Does "friend" status on this site mean anything to you?

[Fleur]

I am definitely not a collector of friends as I have a private album. I don't friend strangers I've never spoken to.

 

[Guy-jin]

Since I took my pics down a while back, I stopped getting random friend requests.

Fancy that.

 

[invisibleman]

I wrote extensively (apparently too extensively for some people) on this about a year ago. I won't repeat all that, but if you want to read it, here it is>>
http://www.lpsg.org/117747-the-word-friend.html#post1931551

I don't consider an online "friend" to be the same as a friend in RL. I'm not going to co-sign for anyone's loan or anything so I don't see what's the big deal. I don't think I have ever turned down a friend request and I unless the person pissed me off I wouldn't break the friendship. I am amazed that there are people on here with 700+ friends. I'm sure you really have to work at that. (I couldn't handle THAT many friends in real life.) I think I get about 2 friend adds for every friend request I send out.

EXACTLY!!!!!


Molotov Muffin (if you are still out there)--

This is how I see online friends and the distinction of online friends and REAL life friends:
Accessibility.

I have many online friends spread all over the planet. They are friends not "acquaintances". But not FRIENDS where we meet in real life...go out...or what not.

 

[invisibleman]

The is because people use the word friend lightly. Almost every one I meet is an acquaintance not a friend. Most of the people I hang out with are acquaintances not friends. I can count my friends on one hand.

The imaginary friends statement wasn't mine, it was said to me about my online "friendships" as if they weren't real. I know that they are different than my real life but some of my online acquaintances I would love the chance to get to know in real life. And if I were to cull my friend list down... there'd prolly be less than 10 people on it. That's fine with me.:wink:

I don't abuse the word "friend" either. Like the word "respect"...(Should be "honorable words")--- hard to be given yet easily taken away (pending on the offense).

About people being "imaginary" online...in a sense that is true. The internet can be a virtual means of meeting people. It brings people far away closer via satellite and telecommunication lines. I don't really expect the friends I meet online to be real life friends though. If I were to die tomorrow, I wouldn't expect people I met through LPSG to go to my funeral...especially if they are living many miles away from where I live.

Accessibility--sometimes you do meet online friends in real-life. I have met two on LPSG so far. Both are really nice people. One guy after meeting for a while I decided that we weren't good fit as real friends due personality differences. Even though, he is a really nice person...we are different like night and day. The other guy we are online and real friends. Our personalities are alike. (But he lives on the "left" coast and I live on the "right" coast of the United States.:biggrin1

Sometimes you aren't gonna meet your very interesting online friends due to accessibility. That is just how things are.

 

[luka82]

Luka I invited you to dinner. When was the last time you looked at comfort foods?

Couple a days ago:redface:

 

[798686]

Hon, admit it, all the cool kids don`t wonna play with you!:biggrin1:

And I've asked 'em so many times! :wink:

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

Since I took my pics down a while back, I stopped getting random friend requests.

Fancy that.

Are you saying that sex-oriented Internet special interest groups tend to attract the superficial?? :wink:

 

[molotovmuffin]

I don't abuse the word "friend" either. Like the word "respect"...(Should be "honorable words")--- hard to be given yet easily taken away (pending on the offense).

About people being "imaginary" online...in a sense that is true. The internet can be a virtual means of meeting people. It brings people far away closer via satellite and telecommunication lines. I don't really expect the friends I meet online to be real life friends though. If I were to die tomorrow, I wouldn't expect people I met through LPSG to go to my funeral...especially if they are living many miles away from where I live.

Accessibility--sometimes you do meet online friends in real-life. I have met two on LPSG so far. Both are really nice people. One guy after meeting for a while I decided that we weren't good fit as real friends due personality differences. Even though, he is a really nice person...we are different like night and day. The other guy we are online and real friends. Our personalities are alike. (But he lives on the "left" coast and I live on the "right" coast of the United States.:biggrin1

Sometimes you aren't gonna meet your very interesting online friends due to accessibility. That is just how things are.

