Does Kissing Make You Gay? After sucking my cock down to the root, taking it deep in his ass, screaming âfuck me hard, fuck me,â he recoils at my attempt to kiss him. âIâm not that queerâ. Huh? I am very oral. Nothing makes me harder than having a guys lips on my cock or on my lips â I love to suck too. With the right guy, I can kiss for hours â all over. So my conclusion, its not the fucking, rimming or sucking, its not the fantasies and desires, its not the very different quality of loving a man, its kissing that makes me gay. Well, pucker up buddy, here comes a wet one.