B_ordinarydude88
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ps: post an update as to what happens next time she comes over... you will either have lost your V card, or have a nice slap print across your face
i get no smugness from being right this time.She responded with someone like "alright you caught me, I just wanted a cuddle buddy and I'm sorry if I led you on".
Well I talked to her. I told her that when she comes over at 1am to spend the night and cuddle every straight guy in the world is going to draw 1 of 2 conclusions, you want sex or you like me. And then I told her that if both of those conclusions are wrong and shes just using me as a cuddle buddy then she needs to find someone else. I'm not sure if that was a good approach or not but w/e because I already did it.
She responded with someone like "alright you caught me, I just wanted a cuddle buddy and I'm sorry if I led you on".
So if that's actually true she won't be comming over anymore lol. I'm going to let my ego win anyway, I still think she kind of likes me. Not gonna let her take the little confidence I have.
Hey, I want in on that prize too!!! :smile:i get no smugness from being right this time.
sorry she messed you around.
but on the plus side you must be a very likable person, or she wouldn't have used you that way.
Congrats. You handled that like a MAN. Props to you, I am proud!Well I talked to her. I told her that when she comes over at 1am to spend the night and cuddle every straight guy in the world is going to draw 1 of 2 conclusions, you want sex or you like me. And then I told her that if both of those conclusions are wrong and shes just using me as a cuddle buddy then she needs to find someone else. I'm not sure if that was a good approach or not but w/e because I already did it.
She responded with someone like "alright you caught me, I just wanted a cuddle buddy and I'm sorry if I led you on".
So if that's actually true she won't be comming over anymore lol. I'm going to let my ego win anyway, I still think she kind of likes me. Not gonna let her take the little confidence I have.
Eh...I think she is testing you. She knows you're pretty passive and won't force yourself on her (which is what many guys would do if a woman crawled into bed with them at 1am and cuddled and wrestled). If she doesn't want sex...that's really odd behavior.
I'm terrible with women. I was extremely shy most of my life and I've always been insanely passive around women. I'm actually a virgin, despite having a lot of opportunities at sex, due to my passiveness. I need serious help with my current situation:
I've been hanging out with this girl recently who says she still has some feelings for her ex and just wants friends for now. Twice now she has hit me up and asked if she could come hang out, both very late like 12:00 and 1 am. And yes she ended up spending the night both times which I'm assuming was her intention beforehand. We did not have sex but we did spoon and wrestle. Due to my passiveness I didn't really make a move aside from grabbing her ass. We've been hanging out for a few weeks now and I haven't even kissed her. I was actually denied the only time I tried.
Am I being an idiot here for not making a move? If a woman wants to come over and spend the night does she for sure want sex? Should I just grab a titty next time, if there is a next time? Anyone have any advice??
Haha I hope you're right. It really seems like she likes me somewhat but like I said I'm terrible with reading women. Her just toying with me and not giving a shit wouldn't shock me either. I don't think I should be hitting her up for atleast a week or two though, if at all.It sounds like she wants to have fun with a guy right now, she doesnt want to get serious w/ you or anyone thats not her ex. So my advice: GET DRUNK and see where the fun leads you. If you want her to take your virginity I think she will. It seems like she likes you but just doesnt want to get serious. Getting drunk never fails. Good luck and let us know what happens.
I'm terrible with women. I was extremely shy most of my life and I've always been insanely passive around women. I'm actually a virgin, despite having a lot of opportunities at sex, due to my passiveness. I need serious help with my current situation:
I've been hanging out with this girl recently who says she still has some feelings for her ex and just wants friends for now. Twice now she has hit me up and asked if she could come hang out, both very late like 12:00 and 1 am. And yes she ended up spending the night both times which I'm assuming was her intention beforehand. We did not have sex but we did spoon and wrestle. Due to my passiveness I didn't really make a move aside from grabbing her ass. We've been hanging out for a few weeks now and I haven't even kissed her. I was actually denied the only time I tried.
Am I being an idiot here for not making a move? If a woman wants to come over and spend the night does she for sure want sex? Should I just grab a titty next time, if there is a next time? Anyone have any advice??
I'm going to let my ego win anyway, I still think she kind of likes me. Not gonna let her take the little confidence I have.
Well I talked to her. I told her that when she comes over at 1am to spend the night and cuddle every straight guy in the world is going to draw 1 of 2 conclusions, you want sex or you like me. And then I told her that if both of those conclusions are wrong and shes just using me as a cuddle buddy then she needs to find someone else. I'm not sure if that was a good approach or not but w/e because I already did it.
She responded with someone like "alright you caught me, I just wanted a cuddle buddy and I'm sorry if I led you on".
So if that's actually true she won't be comming over anymore lol. I'm going to let my ego win anyway, I still think she kind of likes me. Not gonna let her take the little confidence I have.
She really hasn't taken anything from you. Chalk it up to a "Now I know..." experience. She may not like you that way (yet) but she likes you some or else she wouldn't have wanted you touching her at all.
Dude, women are not always about sex. They are sensitive cratures that need kindness. I have a woman friend who has seen some of the pics I have on this site, so she knows very well what she could have, but I have spent the night with her several times only holding her close & giving her non-sexual kindness. She is a single mom & amazingly sexy & hell yes &'d bang her in a heartbeat & we would both love it physically, but what she & I have is actually beyond sex & sex is not what she needs from me either, so she gets my kindness & friendship. It is totally OK to care for a woman without taking it to sex. If she wants it, she'll let you know...I'm terrible with women. I was extremely shy most of my life and I've always been insanely passive around women. I'm actually a virgin, despite having a lot of opportunities at sex, due to my passiveness. I need serious help with my current situation:
I've been hanging out with this girl recently who says she still has some feelings for her ex and just wants friends for now. Twice now she has hit me up and asked if she could come hang out, both very late like 12:00 and 1 am. And yes she ended up spending the night both times which I'm assuming was her intention beforehand. We did not have sex but we did spoon and wrestle. Due to my passiveness I didn't really make a move aside from grabbing her ass. We've been hanging out for a few weeks now and I haven't even kissed her. I was actually denied the only time I tried.
Am I being an idiot here for not making a move? If a woman wants to come over and spend the night does she for sure want sex? Should I just grab a titty next time, if there is a next time? Anyone have any advice??