Does anyone else go through a sexual slump of sorts?

[zangulus]

So 40s married. Rediscovering, happily I might add, my spouse after some huge lifestyle changes. For years I jerked off alot due to lack of sexual interest on my spouse's part. I am finding I just don't find it very appealing anymore, jerking off I mean. Even with online "FWB" that helped me through the rough patch. I am still all gung ho for sex with my spouse but jerking off, porn, etc. just don't have the same appeal to me anymore. Like I start and I'm like meh. Has anyone else had similar happen? I mean I suppose I am just adjusting to the changes. Any input is appreciated.

 

[ronin001]

Count yourself lucky, I know a couple who got married early; and had children early.
By 28, they were more like room mates, who split the bills. Still deeply in love; but their sex life is all but scheduled for once or twice a month .

It works for some people

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

thats when people learn and realize that a relationship isnt about sex--

 

[deleted817718]

Count yourself lucky, I know a couple who got married early; and had children early.
By 28, they were more like room mates, who split the bills. Still deeply in love; but their sex life is all but scheduled for once or twice a month .

It works for some people

That is very much like my marriage but we have less sex than once a month and don’t have children. I wasn’t happy about it at first, but over the years my wife has come to openly admit that she is asexual and our relationship isn’t and never has been about sex and I am really happy about that now.

 

[barbunz]

If your having sex count yourself lucky me and my wife haven't had sex in over 15 years. She just no longer interested in sex at all

 

[barbunz]

Tks 4 the like

 

[chrisrobin]

If the idea of masturbation is leaving you cold then don't do it, it's not obligatory. Women go off sex for a variety of reasons, and in marriage some men also go off the boil.
Sex doesn't equal marriage though it's part of it, there are more things that hold a couple together than just sex.
Both my sons got married young, raised 3 children each and after the third child was born it was like the shutter came down. It did become something of a chore, like lets get this over and done with as soon as possible.
Now I found d out because one of the boys moaned to me little knowing his brother had had the same conversation with me days before - so I got them talking. Now they have conversations between them, don't feel ignored by their spouses but more connected even if not through intercourse - and naturally being boys they've come up with some amusing ways of relieving the sexual tensions that used to build up.

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

i think alot of relationships get dull--just ned to spicen things back up--from toys to bondage n pain--i know an older friend and his wife slept in seperate beds because things became so dull betwen them--and one night he comes homewith a bag and gives it to her---and he tells her that the thing she wanted to do back then he was willing to try now----inside the bag was a strap on dildo with three sizes---he said it was rough at first but said the last few weeks their marriage had totally changed

 

[boc]

Yes, I think biorythms are the cause.