Does a Man have to be brolic in order to gain more attention from women?

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Speaking as a fairly muscular man, I'd like to point out that a lot of women don't like muscle. Don't think it's just a 'too much' issue, either - be it 'too much' time spent in the gym, or 'too much' muscle in general. Ladies have found my body unappealing for different reasons (including muscle, skin colour - all sorts) and I don't use a gym or have steroid-like muscles. The muscle I have comes from running, climbing etc. I set myself a goal, like running through a forest as quickly as possible. That involves running, jumping and climbing just to get through. I'm not really a traditional weight-lifter and have never actually made use of a gym. Lifting something heavy and putting it down again repeatedly doesn't appeal to me. I do have a set of weights, but I prefer to use my own body-weight to exercise. In fact, I don't exercise for muscle, apart from the fun - I do it for the health-benefits. Basically, I would like to live longer. In terms of performance, speed and balance are more important to me. Strength is secondary. It's worth noting that strength and muscle are not as connected as you may think. A well-muscled man may have more muscle, but those muscles might not have a great base-strength. So, two men of the same size will probably have different limits. As usual, genetics play a part.

My boring exercise tangent aside, it all comes down to personal preference. I do believe muscle (abs, for example) is considered more attractive by more people, compared to other things (like a big penis). But, it's still a matter of preference - like light or dark hair. Some people feel out of shape, possibly ugly, when it comes to bedroom-play with a fit person - they are closely seeing that body and can get self-conscious. That puts them off. That works both ways, of course. In my experience, a little bit of fat is actually appealing to a lady. It's soft and something you can cuddle-up to, compared to muscle that can be hard. Some ladies like hairy men, skinny men, big men, small men - some don't. With so many different opinions out there, it's really not worth worrying about. If you wish to change your body for yourself - go for it. Generally, doing it for someone else or their judgement of you, is often unwise.
 

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I'm always laughing at jacked up dudes who only work the glamour muscles, but seriously, who gives a crap? Yeah some women are attracted to that, some aren't. Find something else to get worked up over sucker.

And the generalizations are strong here, so built guys are more shallow and materialistic? Really now....
 

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hehe glamour muscles....

I'm always laughing at jacked up dudes who only work the glamour muscles, but seriously, who gives a crap? Yeah some women are attracted to that, some aren't. Find something else to get worked up over sucker.

And the generalizations are strong here, so built guys are more shallow and materialistic? Really now....
 

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I go to be fit, it's a challenge for me. I don't use it to get women or get laid, but yeah most guys that go do it to appeal to women. I'm pretty much where I want to be now I just want to stay fit and healthy.
 

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I've personally gotten a lot more attention since I've gotten fatter and grown a long thick beard. Having also been a gym rat for many years it's kind of a mind blower. There are so many fake tan curl bro's running around now; maybe chicks these days are into vikings instead?
 

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I've personally gotten a lot more attention since I've gotten fatter and grown a long thick beard. Having also been a gym rat for many years it's kind of a mind blower. There are so many fake tan curl bro's running around now; maybe chicks these days are into vikings instead?


Nothing like 6 weeks of non stop physical sex to get you trimmed down and rippling like a racehorse!
 

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First of all, everyone loves muscle. Even straight guys and lesbians. I went from obese to skinny and athletic to where I am now.. 250lbs at 5'11" and 13 % body fat. I know how people react to the different body types. As A huge dude everyone I meet treats me very differently than when I was athletic, but how I was treated as an athletic dude compared to when I was obese wasn't much different.

That being said, a lot of people have a negative image of jacked up guys.. And not without reason. Let me tell you, people expect you to act a certain way when your big. If your not jubilant and happy, they often treat you like an asshole. Being big can make it a whole lot harder to get women if your not an outgoing dude. Like myself, I'm quite an introvert, I don't talk much to most people. I guess it's intimidating or something. When I was an athletic dude, lean and ripped at about 180, I was still very quiet and introverted, but women would smile at me and make flirtatious gestures quite often if I was in a good mood and it showed. Now days I have toopen up and show people I'm actually a positive, intelligent, caring individual before they will respond positively to me. Except if it's a "dumb bitch" or ur average " brodouchebag". But I have absolutely no interest in those people.


I guess what I'm trying to get at is that if you want to look good to be attractive, trying to get jacked is at best inefficient and at worst counter productive. Better to just watch your calories, do some sit ups and get some abs. As far as ur body goes all u need is abs to be considered hot by the vast majority of women. However, even that is misguided. Personality will get you laid way more effectively than an attractive body. Some of the most successful players I know aren't very good looking, aren't in very good shape, but they have "the gift of gab" and know how to be cool. :wink:
 

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Overhearing the chit-chat of some women at work and also seeing what they have for spouses or s/o, I'd say many women are NOT into the built/muscular/gymmed out guys, in fact it seems to be the complete opposite. Being more into guys myself I look at what some of these women are married to or are in a serious relationship with and these guys are FAR from gym perfect, believe me! I think to myself that these guys must have giant willies and/or great personalities because they sure don't have looks or bodies.

that's because that's all they can get. Trust me, there's a reason why male calendars that women hang up on their walls all contain buff guys. Women don't want a weak, scraggly guy, but sometimes this is all they can get.
 

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that's because that's all they can get. Trust me, there's a reason why male calendars that women hang up on their walls all contain buff guys. Women don't want a weak, scraggly guy, but sometimes this is all they can get.

LOL :biggrin1:

Theres a lot of truth in that
 
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Strangely enough I've dated/fucked guys who were really muscular and it isn't my thing. It isn't because I "can't get guys like that" :rolleyes:
 

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Strangely enough I've dated/fucked guys who were really muscular and it isn't my thing. It isn't because I "can't get guys like that" :rolleyes:

Exceptions always exist , but I wonder, was it because the muscular guys weren't very smart, didn't have a personality that was compatible with yours, or were they insensitive ? Or was it really just simply that you didn't like the muscle ? most of the women I have dated are ones who were never attracted to big guys,very intelligent girls who dislike douche bags and want compatibility above a hot body.... But prefering very skinny guys with abs and little muscle... After being with me they find out that once they get rid of their preconceptions about the personality attached to the muscle they are extremely attracted to it and admit they secretly knew they liked it all along