Does Porn Skew Your Expectations in a Female Partner?

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I've been reading some threads on another men's sex oriented board and was surprised at the 'locker room' admissions of how much porn has influenced so many of these guy's perceptions of the women they sleep with. Pretty much the fallout is negative.

Now that they're used to porn 24/7 at the click of a mouse button they no longer find erections quite as easy to acquire, real sex isn't as exciting as it used to be and admitted they are more critical of their female partners looks and bodies. One went so far as to say he finds the cellulite and little bits of extra pooch on women he sleeps with as big detractor in his ability to get and maintain an erection. He's decided the only way to fix it is to try to shoot for model-quality women. Another guy said his GF gets much more out of their sex than he does. He finds her lacking compared to porn women so his enthusiasm just isn't there.

I am wondering if this a common thing for men watching any porn or if it's only men who watch porn a lot. Have you noticed if watching porn alters your perceptions of the real women and real sex you're having?
 

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Porn is so weird. Honestly the women are so unrealistic in so many ways. From the fake orgasms, bad bleach jobs with too much hairspray, drag queen makeup, implants you can read the serial numbers on through their thin skin, silly pubic hair patterns, fucked out strung out beyond belief.

They all have this deer in the headlights stupid look about them. But i suppose some men would find that incredibly attractive....even if she is faking it- all the way from her looks to her sounds.
 

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True BedHead but this was common even among the guys who liked the 'realism' of true amateur porn. I was so surprised to read all these quiet admissions that yep...easy access to porn has altered and diminished their enjoyment of sex with real women. To the point that some men despaired. They just can't get hard without great effort with a real woman.

I was a bit surprised as I've always maintained that men are aware that porn is fake and so would not alter their perceptions of real sex with average women but these guys know it was fake yet it diminished their ability to enjoy sex with real women anyway.
 

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I guess if men are all about the physical aspects of sex, then watching porn would affect sex. For me I don't see much real feeling in porn so that aspect still gets me excited in real life. I find women are more attractive in person than in pictures and porn. I'm pretty numb to porn, so the real thing becomes more exciting I'd say.
 

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Sex with a girl has never ever been affected by porn for me I dont think. I HATE straight porn, for example i think any porn of a woman doing a blowjob looks like the sleeziest thing on earth and does little for me.

Seeing a girl going down on me doesnt make me think "whore" lol. Maybe I just don't go for girls that would do porn, rather than saying that I avoid/look for girls that look like porn stars. What I like in girls and porn stars arent really in the same league because one is purely about sexual relief and sex and attraction isn't just about orgasm for me.

As far as body imperfections go I think if anything affects my atrraction or repulsion of such things it is growing up obese and being more and more inclined to go for slimness. On saying that curvy girls can be and are hot, and I would expect them to have things that porn actresses apparently dont.

I also like steamy pleasurable sex thats not really "banging a chick" like they show in most porns, so I wouldnt want to live up to porn at all.
 

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Its hard to wrap my mind around. I am just a big fan of amateur porn. I really hate the mainstream porn lighting with horrible fluorescent lit rooms and the color gets morphed into hypertechnicolor madness. They always seem to sport some 1991 bright banana yellow or hot pink outfits that blind me with that sort of lighting.

Either the women are way too made up, or they are way too played down, im yelling at the computer "Put some blush and lipstick on babe!" i atleast do that much for my own husband most of the time! Maybe its just me!
 

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Yes!

I used to watch alot of porn when I was in my early 20's. I saw so many hot female bodies that I started to use them as a gold standard. The average girl became less attractive to me, and most girls that I met at bars couldn't compete with the girls I saw in these videos. As a result I didn't get laid much.
 

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And yes, porn has ruined the look of blow jobs for me. I thought i looked like a complete idiot doing it too until we cammed it and i thought, well hell all the work i've done to look sexy and not ridiculous has paid off!

I cant look at my husband while im sucking him, i just hate the way the girls eyes bulge out of her head when shes look at the camera. Im just shy like that i suppose. I know i know, its hard to imagine me being shy...thats just one of the few things that make me feel a little more exposed than i like to be...
 

