it's no joke! it totally happened to me.
i was talking about his post.
Does she want sex if she spends the night?
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Ok so some of you think I'm in the friend zone and some of you think she wanted to have sex but I didn't make the move. My question for the friend zone supporters:
I've known her for 3 weeks and she wants to come over at 1am to spend the night... I've never had another woman who was "just a friend" do that. Granted I've never had that many women friends though. But that doesn't seem like usual behavior if she honestly just wanted to be friends with me...
I've known her for 3 weeks and she wants to come over at 1am to spend the night... I've never had another woman who was "just a friend" do that. Granted I've never had that many women friends though. But that doesn't seem like usual behavior if she honestly just wanted to be friends with me...
You said you were a virgin, so how many women that showed "unusual behavior" come over and tried to have sex woth you? Women are tricky in the sense that you, as a guy, will never figure them out.
I used to make out with this girl, or give her a long, hot, good bye kiss at the end of our group friend outings, cause we both thought it was funny. It didnt mean she wanted to have sex. We were just friends. Maybe the thought of having sex might of crossed ours minds secretly for a brief second, but it never went anywhere because we were friends. In fact, it didnt even merit a conversation. So should I assume she wanted to have sex just because we would do that? NO.
Actually the 1st time she spent the night was literally a week after we met. She did not know I was a passive virgin yet. No way she could have been "comfortable" with me yet. Women don't just go over and spend the night with guys they've known for literally a week if they have no interest in sex do they?
For your sake, you should assume they dont. Maybe more ladies here can fill you in on this subject. Dont fall into the old, "But your Honor, look at what she was wearing. She obviously wanted it. How can someone wearing that call it rape?"
Young women do all kinds of things that make no sense. And I say that from having been one myself.
It seems that she is fairly confident since she will call a guy she's only known a week in the middle of the night and ask to come over to sleep with him. If she is confident enough to do that, she is likely confident enough to make a move if she does want to have sex with you.
I would guess that she feels "safe" enough with you to get some affection and cuddling, which she misses since she is still hung up on the ex, without feeling like it will lead to sex, which she is not ready for emotionally since she is still hung up on the ex. She may be debating an attraction to you and her feelings around her break-up.
The question is what do YOU want? If you care for her, like her, would want a friendship with her at the least, do not make a move. Let her come around to it in her own time, if she ever does come around to it. (I did once have a relationship that began this way, so given time, it could happen.)
If you like her but don't want to be used as a surrogate cuddle, tell her so. It's better to be honest and up-front.
If you really don't care at all, make a move. She will either reciprocate or she will get pissed and not use you as a human teddy bear any more.
It seems that she is fairly confident since she will call a guy she's only known a week in the middle of the night and ask to come over to sleep with him. If she is confident enough to do that, she is likely confident enough to make a move if she does want to have sex with you.
I would guess that she feels "safe" enough with you to get some affection and cuddling, which she misses since she is still hung up on the ex, without feeling like it will lead to sex, which she is not ready for emotionally since she is still hung up on the ex. She may be debating an attraction to you and her feelings around her break-up.
The question is what do YOU want? If you care for her, like her, would want a friendship with her at the least, do not make a move. Let her come around to it in her own time, if she ever does come around to it. (I did once have a relationship that began this way, so given time, it could happen.)
If you like her but don't want to be used as a surrogate cuddle, tell her so. It's better to be honest and up-front.
If you really don't care at all, make a move. She will either reciprocate or she will get pissed and not use you as a human teddy bear any more.
B_talltpaguy
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Depends if they have anywhere to go, other than home to parents who ride them 24/7.
When I broke up with my g/f around the end of January, she promptly started 'dating' another guy, who she essentially started living with almost immediately (stays the night there like 4-5 nights a week, spends day times there when he is at work, unless she has somewhere better to go (like over to my house to fuck... she's on her way here right now actually, because this guy is having a dude's night. lolz)...
Some chicks are like that... They'll use their sexuality as a tool to get what they want.
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I'm sorry I did not read the whole thread, but in my experience unless she's homeless or is trying to avoid a situation where she lives; she wants to have sex.
Ah... the mysteries of female logic. (It all makes perfect sense to me!!)
Incocknito
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Most likely.
The point is that if these late night wrestles and spoonings (more like dry humping?) continue, sooner or later one or both of you will be ripping the other's clothes off.
I would only worry if she never came round again. But it sounds like she will. And even if she doesn't you have had experience of wrestling and 'spooning' which you can share with the next woman that ends up in your bed.
You say you're shy but if you get horny enough you WILL take the initiative. Although personally I prefer women to do the jumping on bones unless I'm in a relationship with them.
I'm probably gonna go with this. I do kind of like her and I'm not down to be her cuddle buddy. Thanks for all the advice guys. I think in the future I'm just going to make it clear that no one sleeps in my bed unless they plan to take it somewhere lol.
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B_FatMushroomHead
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At least try. Why the hell not? Pussy is great and she's old enough to know that guys will try to get the pussy.
B_ordinarydude88
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yeah man, next time youre fooling around and you can tell shes getting horny, kick it up a notch, then when you can tell shes super horny tell her "lets fuck". if she wants to, then you win. if she doesnt, big deal, at least she will quit mindfucking you and leave you alone. and if she says no, ask her "well wtf is this all about" about her coming over and fooling around, just ask her what she wants, worst case scenario is she gets mad and leaves and doesnt talk to you for a few days...
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What........in the hell!? Next time she comes over @ 1am grab that pussy & if she aint with it escort her ass OUT. This whole situation is some bullshit. I don't ever crawl in the bed with a man that I'm not expecting to fuck.
Advice that strong works for men and women who are already very experienced and comfortable with going forward at a fast pace. The guy who posted this is a shy virgin with some first timer anxiety.
Also, consider that he tried to kiss her once, but she denied him the opportunity. (At least that is how I read his first post.)
There are so many ways to hint about sharing sex when a girl stays over, and no girl's going to take offence by politely declining if she truly doesn't want it! But if you don't hint, then it's never going to happen. Don't worry about allegations of rape, because the hint you make is one that has a yes or no answer.
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