Does sex get better?

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Hey people,

im asking this to men mostly but want female views aswell. Ive recently lost my virginity and to be honest i actually prefer the sensation i get from masturbating. Is this just because im nervous or what? What im trying to say is that does it get better the more you do it?

At first i thought it was just because im inexperienced and once i get better at it it will be better but i used to dream of getting my cock sucked and now that it happens, it doesnt feel as good as i thought.

Please help me out! and tell me if im just being stupid as ive already stated im very inexperienced so i wont take it to heart!

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When you masturbate you are in complete control - you know when to squeeze harder, go faster or slower, etc, etc, etc. This is opposite of intercourse where you are not in complete control and somewhat at the mercy of another person's body. This, combined with emotions, makes sex an entirely different subject, IMHO. Also, your sexual experience depends largely on who you did it with. If they were unexperienced, maybe they did stuff that was not pleasurable.... or that killed the physical feelings...
 

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you really cant judge from one experience. It will vary depending on your partner. You proably just didnt luck out with the perfect partner your first time -- not surprising.
(not clear from your post -- was this loss of virginity from intercourse? or getting sucked? if getting sucked, it is even more dependent upon the skills of your partner....also, as you guessed, your own state of relaxation & confidence.)
 

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Hey, davey_boy

I'm here to tell you that it will get better. Sex is not just a physical thing. It's just as much a mental thing. When you wrap your mind around having sex instead of just being horny and turning your body over to it, you'll enjoy it more, you'll expect something different from it every time. Didn't get have your mind involved in your masturbation technique? Weren't you thinkin' of something specific while you were strokin' it? The same thing is necessary with intercourse. Just give it time and WANT to learn about it instead of just doing it. Have fun! Happy travels:cool:
 

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Hey, davey_boy

I'm here to tell you that it will get better. Sex is not just a physical thing. It's just as much a mental thing. When you wrap your mind around having sex instead of just being horny and turning your body over to it, you'll enjoy it more, you'll expect something different from it every time. Didn't get have your mind involved in your masturbation technique? Weren't you thinkin' of something specific while you were strokin' it? The same thing is necessary with intercourse. Just give it time and WANT to learn about it instead of just doing it. Have fun! Happy travels:cool:

you never fail to help me 8060, thanks a lot...i just think its in my mind and i need to forget about it and just have fun.
 

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you never fail to help me 8060, thanks a lot...i just think its in my mind and i need to forget about it and just have fun.
I'm at your service, davey_boy. You're right. You're thinking about it too hard. Just fuck like you've been fuckin' for years. It's as natural as breathing. Just let yourself go. You're probably a freak in the bed & don't even know it yet:biggrin1::wink:
 

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I know there are some on here who will disagree with me (the poke-a-virgin syndrome) but in my experience, it gets better not just by doing it more, but doing it more with one person.

One-time sex partners are OK, but each time, you are starting over from scratch. Each successive time you have sex with a specific person, you learn more, and you can pick up where you left off. It gives you a much better opportunity to explore your sexuality, and that other person's.
 

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I know there are some on here who will disagree with me (the poke-a-virgin syndrome) but in my experience, it gets better not just by doing it more, but doing it more with one person.

One-time sex partners are OK, but each time, you are starting over from scratch. Each successive time you have sex with a specific person, you learn more, and you can pick up where you left off. It gives you a much better opportunity to explore your sexuality, and that other person's.
I agree with you, DC, but davey_boy is in a committed relationship and we wouldn't want to taint his behavior. He has a long way to go so we just have to be patient:cool:
 

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I agree with what's been said so far; the more you get to know one person the better it is, and the more you can communicate and let your partner know how to please you the better it is. I lost my virginity to a fellow virgin, so you can imagine what that was like. If it hadn't been for porn (yes its not real but its an idea) and reading these forums when I was younger I would have been lost. Luckily, once you get it out of your system and you're comfortable with it you'll get better. Eventually it will come naturally.
 

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I agree with what's been said so far; the more you get to know one person the better it is, and the more you can communicate and let your partner know how to please you the better it is. I lost my virginity to a fellow virgin, so you can imagine what that was like. If it hadn't been for porn (yes its not real but its an idea) and reading these forums when I was younger I would have been lost. Luckily, once you get it out of your system and you're comfortable with it you'll get better. Eventually it will come naturally.
Well said! Porn is an excellent teaching tool when it comes to developing one's sexual technique. Two virgins together losing their virginity...that sounds hot. Communication is so CRUCIAL when it comes to enjoying sex. If you find out that you like something...specific (I won't say 'nasty' because my mind will go there) then you have an obligation to tell the person that you're sleeping with. Otherwise you'll never enjoy yourself and your partner will eventually lose the fire that they once had for you. Boredom is a relationship killer.
 

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this is great help my mindset is changing as we speak, im really looking forward to seeing my girlfriend in a few hours!
 

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you need to train her young Padwan.

Train her in the ways of the penis, or in this case, yours.

AND DONT BE SHY. The rewards are endless.
 

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It definitely gets better, Davey Boy. Relax and have fun. I am 46 and have been fucking for 31 years. Trust me, whatever your preference for positions, etc., it gets better. As pointed out above, the skill level and desire of your partner(s) will impact things, but even the less-satisfying experiences will get better with age. I'm sure you have noticed that masturbation gets better with age, too, right?
 

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My personality is a bit of an introvert & an extrovert. It really depends on the atmosphere. I like to pay attention to the things going on around me. Then I act accordingly. I'm laid back in a social setting but behind my closed doors is where I 'let myself go.' And they keep coming back. I'm not even going to share what I do behind them but trust me when I tell you that's it's quite memorable:wink:
 

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davey_boy, sounds like you are on the right track. I wasn't aware that you were in an exclusive relationship, as was so kindly pointed out to me by 8060 (how the hell did he know, by the way?:biggrin1:)

With all that's been said so far, one thing has been left out: since you are new at all this, one thing I can't stress enough for you. Communicate! Tell her what feels good and what doesn't. Encourage her to do the same. Don't be embarrassed. Everyone is different, and no one is a mind-reader. What works for one partner doesn't always work for another partner.

Give it a couple of months, and give us a follow up report!
 

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davey_boy, sounds like you are on the right track. I wasn't aware that you were in an exclusive relationship, as was so kindly pointed out to me by 8060 (how the hell did he know, by the way?:biggrin1:)
You don't wanna know how I find out all of these things, DC. Just feel glad that I use the information that I know only for good deeds:biggrin1:
 

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I know there are some on here who will disagree with me (the poke-a-virgin syndrome) but in my experience, it gets better not just by doing it more, but doing it more with one person.

One-time sex partners are OK, but each time, you are starting over from scratch. Each successive time you have sex with a specific person, you learn more, and you can pick up where you left off. It gives you a much better opportunity to explore your sexuality, and that other person's.[/

I cant speak for men, but sex definitly gets better with the same person, your body holds memory so it kinda builds on what it already knows and feels
 

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Bravo, Miss Carver. Standing ovation to you.

davey_boy, take heed to the advice from the women. What you grow into with your sexual partner from sleeping with them on a regular basis, i.e. your likes/dislikes/allowances and such, you may not have the same opportunity with a new partner. It is not set in stone, but it is a possibility.
 

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Yes... a string of one night stands is a string of mediocre sexual escapades...

It takes months or years for a couple to really learn HOW to pleasure each other in the way that works best for each of them.

Take time to learn your lover's body... find a lover who is as interested in learning yours.

The major league sex you will have after 6 months together will make the first time seem like T-ball.