Does size influence pleasure?

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  1. Imported

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    Banez: I've read some things, and heard anectdotal things, about how a very large penis is capable of feeling more pleasure than a more average sized one. The idea, I guess, is that there are more nerves along the senstive spots, as a result of being larger.
    I don't know if this is true or not. One thing I have noticed, is that the guys in porn who have those really huge ones seem to be "affected" more by the stimulation they get.
     
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    Interestingly enough, I have also heard this. Wonder if we're getting info from the same source? It seems logical enough, but the difficulty would be in comparison. One thing that comes to mind is that a guy with a larger cock would probably have less hangups, at least with regard to cock size and therefore be freer to enjoy the experience. Physiologically though, I'll leave that part to the experts.
     
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    Just A Guy: Hmmm its possible, but I think the biggest differance is in having sex. It is much easier and pleasant to be able to have a constant long thrusting motion than a constant short thrusting motion. Oddly enough not unlike using a saw on a block of wood, longer strokes are better because there is no need to reverse direction as often.
     
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    Saying that, the head is the most sensitive part, so perhaps it depends on how sensitive your shaft is?
     
  5. Imported

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    Banez: Madam Zora, I read it at two websites on the net somewhere, and some references to the issue were made in a textbook I'm using for a Human Sexuality class.
    Check out some of the guys in porn who have those really large ones, their reactions to stimulation and during orgasm just seem so much more acute.
    I think the length of the thrusts could be part of this. But I read some about there being more nerve endings due to the simple fact there is more penis there. So for every thrust they feel that much more pleasure.
    Have you noticed the more "affected" reaction those super big ones seem to have?
    A good website to see some of that is at www.biggestdickinporn.com
     
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    While there may be something to the thrust length thing, don't make assumptions about sexuality based on porn. Porn actors are performers. They are trying to arouse the viewer, not necessarily each other.

    I think these answers vary much more on the individual. In some women, the curvature or head size might hit her spots better than thickness or length will. It's really about compatibility between the two people.
     
  7. madame_zora

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    Banez, I got my info which sounds almost verbatim to what you've said, from a nurse involved in conducting a study on male sexuality. She is a lurker here, so I wondered if perhaps you had talked. If not, what you're saying seems to correlate very closely to the conclusions she has found. Her study is very new and therefore not comrehensive, but there is enough cause for curiousity. She seems to have a well-funded and staffed legitmate operation going on, so I will be intrigued to see what develops in the coming year.

    Aloofman, I also agree that the chemistry between two individuals is what makes sex electrifying! I almost hate the notion of studying so minutely something that is so complex in nature. Her sample, as I recall is only about 30 guys, but they are all over 10'' (which her study requires) so it will be difficult if not impossible to get a huge number. NPI.
     
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    Just A Guy: The obvious come back question to this is do woman with larger breasts enjoy them being fondled more than woman with smaller breasts simply because there is more to fondle?
     
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    The answer there is no. Nipple size also makes no difference either way. I have heard from many sources that it is very common for women who have had so-called 'breast enhancements' (implants) to loose some or all sensitvity or feeling in their nipples.
    Zora, you've probably encountered more bolt-ons thatn anyone due to the nature of your work. What have you heard?
     
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    This is an interesting topic. From all the hung guys I've talked to, they enjoy feelings of sex that most average guys can't enjoy, like the feeling of going in, and in...and in. Also, the longer strokes (someone else said that too) that don't require reversing as often, and the feeling of tightness that thicker guys will get inside a girl. It's possible that these feelings, being more unique to size, cause more pleasure than average or small guys.

    I've always felt the biggest pleasure of a big dick, though, is psychological- the feeling of being better endowed than most guys and really enjoying it. That's all in your attitude, though. Big guys who are really shy about their size can't appreciate the psych feeling as much.

    ~Aly
     
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    Lapdog, the question is real vs. enhancements? I've heard from an overwhelming majority of women who have implants that they have lost sensetivity. For women who have natural large breasts, i guess like men- it depends on how large. In the D to F range- they still live pretty normal lives and are able to enjoy them. Although since breasts are fat, usually it is larger women who have larger breasts, hence the cruelty in advertising that very small women have huge knockers when that is extremely rare. As for sesitivity, up to a point, I would say that more nerve endings on a larger surface would mean yes- but the nipple is by far the most sensitive area and this really seems to be just an individual thing. Larger natural breats than size F usually are very heavy and can cause strain on the back, which I would imagine detracts from the pleasure.
     
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    Alysen .. your research ;) confirms my own feelings about this. But most of it has to be guesswork, we don't know what another differently sized man's experience is at first hand.

