldn't mind being married, it's not like I'm against the idea - I just don't want it right now. Maybe when I'm around 30, or even my late 20s, I'll be married.
     
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    I'd like to get married some where down the road. Hopefully not too soon (at least, oh about 7 years), but no one can say for certain.
     
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