Does a Man have to be brolic in order to gain more attention from women?

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  1. Magicstick74

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    I feel like more than 3/4 of the men that go to the gym are only interested in getting "big" for the sake of getting big. Not even so they can be healthy because they destroy their body by smoking, drinking and what not, but just to gain attention from women. Is this what women want? I know it takes much more than this to get with women but at first glance, does this approach work? Cuz I hate thess buff dudes who only workout their biceps, triceps, chests, just so women can gawk at them.

    I'm not fat or chubby or anything just a normally built guy. I'm 6'1 and around 210. I used to play sports in high school so im not out of shape, just not diesel like these superficial nitwits who think that all women want are muscle on top of muscle. Is this just a strategy that men think will garner them more attention from women, hence more opportunities to get with women? And does this work on women?
     
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    U sound mad. Some chicks dig jacked up bros. Haters gonna hate.
     
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    I hate whiners.
     
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    Someone seems to be making a judgment based on looks, and it may not be who you think it is.
     
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    No.

    I've dated all kinds. Being attracted to certain features does not mean that it's a requirement for me.

    Having said that, I really love the look of a muscular man, but not too big. Most of the guys I see in porn are too muscular for my tastes. I'm not attracted to bodybuilder type builds. That's too much.

    If a guy was smart and funny and cute and charming AND he happened to be muscular? Yum! If I had a choice between an unfunny dimwitted muscular guy and one who made me laugh and who can keep me engaged in a conversation, I'll always choose the one who makes me laugh.
     
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    Overhearing the chit-chat of some women at work and also seeing what they have for spouses or s/o, I'd say many women are NOT into the built/muscular/gymmed out guys, in fact it seems to be the complete opposite. Being more into guys myself I look at what some of these women are married to or are in a serious relationship with and these guys are FAR from gym perfect, believe me! I think to myself that these guys must have giant willies and/or great personalities because they sure don't have looks or bodies.
     
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    My opinion (yes I feel like it's worthwhile stating that this is just MY opinion. As a single individual):

    I have a lot of visual/aesthetic/sexual appreciation for a lightly toned body. HOWEVER I don't find "ripped" uber-athletic, bulging muscles everywhere, veins popped out physiques attractive at all. Bleh. Not only that, if they're as shallow as a small mammal wading pool or as bright as a dying candle, their body isn't going to matter one iota to me.
     
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    I like big guys. It could be fat, or muscle, so long as they're big. After a certain size, however, it becomes too much for me. I do like the way some men look when they are very strong-looking, but I'm totally turned off by skinny legs. Lots of guys with beautiful upper bodies have chicken-legs, which is odd-looking, to me.

    I'm dating a really slim guy, and I'm thrown off momentarily every time I touch him. I'm very attracted to him, and I like fucking him, but I'm really unused to the feel of narrow shoulders, and a tiny waist (and ribs! woah!) on a man. I'm not sure I would still like the look of him naked if not for plentiful body hair.

    On the other hand, I'm also dating a guy whose muscles come from akido. When I first saw him, he looked like an average-built (but extremely tall) guy. The first time he kissed me, and I rested my hands on his abdomen, felt how solid he was, and began sliding my hands all over to see if he felt like that everywhere, I was instantly turned on by how big and strong he seemed under my touch. I don't usually choose muscley guys, but being with him has reminded me how much I like that kind of body too.

    Having said that, what got both of those guys (and every man who's ever been there) into my bed was not so much the look of them, but how they present themselves, and how they treat me. To get a girl like me, (since I can only speak for myself) a man needs to be confident, polite, uninhibited, smart, funny, and honest. The sooner he can convince me he has those qualities, the sooner we can get undressed.
     
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    Hey im not saying im some pudgy jonah hill over here but not ronnie from the jersey shore status either, im just a normal athletic build not like some pinheaded lame ass who gets "jacked up" just to get "chicks". its a whole stereotype. Btw i got other ways to compensate if you know what i mean
     
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    I didn't know who you were talking about so I looked him up. That's some gawd-awful hair! I don't like the pointy-head look. :yuck:

    This is what my guy looked like when I joined LPSG. He was a lot more muscular when we met and he is now again. He's an athletic guy and he enjoys many sports frequently, which keeps him in shape. He's not compensating for anything. :rolleyes:

    You do sound less like you're asking a legitimate question and more like you're just angry and venting. I'm not really sure what the source of your anger is. Do you think it's wrong to try to look more attractive to the opposite sex? Or do you hate them for trying too hard? Of all the things men could be doing wrong, I'm not so sure that hitting the gym qualifies as worth hating them over... After all, there are litterers and bigots in the world. Just be who you really want to be, even if you think it's unique or different. That kind of strength of character is attractive. Ranting about guys who get buff really isn't.

    I answered your question honestly. Like I said before, I've dated different body types. I've dated athletic guys, skinny guys, tweedy academic guys in glasses, and pudgy guys. So for me, having nice pectoral muscles is appreciated, but not a necessity.
     
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    For me, I interact more with a mans brain than his pecs and abs.
     
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    My impression was that (some) men work out til they're huge for other men - much in the same way that (some) women dress for other women.
     
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    Yeah I was gonna say, you forgot to mention your size in the original post.

    By the way, I like your new haircut bro.
     
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    A man needs confidence and not be a wimpy whiner.
     
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    Absolutely not. Will it make me look at them more? Of course that's what eye candy is for...looking at. But the majority of the guys like that who are all jacked up just to get attention are also superficial and the first time they open their mouths I'm over them very quickly. I'd much rather a guy have some real substance and be less than gym perfect than to be buff and have no brain. But we do live in a mostly superficial world so for the most part it probably works.
     
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    For some reason I thought reporting this for not being a women's issue would at least get the thread moved. Guess this is totally a women's issue!
     
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    Just as long as your shoulders are wider than your hips and you don't have man boobs your body should be OK to many gals me thinks. We wear clothes to cover the body so as long as you look presentable in clothes ya got a chance at screwing a hot chick.
     
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    Man boobs are hot. No, seriously. I'm a b-cup and I get all the ladies.
     
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    Yeah, but they're all lesbians.
     
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    I'm 5'8", 150 lbs and could careless what people think of me. :-D
     
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