does anyone else dont like kissing?

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im in a bit of trouble, or better to say people dont get me, i dont like the feeling of the kiss on the mouth. with or without tongue, i dont like it. i dont enjoy it, i dont keep my eyes closed, nothing, i just shiver a bit when its finished. otherwise i like closeness, im gentle and llike touching and kissing all body parts but the mouth...
is something wrong with me, or the people i kiss or has someone else felt the same at some point? thx
 

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I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with you at all. I AM saying, though, that unless you have something about the IDEA of kissing that grosses you out, then maybe you literally are kissing the wrong people. You say you don't like how kissing feels. That' s fair, I guess, but I've kissed enough people to know that a great deal of the pleasure of the experience depends on your kissing partner. When I was in college I was dating a girl and involved with my roommate (a guy). She was a lousy kisser and he was an awesome one. I'm a good kisser now because I learned to kiss from him and have taken that skill into other relationships.

So, don't sweat the fact that you don't enjoy it, but maybe give it a chance and try with several partners. It's truly amazing to me how different kissing is with different people.
 

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The idea of kissing irks me. The few kisses I have had just reinforced my dislike for the activity. Bite my lip and tug me around? Sure! Suckle my lower lip? Yesss! Rub our tongues together? No... not again. Kiss me anywhere on the body except inside my mouth. -.-
 

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If I don't get kissed, I don't get hard. Other scenarios where I don't get hard:

In the bath
In the shower

But lucky for me I like kissing and so does my partner
 

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It's kinda funny those feelings you sometimes think you are the only one having them, and when you read anonymously on the internet what other people are feeling you realise you're not that special...

Kissing doesn't irk me, or disgust me or anything. I just really don't feel ANYTHING when I do. Perhaps just not very comfortable, because you gotta admit that the way you must place your head when you kiss someone is not always comfortable (I guess that for the people who like to kiss, this discomfort is balanced by the good sensations you're supposed to feel).
+ the guilt sensation when you're thinking "Omagad, I STILL don't feel anything, does he feel the same or should I pretend I'm liking it so he doesn't get sad?"

The theory has come out in the first comments, I think I never kissed guys I was into, the problem is that there aren't much guys I'm into. Well, usually I hope that sooner or later the attraction will come, but I get more and more scared of the moment of a relationship where I'll have to kiss the guy, afraid that if I liked him so far suddenly there will still be nothing when I kiss him and sooner or later everything we've been through so far will collapse...
 

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phew! thanks everyone, you really made me feel relieved. the problem is that i usually dont kiss people i really like, or i should really try kissing boys as someone said. thx

Bingo!

Kissing someone you're not in to OR they're a bad kisser is a big turn off.
 

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wow, interesting. I LOVE kissing, to me it's a totally hot connection, but it is possible to end up kissing the wrong person, and then it doesn't work. Someone can be nice and be hot, but then you kiss and- zero, and the other way round, in my experience. I wouldn't give up on it entirely, but it also just may be you're not into it. We all have limits as to where we will and will not put our mouths.
 

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It's kinda funny those feelings you sometimes think you are the only one having them, and when you read anonymously on the internet what other people are feeling you realise you're not that special...
yes thats certainly helpful asking over the internet.
but thats because people are afraid to be different. i said the same thing the other night in front of some friends, they couldnt believe what i said. later, one of those girls said to me, when we were alone, i know exactly what you mean...

Bingo!

Kissing someone you're not in to OR they're a bad kisser is a big turn off.
i suppose i just dont have much luck to kiss those i really like... thx barbie
 

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I like it with someone I like a lot....then I like waking up with bruised lips from sucking face so hard. It was like that with my wife...but since then..not so much...definetly not during the kind of cheap meaningless slutty sex I have now. Kissing during masturbation, hell yes.
 

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I don't not enjoy it. It's just sometimes I think too much, and suddenly I just realize we're just mushing lips together and sliding tongues over each other, and that just seems weird. So then I try to not overanalyze so much.
 

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This is really fascinating to me. I guess I never thought about people who didn't LIKE kissing. As a bi, married man who has, on occasion, had some extra marital m2m fun, I've run into guys who didn't kiss. But the majority of those were married men who somehow felt more masculine if they didn't kiss another dude. I mean, they were often very willing to suck my cock, and many of them were all about having me inside them, but somehow kissing a man made them feel girly. Um...ok?

For me, kissing is cream in the twinkie. I can have sex without kissing, especially if my partner is willing to use his or her mouth on other areas of my body, but kissing me on the mouth (if they're a good kisser) makes me hard faster than anything. Throw in a little well placed attention to my nips and, well, the clothes cannot come off fast enough.

That said, I always thought those people who didn't want to kiss had psychosocial or metaphysical reasons for their preference, not actual, physical, "this-doesn't-turn-me-on" reasons for it. The intimacy of the kiss just does something for me. And something about the juxtaposition of soft lips, scratchy whiskers (or soft ones if one of us is wearing a full beard), and well-placed tongues sends me over the moon.

When I think about it, I guess that college make-out buddy did a number on me because we spent many an evening making out before we started rubbing our rods together, so kissing and erections and pre-cum and excitement were a heady mash-up of hormones and pleasure for awhile, pre-disposing me to REALLY liking kissing and being kissed.

That said, I like sex in pretty much all phases--foreplay to afterglow--so I'll try to be sensitive to any non-kissers in the great world out there. But I say once more that unless you're philosophically opposed to the thought of kissing, you guys need to be open to the idea and look for a good teacher who can turn you on to the pleasures of kissing. Trust me, if you make the connection, it is SO worth it!
 

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I don't not enjoy it. It's just sometimes I think too much, and suddenly I just realize we're just mushing lips together and sliding tongues over each other, and that just seems weird. So then I try to not overanalyze so much.

If I think too much, anything about sex can lose its appeal. Um, some less than erotic activities take place in the exact same areas of some very erotic ones. And, well, frankly, there is A LOT of fluid involved in good sex--some of it natural and some of it compliments of a tube--but all of it quite necessary if everyone is to have a good time. And then there's the faces, and the awkwardness, and the oh-my-god-if-someone-took-a-picture-of-me-now bad angles involved. Oh, and the moaning and groaning and general inarticulateness of most of us while engaged in sex is awkward as hell if I dwell on it. But if I let myself be in the moment, well, kissing and orgasmic facial contortions and sweaty chests and wet private parts and damp sheets and all of it are sexy as hell.

And if I'm honest, when the blood all rushes to my penis, I tend to shut down the analytical part of my brain and enjoy the moment. (BTW, that's not always a good thing....) :redface: