I have a love hate relationship with porn.
On one hand, I hate it. Back in a high school drama/debate meet, I actually did a speech on the harms and evils of the porn industry. At that time though, I did look at porn all the time. Sure hypocritical, but that doesn't mean I can't hate something that I do, and know effects me in a negative way. Just like an alcoholic can hate other alcoholics and still drink.
Anyway, I dislike porn for the same reasons others have mentioned. Some reasons i have include: it creates unrealistic expectations, it fuel unrealistic fantasies, it's possible it makes people more perverted, and almost always it's completely FAKE.
But so real at the same time.
Which I think is quite strange. How can the aspects and emotions of something be acted out, while actually doing the thing itself?
While a woman is being penetrated in the act of intercourse, she is moaning erotically, and having a look of pleasure on her face that is fake and/or acted out.
Or when a woman acts scared of a large penis in a video, but in reality has seen many similarly large penises and is used to working with them.
Not to mention all the other fake aspects like just the shitty acting in general.
I think this kind of acting is unique. For example, if a person actually broke their leg in a movie, wouldn't it be weird if they acted out fake pain and fake screams?
Okay, it's probably not like that.
I'm just saying, I find porn fascinating. Especially amateur porn. I often wonder what was going on in the minds of the young ladies when they submit themselves to being films. I wonder the same about the 18 an 19 year old actors, barely legal, just as young or younger than myself. I wonder how the experiance changes them. I wonder how their future relationships could work out differently.
When I look at female friends and colleagues, I couldn't imagine any of them doing porn. So I wonder, where do these millions of porn girls come from?
I have seen some pretty amazing things in porn and strangely, some of the best looking women I have seen were women in porn.
During a phase of frequent porn watching, I found that it was harder to get it up by the usual looks kissed from my very pretty, but slightly pudgy girlfriend. I also had more trouble staying hard when the lights were off, or if we were in a car at night. Point is, porn had a small, but significant effect on sex. Sure I could still have sex with my girlfriend and I would want to just as much as ever, but it was just a little harder getting aroused.
After discovering this I watched porn much less frequently. I seldom watch porn now and am planning to not watch at all eventually. I don't think it's fair to my girlfriend who I love and desire sexually as part of that love.
I wouldn't want her pleasuring herself to other men having sex, so why should I have the double standard?
I find that porn is a very addicting and potentially harmful drug.