I am trying to understand what swinging is? A few years ago I was in conversation with a dude at work and he asked me what it was like to be out as a gay man. Somehow the conversation changed somewhat and he indicated that he considered himself neither gay, straight, bisexual or asexual, but rather he considered himself to be a swinger. A short time later he moved out west and therefore i was unable to ask him more. I have wondered do all swingers in a group have to have the same sexual orientation? Do the participants usually know each other and are they generally couples in other aspects of their lives?