Do your friends have good sex lives?

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  1. Jovial

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    Do your friends/neighbors/relatives/acquaintances have good sex lives?

    It sometimes sucks being single, but then again I know that a lot of people in relationships have bad or no sex, so I don't feel so bad. It seems like a lot of couples get bored and out of shape after a few years and the amount of sex goes down. I don't know a lot of couples though, so I'm asking for your opinion here. Do you really know that many people that have good or great sex lives, single or attached?

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    The majority of my friends are married, some of them are very open about sex and we have a good laugh talking about it and what they say about their sex lives is that they're good and varied, others of my married friends aren't quite so open about sex although they're not incredibly uptight, the little things they let drop lead me to believe their sex lives are a little infrequent and dull. Of my single friends one is a huge slapper who's probably had sex with most of the guys in Windsor, the others their sex lives vary considerably.
    When I was married the one part of my marriage I was happy with was our sex life, it was frequent and we never got stuck in a rut.
     
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    As a matter of practice, I do not general discuss sex lives with friends. There are a few with whom this a topic of conversation. Most married, guy friends of mine enjoy being regaled with the latest tales of my involvements/hook-ups while not speaking of their own married sex lives.
    One couple I know is in their late fifties but are actually really attractive people. Think Samantha and Richard from Sex & The City. They talk freely of their viagra/coke/pot/drunk fuck fests and have asked me for years to join them and even record things on cam. She and I had a thing about fifteen years ago but are still friends and has even put me in the will. lol. But I digress. With my single guy friends of course we talk as in "I did this HOT chick..." and details follow with congratulations.
    I have one married friend who happily lets me know when he and the mrs. fucked like crazy. It's not that often though, like every two-three weeks.
     
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    ?? I have good friends. I have a good sex life.

    But to answer your question does not require that I know the details of my friends' sex lives (which, to be honest, I am not all that interested in). It simply requires that I be friends with people who, like me, can manage one way or another to have good sex lives. Right?

    Is this what you are asking? Whether my friends, like me, are people who can manage to have good sex lives?

    If so, I wonder whether there might be another question lurking behind yours.
     
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    BTW Jovial, that is a fantastic strip show you have in your gallery. For the record, none of my friends have managed that, but I am going to recommend it as an ice breaker.
     
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    My two best friends, Tom and Ben, are both my age (28) and both are still virgins. Tom had a girlfriend at one point, about ten years ago, and has gone out with other girls, though whether or not those other outings were official "dates" is questionable. Ben, on the other hand, has never had a girlfriend and has only asked out one girl in his life.

    I don't talk to many of my neighbors or family members about their sex lives, so I don't know what's going on with them.

    As far as acquaintances, some of the people at this website seem to have pretty healthy sex lives.

    Also, all the girls that I've gone out with in the past have had amazing sex lives. While they were still seeing me.
     
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    • Of the gay couples I know, they all have good sex lives.
    • Of the married straight couples, 2 are still active sexually. One is not; but then again he never had an interest in anything but oral and she hates to receive. Do not ask me why they have stayed together 22 years! Your guess is as good as mine. :rolleyes::tongue::confused:
    • My single female friends, are in worse shape than me as far as men and sex are concerned.
    • I do not discuss sex with any of my family members, single or otherwise; this includes cousins.
     
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    Not many at all.

    I don't ask friends, neighbors or relatives about their sex lives, either blatantly or indirectly but I do keep my ears open for the occasional comments, jokes or complaints that slip out on that topic. The news ain't good. My conclusion: Based on the evidence I overhear, most are bored silly with their partners or just not having much sex at all.

    Just my observation.
     
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    It doesn't have to be friends that you actually talk to about sex.

    I know a couple that's been together 10 years, but I just get the feeling that they don't have much sex. I could be way off. They could just keep things to themselves. Another younger kid I know has a girlfriend but I just don't think he really goes wild sexually. In these cases it's just speculation based on the amount of affection I see. I don't want to ask if they have sex or how often. They would just lie if they didn't have sex.

