Are you going to tell partners that, let alone a wife?
I ask, because an old friend from here, M Zora, used to insist on absolute honesty and this is one of the areas that I just couldn't see that working.
Is it then something that we should accept will be the case?
I mentioned the bf I had whom I loved but was not good in bed. I did not tell him that he wasn't the best lover and I wouldn't do so because that would be unnecessarily hurtful. What would be the point of that information? What is the point of honesty if it harms and it's not necessary for him to know? I wouldn't tell a current lover than another lover outperformed him. I just wouldn't.
Unfortunately, he figured it out since it was a constant problem and I was trying to spice up the sex all the time and encourage him to do more things, he figured out that I was unhappy with our sex life. If he had simply gone with my efforts, and our sex life had become spicier, then he probably would have never figured out that I expected more, that I had come to expect more, but instead of being more fun in the bedroom, he continued to be a bore, so things eventually ended between us.*
*It wasn't quite that cut and dry. He started getting paranoid that I would cheat on him, and he started treating me very badly. His jealousy got out of control and it ended terribly. The worst ending to any relationship I've ever had.
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