Does anyone experience increased libido at the onset of/recovery from illness?

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  1. B_Nicodemous

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    Ok, So I was PMing RawDog and in the course of my typical rambling thought process, I mentioned that I tend to get hornier at the beginning of and illness (cold/flu) and during the recovery form said illness. During the actual illness I soooooo don't want to be touched, much less engage in sex, but that day or two right before it gets bad I get super horny, like I want to fuck and be fucked till the cows come home (what does that even mean? Anyone?)

    I have theory about why that happens. I almost believe that my body, feeling the onset of illness, freaks out and is shouting "dumbass you may DIE any second! Go spread your seed!" and when I am recovering it's screaming, "just because you are alive you COULD have died, you need to share your genes!" Never mind the fact that I'm wearing a condom. Or am gay. Or have zero desire for kids.

    So my question is: has anyone else experienced this? And if so what are your theories about what causes it?

    Granted not a world shaking question, but it's just going to rattle around in my brain till I get an answer.

    If you think it is lame, blame RawDog for suggesting I post it!
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  2. RawDog

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    Just to continue nico's train of thought, for years I always though it was a combination of the Nyquil and Robitussin making me loopy horny. It almost never failed to happen. I'd get flu-ish symptoms, feel run down, have one spurt of an "I wanna fuck you with all my heart and soul"-zest for life, and then get gravely ill.

    It wan't until nicodemous76 mentioned that in his PM that I realized I had never heard that from any other human being before and I always chalked it up to my obsessiveness. Glad to know I'm not the only one.
     
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    The healthier I am, the more I want sex. If I work out, I want sex. If I sleep well, I want sex. If I don't feel very well, I want to sleep until I feel better.

    If nico's theories are to be trusted, perhaps this is because I am female, and cannot quickly perform my role in reproduction.
     
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    I believe your reprodoctive organs are being shut off by your body, this is also what happens when you're in extremely cold weather or when you've been in a traumatic event such as a car crash or a fight.

    Your body saves the energy because it knows that at that moment you will not need it and that energy is being used for recovery.

    And when your reproductive organs do kick in again it feels like a rush because you've been off the drug for a while.
     
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    The most violent and traumatic thing I ever saw was a car accident. I was a passenger, the victim was a little boy. I still have flashbacks. But even that didn't stop my libido. For me, illness will kill it every time.
     
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    Not attempting to belittle you, but you already said it you were watching and the victim was somebody else? Still would be horrible to witness such an event.

    Well I found an article about the causes.
    It's just the reaction of the body to extended exposure to stress of any kind.

     
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    (Emphasis mine)
    Yes. Horrible. Stressful, even. EXACTLY they type of trigger you describe. Back-peddling is frowned upon here.

    I didn't say I watched an accident. i said I was in an accident. I was the passenger in a two-seater sports car that hit a child (and as far as I know, killed him).

    Imagine you have no control over a vehicle because you are not the driver. You see a child dart in front of the vehicle, and hesitate. The driver swerves to avoid the child, and your side of the tiny car careens toward a steel pylon. The driver swears, even as he's turning the wheel again to preserve your life. You are saved, but the little boy, who zigs instead of zags is in the air. When he lands, his angelic, beatific face is inches from yours on the windshield, eyes wide. The sound his body makes on the glass is hollow, and dull. Because his eyes are open, you think it will be okay. You reach for the handle, but the driver hasn't unlocked the doors yet. Your eyes return to the child, and he is sliding from the hood now. When his head hits the ground, you hear a sickening, wet splat, and then a scream you eventually figure out is your own. When you examine him, he is alive, but only just. Yellowish fluid seeps from his ear, and his pupils do not react to light. A week later, the guilt-stricken, heart-broken driver reports that he's been to see the boy's family in the hospital. He hasn't awakened, and the family has requested no further contact.

    As I said, I still have flashbacks. If that's not "trauma" or "stress" I don't know what is. Oh. Did I mention this was during our first date? The driver and I abandoned our original destinations, and returned to his home. After some crying and hugging, and a few phone calls, we had sex.

    It's not my body's response. How about I tell you when I'm horny or not, and you just accept it like Gospel?

    I'm not saying this isn't valid information, I'm saying it doesn't quite work that way for me. Nearly anything that causes my body to output adrenaline, will also make me horny. That's just how I am. Stress and trauma might as well be aphrodisiacs. Illness, on the other hand, will shut me down every time. When I am sick, even just a little sick, I can't stay awake, and will pretty much sleep until I am healthy again.
     