    Even if it is true that the nerve ends are concentrated in the glans (and I think I must have quite a few lower down ;)), the sensations I get on a very long stroke are amazing. I think it is the length of stroke (what is better than going in and in and in?) and the tightness of the fit. The deeper you go the more surface area there is in contact, therefore the more friction, and the thicker you are the more the pressure is increased. Even after many years and with a lot of care and lube I still get the odd bruise or even abrasion and bleeding where the skin has been pulled back too strongly and too far: one other sign of the excess pressure —and pleasure — involved.

    The flip side is the care and preparation needed, but even more the need to hold back if you know you cannot go to full depth. That can be more frustrating than you can imagine.
     
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    First of, I have to say I am pretty skeptical of this whole topic. Experience would tell me that I am capable of both really intense and pleasurable and really, really bad sex with the same penis. Counting nerve endings seems a bit superfluous.

    As far as what does matter, we need to remember that there are a lot more nerve endings in the brain that in the penis. This comes into play with psychological issues. For instance, the first few times I take out my cock in the presence of a new partner, I feel comfort that it is not small. After these first few times my dick is just my dick and neither of us will generally have any reaction to its size.

    From a physiological standpoint, someone hinted at on element that matters (at least to me). Guys always talk about a woman having a tight box. At nearly 6 ½ inches around, every vagina I have ever had the pleasure to enter is tight. In fact, aside from the obvious pleasure of giving and receiving orgasms, one of my favorite physical sensations is working through the initial penetration. Give her a little, she wriggles around and gets comfortable, repeat. (If this is accompanied by an “Oh my god, you are so fat,” all the better.) Even after 15 years, my ex-wife and I still took our time on that first contact. Plunging it all the way in is of no real use to either party and wasting an opportunity in my book.

    One other thing that comes to mind is the element of surprise. We’ve worked the concept of a woman’s first reaction to death, so I’ll leave that alone. As the LPSG has evolved (and we seem to get more posters that don’t actually have any experience with a large penis), the focus has shifted from things you can’t do easily or with regularity. As an example, I would guess a guy with 5” x 4” gets deepthroated with some regularity. While probably still cool, it is old news. It took 25 years of sexual activity until I got deepthroated for the first time, by my current girlfriend. It came out of nowhere and the jolt of electricity that went through my whole body was palpable. It was a thrill I won’t soon forget, in large part because it was unexpected. It involved nerve endings all over my body, not just in my dick.

    Really, you are in a lot of trouble if you are a penis focused guy during sex. A better plan is to pretty much forget about your dick and starting thinking about doing everything you can to get your partner off in a major way. This attention to detail will generally get reciprocated and, even if you only had one nerve in your cock, she will find it and make sure you get everything you have coming to you.

    Steps down off the soapbox…
     
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    It will be interesting to see if we can hear Lady Lindsey's experience with this...


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    Even if it is true that the nerve ends are concentrated in the glans (and I think I must have quite a few lower down ;)), the sensations I get on a very long stroke are amazing. I think it is the length of stroke (what is better than going in and in and in?) and the tightness of the fit. The deeper you go the more surface area there is in contact, therefore the more friction, and the thicker you are the more the pressure is increased.
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    I&#39;m inclined to agree more with this argument than simply that &#39;the bigger the penis the more nerves there are&#39;. I&#39;d personally guess that the amount of nerves is the same (or at least similar) no matter the size, but the smaller the penis, the more concentrated, and so as the nerves are stimulated much more simultaneously, the effect is lessened. Of course, the opposite would be true of the larger penis - the nerves would be more spread out, and so sensation time lengthened (no pun intended).
     
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    what was that study about?
     
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    This is an interesting topic. (Though I&#39;m not sure why it&#39;s under "women&#39;s issues" since it&#39;s really about how size influences a man&#39;s pleasure.) I have often wondered if my penis feels more/better than a smaller penis because there is just more penis to feel with. As others have observed, it is probably impossible to tell because no one has a basis to compare his own feelings with one sized penis with those with another sized penis. Like how many licks it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop, the world may never know.

    The observation about porn stars is interesting, but not exactly scientific. If those guys appear to be getting more pleasure than an average size man, it could just be their "acting" giving that impression. Who can say?

    I think, from a purely physical size perspective, in intercourse it is much more automatic for a large penis to feel the vaginal tightness that seems to be the holy grail for men with "normal" size penises. Whenever I was asked "was she tight?" my answer was always--truthfully--"They&#39;re all tight to me." :) The flip side is that smaller men probably get more pleasure from oral sex. But all this is somewhat different from the issue of whether a large penis is simply a more sensitive instrument for receiving pleasure.

    All I can say for sure is that my penis gives me great pleasure, for which I&#39;m thankful, and I hope it continues to for many years to come.
     
  17. cooter

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    In general, it seems like the "ideal" penis size is 8 in long by 6 in around. How does everyone feel about a penis 6 in long and 8 in around? Would it be as pleasurable? On a square inch basis, it would be stimulating the same amount of nerves? Thoughts?
     
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