This is really fascinating to me. I guess I never thought about people who didn't LIKE kissing. As a bi, married man who has, on occasion, had some extra marital m2m fun, I've run into guys who didn't kiss. But the majority of those were married men who somehow felt more masculine if they didn't kiss another dude. I mean, they were often very willing to suck my cock, and many of them were all about having me inside them, but somehow kissing a man made them feel girly. Um...ok?
For me, kissing is cream in the twinkie. I can have sex without kissing, especially if my partner is willing to use his or her mouth on other areas of my body, but kissing me on the mouth (if they're a good kisser) makes me hard faster than anything. Throw in a little well placed attention to my nips and, well, the clothes cannot come off fast enough.
That said, I always thought those people who didn't want to kiss had psychosocial or metaphysical reasons for their preference, not actual, physical, "this-doesn't-turn-me-on" reasons for it. The intimacy of the kiss just does something for me. And something about the juxtaposition of soft lips, scratchy whiskers (or soft ones if one of us is wearing a full beard), and well-placed tongues sends me over the moon.
When I think about it, I guess that college make-out buddy did a number on me because we spent many an evening making out before we started rubbing our rods together, so kissing and erections and pre-cum and excitement were a heady mash-up of hormones and pleasure for awhile, pre-disposing me to REALLY liking kissing and being kissed.
That said, I like sex in pretty much all phases--foreplay to afterglow--so I'll try to be sensitive to any non-kissers in the great world out there. But I say once more that unless you're philosophically opposed to the thought of kissing, you guys need to be open to the idea and look for a good teacher who can turn you on to the pleasures of kissing. Trust me, if you make the connection, it is SO worth it!