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    I get horny when I drink too much milk (whole milk). I think there are cow's hormone in it.
     
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    I am the same as nicodemous76.
     
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    Thanks for input! The info you provided, whitemonst3r was appreciated, though as AlteredEgo has shown us everyone’s body responds differently to various forms of stress. For her emotional stress seems to trigger a heightened libido, whereas physical stress do to illness kills it quicker than, than, damn I can't find the metaphor I was looking for! But it kills it quick! Lol

    For me I shut down during emotional stress from anywhere from a few hrs, to a few days. When my mom died, I had no thoughts or feelings of the sexual kind for a few days, and then as I came out of the initial shock (she was killed in a head on collision. The driver in the lane of oncoming traffic didn't want to wait for a truck in front of him so swerved in to the lane my mom was in, hitting her head on, and killing her, the say, instantly. So completely unexpected was her death) my libido returned full force.



    Whole milk? Really average joe? Your theory on the hormone levels they give cows seems as valid as any, seeing as how some hormones are stored in fat. That may be why skim wouldn't have the same effect on you. I'd be interested to know which hormones and antibiotics they give to cattle are stored primarily in fat...

    I asked my sis this question. She gets the same way as me. Her thoughts on the reason for the onset of illness libido increase? Well, she feels that that initial overall body feeling you get when you are coming down with, say, the flu, almost mimics that heightened feeling you get when you are anticipating good sex. You know; that, antsy, slightly loopy, crawling out of your skin feeling? She feels your body misinterprets this as "let's fuck!" until the illness gets worse.

    For both her and I, GI issues (nausea, vomiting, cramping, diarrhea) TOTALLY kill any sex drive at all. We plan to ask The Eldest her opinion on this to see if it's a weird family trait.

    AlteredEgo? I am sooooo sorry you had to go through that. I am sure you know that it was not your fault on a rational level, and I hope you are coming to, or have already come to that realization on an emotional level.:frown1: Big hugs from me.:hug:

    Anyone else like to chime in?
     
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    I have a chronic illness and when I am horny it sometimes leads me to over-exert myself into a flare-up. Then while I am experiencing the illness of course I simply want to recover.

    The return of libido signals the return of health.
     
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    My ex wife has fibromyalgia (chroinic fatigue syndrome) and had the same problem which made her avoid sex altogether. Difference with her was that sex *always* made it flare up.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear about that! The preventable, stupid tragedies are always the most heart-breaking.


    AlteredEgo? I am sooooo sorry you had to go through that. I am sure you know that it was not your fault on a rational level, and I hope you are coming to, or have already come to that realization on an emotional level.:frown1: Big hugs from me.:hug:

    Anyone else like to chime in?[/QUOTE]I think I have. Thanks for the hugs!

    I am reminded of a past lover. He used to take Viagra before we'd meet. I never found him to be particularly hard. One day, he was soooo hard, and felt so fucking good. As soon as he came, his whole body shut down. He got sick with some flu-like virus, and was ill for six weeks. Right before he got sick, we had the best sex we ever had together, in my opinion. Unfortunately, he immediately ran a fever so high, he doesn't remember any of it, doesn't remember driving me home, and has no idea how he himself got home. He remembers taking me out to lunch, and waking up in his bed!
     
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    Bumping this cuz i can and becuase some may find it interesting...

    And if not?

    Meh.
     
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    I don't think it's so much an increase before and after, more likely it's a decrease during. I'm just a sad, desperate, horny, sexless freak but when I'm ill, I'm feeling just too sick, tired and sore to think about sex.
     
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    When ill, I get just as horny but can't 'perform'. It's horrible.
     
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    Just started getting sick last night and horny as hell. Thought of this thread. Nico once again is correct.

    Sick (sniff) and horny.
     
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    Afterwards, yeah, cause if I'm ill for a week and I don't do my thing?
     
  19. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I am not even remotely horny when I am ill. Sex is the last thing in the world I think about.

    While not really an insightful read, this question was asked on Yahoo Answers and a few people offered the idea that guys get horny when ill because it's a comfort and makes them feel good. *shrug*

    Why do I get horny when I am sick? - Yahoo! Answers
     
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    It makes sense, orgasm causes a release of chemicals which to the brain and body are very euphoric. Perhaps subconsciously your self medicating.
     
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