I think of myself as a pretty regular guy who happens to be gay. I'm not all into "the scene" or going into debt for the latest fashions, nor do I come off as a man acting like a woman. Mind you, I'm not against anyone who feels comfortable that way, but it's just not me. So you'd think I'd be pretty easy-going when it comes to finding someone. However, in my years of dating, I've become perhaps a bit too used to guys who were above average downstairs. I never sought them out, in fact, most of the guys I've dated approached me first, and all but perhaps four or five were anywhere from "kinda big" on up. I guess I'm just built for a larger guy, because too many times I've found myself meeting and liking someone new only to be disappointed in how things go sexually. I'm pretty versatile, but when it comes to being a bottom, I find myself exaggerating my enthusiasm for regular guys. At the same time, I'm not out just for sex, but I'd like to be with someone and feel satisfied that way. I'm pretty average myself (between 6 and 7), and when I've been with guys, I know what I've got has been enough for them, so it makes me feel a little guilty that I feel I need more for me. I never know how to find this bit of information out about a guy without it coming across as just a hook-up request, but from my compatibility standpoint, it's as reasonable a piece of information as any other when it comes to getting to know one another. So what usually happens is I meet someone, we talk and hang out, and when fooling around eventually happens, I sometimes find myself realizing that this guy won't work for me, and then things fizzle. I am afraid that from someone else's perspective, it appears that I'm just leading guys on until I get some, and then drop them when I'm done, but that's so not the case. I am wondering how some of you big guys handle the topic of your endowments. Do you not discuss it and let things happen if and when? Has it become an issue for you in the reverse of my dilemma (i.e., things fizzle because your partner thinks you're too big)? I wish there was a tactful way in those first few "getting to know eachother" talks that I could bring up this topic, but I'm at a loss for how. For me, penis size is a physical attribute that I consider just the same as how I like guys with dark hair, but socially, the former is taken as a sort of fetish and the latter as merely a preference. I guess that's why I decided to join this site, thinking that among its members, there'd be someone who'd be my compliment. If he doesn't exist, would anyone care to share his opinion on this topic? Thanks in advance.