I just thought I'd ask and see what people think. Anyone know what I'm referring to? How do you handle this?
[FONT="]Do I feel like an outcast? No. Since I was a kid I was able to surf the dividing line between outcasts and socialites...often managing to be friendly to both. To be honest, that's something I'm more and more proud of. That said, many people have told me that I'm an enigma and others say I'm a hermit...I suppose because I don't follow through with standard social behavior such as hanging out with friends on weekends or maintaining easy long term friendships. I have lots of weekends in which I don't see or speak to anyone at all...but some theorize this is my way for me to balance by introverted character with my extroverted professional life.
I've also found that with age has come the realization that I'm not a very easy person to be with. I get impatient with people, I can be utterly shallow, I can have a short attention span, I over analyze things, and I can be incredibly lazy. Combined, these have created a toxic cocktail that drive sane folks to run for the hills. Knowing this, I don't really seek relationships that will end in heartache. As they say..."[/FONT]
Its better to have never loved at all, than to have loved and lost."[FONT="] :wink:[/FONT]
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TameYoung, I would just say it again from my pov that making friends in the most general sense maybe be ok but it doesn't really do it for me at all, unless the word "friend" is meant in some deeper connection. I do feel I have special connections with certain people or "souls" that go beyond what is felt or even sensed in conventional experience.
[FONT="]I have a very limited number of close friends, and a bazillion acquaintances. I recently was asked to buy a raffle ticket for a free trip to New York for four, all expenses paid. I could honestly not think of anyone I could invite locally on a trip like that! That doesn't depress me, I'm ok with the fact that I'd rather spend my time alone than with people I don't get along with. I can latch on to people I get along with very intensely, so I try not to do that anymore. [/FONT]
Thank goodness I found LPSG. I originally just came here to look at dick, but I found so much more! I've met a lot of people who are similar or feel similar to me, even if it's just a little bit. I have made a lot of friends here. I've even developed very strong e-friendships with a few of them, but they're all so far away so unfortunately I still feel that isolation sometimes.
[FONT="]I've been here on LPSG for a long time, and people have come into my life and gone. Although it is indeed a cool site...its hard for me to connect to people who only live behind my computer monitor. In a perfect world, I would have a small number of close friends that would know it is fine to drop in to my house for an unannounced visit at any time...but at this point in my life I don't have those relationships...and my LPSG friends are generally speaking, hundreds if not thousands of miles away. Definately not "drop in" distance.[/FONT]
A Soul cannot be lonely. Only the ego that resides in the body can be lonely. If you dig a little for your soul, you will find it happy and carefree.
I disagree. I think a soul is the amalgam of all past experiences. Some people have "old souls" or "battered souls" or "youthful souls", all the result of their past experiences, actions, and situations. My soul is fairly contented, a bit guarded, sometimes too introspective, and very curious.
Some people say that their father is their best friend. I can't really say that. I have a better relationship with my mom but I can only talk to my dad about certain things. He is very old school and we he is dad. That's all I can say about that.
I tolerate my father, and I have no doubt that I know him and understand him better than anyone has in his life (including his parents). I know this not by being his friend, but by watching his actions and knowing him longer than anyone ever has. That said, I have never sought "friendship" from my parents. We have our roles to play as family members and that is enough to keep my head occupied. :biggrin1:
Interesting thread...though I don't feel as an outcast I certainly do feel distant...for many of these reasons.