For reasons that have nothing to do with anything, I somehow wandered into an internet webring/blogring/group of people into various forms of swinging and cuckolding. While I don't have a problem with people's chosen lifestyles even if I wouldn't choose to live them at this time in my life, there is one subset of this lifestyle that I fine really offensive. In different variations I've seen it called Queen of Spades, Mandingo, Interracial Cuckolding, etc. The basic premise is that white couples seek out black men to fuck the wife. I've found are bumper stickers and jewelry that say Queen of Spades, BBC (Big Black Cock) and other things of that ilk. Apparently, this sort of play is based on the stereotypes of black men's virility and supposed huge cocks. I even read a very nasty (to me) article by a white woman in one of these relationships confronting black women who don't like white women taking their men, saying, "we don't want to marry the black men, we just want sex." I find this interracial fetishism to be extremely racist and offensive. First, it objectifies someone based on their skin color. It perpetuates stereotypes of black men and their sexuality, the same stereotypes which regularly got black men lynched not too long ago. I also find the terms used to be offensive, specifically, Queen of Spades. Isn't spade a derogatory term for black people. Isn't mandingo another one that points to black "savagery" and/or slavery? What am I missing here? I do know that the gentleman I know that participates in this lifestyle is one of the most racist son of a bitches I've ever met. It doesn't surprise me at all that he would be involved in this because it would never occur to him that this is something based on how very racist he is. Or maybe he knows it, and he gets off on having black men do, what seems to me, something demeaning. I don't know. What do you all think? I know nothing about cuckolding and that lifestyle, let alone this BBC/Queen of Spades thing, so I may be way off base.