    I've also heard friends tell me of couples that have been together a while and don't have sex, but for some reason they couldn't break up.

    I guess the reason I ask is because there seems to be societal pressure to be in a relationship. And a lot of people would rather stick in a sexless relationship than risk looking weird to friends and relatives. And I guess I am trying to make myself feel not so bad about being single currently.
     
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    It seems to me that relationships have a predictable cycle. Most couples have passion and electricity when they first start dating. Then, they get really good at satisfying each other and are comfortably familiar being in each others company. After a while, things start getting commonplace and they don't have sex that often. Next thing you know, they are frustrated, and either masturbating or looking for action on the side, but sex has become boring and nonexistent with their partner. They ultimately break up and start over. I've seen this happen time and time again, and observed that the amount of time for the cycle to complete varies from couple to couple.
     
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    Thanks! Glad you like it. :biggrin1:
     
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    I really don't know...I am not there nor am I into threesomes. People can say they do all they want, but you never know what goes on behind closed doors. I never really discuss the subject with people I know...that is why I'm here!:biggrin1:
     
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    I agree. I also see that pressure put on singles, just like I see pressure put on childless couples to have kids. It happens so often at family gatherings and parties and such: offhand comments about how lonely it must be to live alone, thinly veiled sarcasm about selfish singles and materialistic couples without kids, patronizingly sympathetic offers to hook up the "lonely" single with a nice person from the local church, etc.

    I didn't like it when it happened to me. I don't like it when I see it happen to others.
     
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    I think that my two brothers and my one str8 male friend who are all married have fairly good sex lives seeing as how they are still happily married ...

    but really this is not a subject I actually ever discuss with friends, acquaintances or neighbours in real life ... altho' I do suspect that they are not entirely happy in that regard ...
     
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    Maybe I should fly out west so we can commiserate together . . . . :wink:

    I finally got one of my cousins off my back about 14 years ago by being as bitchy as she is.:biggrin1: A tact I to which I rarely resort.:wink: This occurred over the Thanksgiving dinner table:

    Cousin Bitch: Christ girl when are you getting married? What's the matter with you? I know you ain't no lessie.
    Me: I then looked her dead in the eye and said, "Why should I rush out and marry any ol' man? So I can be as miserable as you are. :mad:

    It was at that point, she realized that I knew she had been cheating on her husband of less than a year. :biggrin1::smile::cool:
     
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    i know like to people who have sex on like a daily basis and i dont think anyone else i know have a relations ship or anything else that they are happy with.
     
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    I never discuss the sex lives of anybody else (I get enough of that here!) :tongue:

    As far as mine... well I'm coming up to the 7 yr mark with my s/o... and the sex is still good. Not as often as I'd like (he's out of town a lot for his work) but he still rings my bell.

    The key is ADVENTURE! Fantasy! Explore!

    B WILD...

    :tongue::tongue::tongue:
     
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    "I guess the reason I ask is because there seems to be societal pressure to be in a relationship. And a lot of people would rather stick in a sexless relationship than risk looking weird to friends and relatives. And I guess I am trying to make myself feel not so bad about being single currently."

    Sorry Jovial that you are feeling less than about being single. Yes. There is societal pressure for single guys to get married, buckle down, have the job, wife and kids. I know this very well being 36 and single. I would love to have the wife and kids. That is a deeply seeded desire of mine and I have tried and tried but it has not worked out to date. And I have been in relationships that have ended up with not much or good sex which is why I ended them. In lieu of settling I have embraced being a single guy that paties a lot, much to the consternation of 'society'. I don't know if they are pissed off that I am not married wtih kids or that I am having such a fantastic time without that. Present party moritorium excluded.
    Surely you are able to do things being single that you cannot or would not do in a relationship, so do those things and enjoy them.
     
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    Actually, two very good friends of mine whom I used to live with got together (after years of my trying to get them together before we lived in the same house). Unfortunately, when people have their windows open, you can hear everything in the next room around here... let's just say I feel sorry for both of them knowing that he lasts all of 30 seconds.
     
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