I think my definition of friend is very different than yours. As stated, I have maybe 5 friends. All of who I haven't seen in years and one I have only talked to in the last year and that was because a mutual acquaintance passed away. BUT... should I ever need anything.. let me repeat that, ANYTHING, any of those five would give it to me or get it for me or help me with or what have you. Those said five friends, would move heaven and hell for me, the same I would do for them. That's what makes us friends. Not that our personalities mesh, hell, three of them are my opposite.


The truth is people come and people go. Some you want to hang onto forever and others you can do without. Some you just want to say, " Don't let the door hit you on the way out."


The people I consider "friends" here are people that I want to get to know in my real life. How else am I supposed to know when to start using the other hand to count my friends?:wink:

 

[B_theOtherJJ]

"Friends" here mean absolutely nothing to me. I have no Friends, and no list

 

[B_Nick8]

When people are on your friend's list and let themselves show as "online", they'll show up on the ride side in a box as "online" so it lets me know whether someone I like or not will [more than likely] be in the chat room, which is really useful.

You can accomplish that by putting people on your list of contacts without sending them Friend requests, too, if you simply want to "track" their on-line status.

 

[naughty]

When I was a moderator on this site, I would add anyone that sent me a request. I know that many users like to have all the mods/admins on their friends list. Once I stopped moderating, I started declining requests. If I don't know who you are, and we haven't spoken, then I'm not accepting your request!

Hey Meg!

I hadnt seen you on in a while. I hope all is fine with you...

 

[funnyguy]

You can accomplish that by putting people on your list of contacts without sending them Friend requests, too, if you simply want to "track" their on-line status.

That is what I do for most peeps---just to see if they are online.

 

[invisibleman]

I think my definition of friend is very different than yours.

Yeah.
BUT... should I ever need anything.. let me repeat that, ANYTHING, any of those five would give it to me or get it for me or help me with or what have you.

Those friends are indeed rare. I have family members that truly aren't like a best friend...or you can talk to like people online. So, I guess that gives you a clue as to my skew on that. Hehehe.

The truth is people come and people go.

Yeah.

The people I consider "friends" here are people that I want to get to know in my real life. How else am I supposed to know when to start using the other hand to count my friends?:wink:

Well, that is good. It is nice to clear the air on the . No here.

 

[Pendlum]

Nope. I usually just accept because I figure it could make them feel better.

 

[B_Nick8]

As stated, I have maybe 5 friends. All of who I haven't seen in years and one I have only talked to in the last year and that was because a mutual acquaintance passed away. BUT... should I ever need anything.. let me repeat that, ANYTHING, any of those five would give it to me or get it for me or help me with or what have you. Those said five friends, would move heaven and hell for me, the same I would do for them.

I know exactly what you mean. I have friends I haven't seen physically in a decade and one or two I haven't even spoken to in a couple of years. That said, no real friendship I've ever had has been limited by time or distance.

 

[798686]

"Friends" here mean absolutely nothing to me. I have no Friends, and no list

That's cos ur a meanie. :wink:

 

[petite]

Yes, it is meaningful to me and I am selective. I edit it all the time.

My sex blog is only viewable to people on my contacts list, which involves friending, so it does mean something. Plus, since I use the video chat and the site alerts me of which of my friends are online, I will sometimes pop in there if someone I enjoy talking to is online at the moment to see if he's feeling chatty, or I'll send a PM to see if he feels like chatting. It wouldn't be feasible to do that if I wasn't alerted by the site.

If I ever upload actual photos of myself, then it would also be restricted also. I have a few albums right now, but none are pics of me.

 

[SpeedoMike]

* not really *

 

[lopo2000]

Actually it does for me, even in LPSG where we don't know each other's names and we don't know each other personally, but when I accept people's friends request, I will expect it to mean that between me and him a new level is achieved.

 

[b.c.]

Hell yeah it means something to me. Some friends are people that I've pm'd on occasions, some have posted comments, and some I've interacted with on some level within the forums, or maybe we see things in similar fashion, or appreciate each other's postings and point of view.

Then there are some I've never interacted with at all.

Here's the way I figure it: If through something I've written or said, or if through some persona I project, or even if people just like my pics... if through any of that someone takes their good time to send me a friend request?? ...then, baby, I'm honored to accept.