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Yes!

I used to watch alot of porn when I was in my early 20's. I saw so many hot female bodies that I started to use them as a gold standard. The average girl became less attractive to me, and most girls that I met at bars couldn't compete with the girls I saw in these videos. As a result I didn't get laid much.

Thank you Rec3000. I am not asking the question to condemn anyone no matter if they answer in past tense or present. I'm just curious as to this side effect of porn as I've never heard of it until now.
 

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I'm curious to see the guy's answers...I would think if men use porn to get them excited once in awhile, it wouldn't affect their view in real life. But if it's to a point where they are addicted or watching it all the time, that would affect how you view things.

I know as a woman who might watch porn once in awhile, it's easy to get into that...I'll watch it a lot and then I get kind of desensitized and then I'll take a break go without seeing it for a long time...but then porn isn't impt to me at all. It's just interesting once in awhile.
 

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Its so damn easy to get desensitized in porn. But i dont get desensized in a way where i cant see my husband in the same light, or men in general. I get densensized by what visually can physically stimulate me in porn. It makes me understand why bondage and extreme bondage can turn people on, its like the next step for me at this point.
 

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I've been reading some threads on another men's sex oriented board and was surprised at the 'locker room' admissions of how much porn has influenced so many of these guy's perceptions of the women they sleep with. Pretty much the fallout is negative.

Now that they're used to porn 24/7 at the click of a mouse button they no longer find erections quite as easy to acquire, real sex isn't as exciting as it used to be and admitted they are more critical of their female partners looks and bodies. One went so far as to say he finds the cellulite and little bits of extra pooch on women he sleeps with as big detractor in his ability to get and maintain an erection. He's decided the only way to fix it is to try to shoot for model-quality women. Another guy said his GF gets much more out of their sex than he does. He finds her lacking compared to porn women so his enthusiasm just isn't there.

I am wondering if this a common thing for men watching any porn or if it's only men who watch porn a lot. Have you noticed if watching porn alters your perceptions of the real women and real sex you're having?

I don't have the problem of having unrealistic expectations because I look for porn with realistic women in them. Beautiful realistic women, but realistic none the less. I HATE implants.

I will say that the erection thing is true. If you see beautiful naked women doing all kinds of sex acts constantly how could you not have less of a reaction to it (even in real life)? I think it would take years of not seeing porn to get rid of the past 15 years of desensitization to the female form...
 

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People can become desensitized to things like porn, violence, etc over a period of time. Not that I am linking the two of them at all, but merely it's not something one SEES on a regular basis.

Case in point:

-When I was younger, and only rarely exposed to porn, if I had it, I would be beating it like it owed me money. Now, I could practically carry on a conversation with my mother on the phone with porn going in front of me.

-When I first became a regular viewer of the UFC or PRIDE years ago, I was both thrilled and appalled at the utter carnage two men would do to each other. Now, I don't even see the VIOLENCE in it...all I see if fighter strategy during the fights.

But thats me...

...OB
 

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Some people would say that sex with the same person over and over desensitizes them. Maybe some people just get bored with sex over time.

Does reading too many romance novels skew women's expectations in a male partner?
 

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No. Porn does not alter my real sex. As a matter of fact my real sexual contact affects my porn. I tend to focus on what I enjoy in real life when hunting for said stimuli.

The more "real to life" the porn the less I am likely to reject it; the more fantastical the less likely I am to be aroused. This is why I cum so much more with another person than I do by myself.
 

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Some people would say that sex with the same person over and over desensitizes them. Maybe some people just get bored with sex over time. Bored with sex? :eek: I'm sorry this does not compute, please explain. :confused:

Does reading too many romance novels skew women's expectations in a male partner? LOL No, it does not. :lmao: I used to be an avid romance novel reader and I never expected a swashbuckling pirate to capture me and teach me the ways of gypsy love. :biggrin1:
Nor have I ever fantasized about the kind of man normally portrayed on the covers of those bodice rippers. :smile::rolleyes:
 

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Interestingly enough NJ I know girls who are the opposite and refuse anyone who isn't "up to par" with The Fairy Prince from Neverneverland. :/