me and a girl started to become really good friends(at work). she was coming on to me or really felt comfortable around me. so did i. i mean like everytime we heard each other's voice coming around the corner, we would look up and be smiling waiting for us to make that turn. she talked to me every chance she got, waved, smiled etc. she always said my name when talking to me. the thing that really gave it away was her tone was different towards me then other co-workers. it was very low, like she was really shy around me. Basically at worst case she really looked to me as a true friend, and even had the hots for me. i know this for a fact, i felt it and also my friend asked her and she said that i was "banging".
i was like, she has to be interested in me. anyway, i asked her to lunch. didnt ask as a date, asked casually and figured i had a few lunches with her before i asked her to hang out outside of work. we went, i guess she had a good time, smiles, laughs, comfortable posture, upper body hanging over the table towards me, hands on my side even past my food tray.
at this point, i knew she had a bf and things werent working out as i heard her talking to another girl a few days ago. but at lunch she did not bring up a bf or anything, even when shes like "i like to hang out with friends....."
whatever, let me get to the point.
asked her to lunch a second time, and she basically throw me off a cliff. 101 reasons why she couldnt go......trying to save, money, 30min lunch......and kept going.....
me:"ok cool let me know if you wanna go"
i am only human and honestly i was really hurt and felt like shit. and doesnt she eat out like every day for the next week lol. the problem is i really did like her and really thought of her as a close friend that is why i was hurt so bad. my feeling is maybe she never liked me like that and didnt want to lead me on, i dont know. but if she acted like the way she did to me before and felt i was coming on to her why couldnt she be like can we just go as friends??? i dont know why, but she had to prove a point, she couldnt say not today, im busy. but the way i took it as is she must of thought i was a creep and didnt even want to be friends.
next time we came in contact she acted like nothing happened, like we were still best friends. so i am confused as shit after how she told me to get lost when i kept it casual the who time(although i know she knew i liked her). she told me to get lost, and i did. i ignored her. just hi bye..she knew it...but still tried acting like nothing happened. still ignored her, finally she ignored me too. her "hi" came out in like in a mad tone "HI!". it finally got to the point where she would look like she was actually hurt.....time had past and i felt like maybe this girl is actually losing sleep over this, she is the nicest sweetest girl ever. so i started being nice again, it took some time to get talking to her again. i guess she started to notice and began to be nice to me again, touching me, putting her arm around me, and should i say, rubbing her tits on me, purposely shaking her upper body 3 feet from my face, then doing it again once she seen my reaction. god damn i wish i could of seen my face i bet i was drooling like a bull. its cool, i dont even think twice i know at this point shes not interested in me like that because she wouldnt have blown her chance.
but now she is ignoring me lol. in a nice way, very neutral, will talk to me but she does not show personality. like she is playing hard to get, but im not falling for it.
can i get advice from any women here on how to go about this. i dont know why she rejected me the way she did, i dont know how all these games came into play..........but the bottom line i want to know if in a womens mind after all this can we still be friends. should i talk to her?? there is nothing more i want then to be friends with her. if i should say something, what can i say to her so she doesnt feel awkward.....er i mean i dont want to seem like a cry baby. if i asked one of the other girls to lunch and they rejected me the same way, i would prob just give them a big ass smile while im laughing my ass off inside. but again i really looked to this girl as a close friend.
edited: sorry for the rant. thanks for listening
let me get some advice 
i was like, she has to be interested in me. anyway, i asked her to lunch. didnt ask as a date, asked casually and figured i had a few lunches with her before i asked her to hang out outside of work. we went, i guess she had a good time, smiles, laughs, comfortable posture, upper body hanging over the table towards me, hands on my side even past my food tray.
at this point, i knew she had a bf and things werent working out as i heard her talking to another girl a few days ago. but at lunch she did not bring up a bf or anything, even when shes like "i like to hang out with friends....."
whatever, let me get to the point.
asked her to lunch a second time, and she basically throw me off a cliff. 101 reasons why she couldnt go......trying to save, money, 30min lunch......and kept going.....
me:"ok cool let me know if you wanna go"
i am only human and honestly i was really hurt and felt like shit. and doesnt she eat out like every day for the next week lol. the problem is i really did like her and really thought of her as a close friend that is why i was hurt so bad. my feeling is maybe she never liked me like that and didnt want to lead me on, i dont know. but if she acted like the way she did to me before and felt i was coming on to her why couldnt she be like can we just go as friends??? i dont know why, but she had to prove a point, she couldnt say not today, im busy. but the way i took it as is she must of thought i was a creep and didnt even want to be friends.
next time we came in contact she acted like nothing happened, like we were still best friends. so i am confused as shit after how she told me to get lost when i kept it casual the who time(although i know she knew i liked her). she told me to get lost, and i did. i ignored her. just hi bye..she knew it...but still tried acting like nothing happened. still ignored her, finally she ignored me too. her "hi" came out in like in a mad tone "HI!". it finally got to the point where she would look like she was actually hurt.....time had past and i felt like maybe this girl is actually losing sleep over this, she is the nicest sweetest girl ever. so i started being nice again, it took some time to get talking to her again. i guess she started to notice and began to be nice to me again, touching me, putting her arm around me, and should i say, rubbing her tits on me, purposely shaking her upper body 3 feet from my face, then doing it again once she seen my reaction. god damn i wish i could of seen my face i bet i was drooling like a bull. its cool, i dont even think twice i know at this point shes not interested in me like that because she wouldnt have blown her chance.
but now she is ignoring me lol. in a nice way, very neutral, will talk to me but she does not show personality. like she is playing hard to get, but im not falling for it.
can i get advice from any women here on how to go about this. i dont know why she rejected me the way she did, i dont know how all these games came into play..........but the bottom line i want to know if in a womens mind after all this can we still be friends. should i talk to her?? there is nothing more i want then to be friends with her. if i should say something, what can i say to her so she doesnt feel awkward.....er i mean i dont want to seem like a cry baby. if i asked one of the other girls to lunch and they rejected me the same way, i would prob just give them a big ass smile while im laughing my ass off inside. but again i really looked to this girl as a close friend.
edited: sorry for the rant. thanks for listening
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