Freddie-While I respect you, you are wrong. All Bicurious means is it's another word for a person who is really bisexual but is afraid to admit it to themselves and come out. Sorry 80% of men are not bisexual despite what you think. 80% of the men here on LPSG may be bisexual as you have people who claim that they are both straight and gay when they are neither and are really bisexual since they are sexually attracted to both genders, and you have people here on LPSG who actually are straight and gay on here who are not bisexual, but it is not like this in society at all. Just take a look around, if bisexuality were really that common or even nearly as prevalent as you think it is, there would be no need for gay and bisexual people to even come out of the closet and it would be no big deal to be something other than heterosexual. I'm not sure where you are getting your numbers from but most people are heterosexual. As far as homophobes go yes some are really gay men who just act upon their inner fears of their sexuality but the majority are just people who do not like GLBT people. It's like saying that ALL people who are racist are somehow deep down desiring sex or a relationship with the race that they hate when this is not the case. It is entirely possible to be completely heterosexual and yet homophobic.
I appreciate your discussion. First, terms have definitions. Who gives the definitions? We do. Some words have 10 more more definitions listed for a word.
Where i cam going with this is we will never get anywhere trying to define a word here and all agree with it. We all have put qualifications on the word such as gay, straight, bi curious and bi. I doubt many people will change the definition they have in their mind because of this thread.
You disagree. I respect that as well. My information came from a workshop about sexuality. The person was an "expert" Of course not all "experts" agree. I wish I had the original information. Sadly I don't.
This is what he actually said:
"Ten percent of men are NOT capable of having any kind of sex with another man. Ten percent are not capable of having sex with a woman.
The rest of the men 80% are capable under the right conditions of having either gay or straight sex."
That is what he actually said. Now suppose he is right and we all agree that those statistics are correct. That still doesn't mean we will all interpret those statistics in the same way.
That does not mean that all those 80 percent will every desire anything but a straight relationship. That is the way our society is geared. Kind of like you parents, brothers and sisters and children - no even idle thought it allowed in our minds concerning certain sexual activities and for most people that includes sex with someone of the same gender.
Much of what I wrote is how I interpreted that information. We all can interpret that information differently. The "expert" may not even be correct in his research.
This research and workshop was several years ago. I don't remember if it was a church or school related workshop where that statement was made.
Different research and surveys might find different percentages. But the fact remains: There are some guys who can only successfully have sex with a woman, not a man. There are some guys who can only successfully have sex with another man. There are other men who under the right conditions can complete and enjoy a sexual act with either men or women.
Those are your three groups; Gay, straight and bisexual. We may have trouble with labels.
There is sex which is purely getting sexual release. There is "being in love" Just because a man can successfully "get off" if another man gives him a blow job or not is not anywhere close to the question of whether that man can also "be in love" with a gay person
Consider the horny college or high school boy who in his mind is seeing some cute chick in his mind while a guy friend is giving him a blow job.
He is getting a blow job from a guy, but in his mind he is fantasizing about a girl in his high school or college. So is he gay, straight, or bisexual?
It is MY OPINION that most homophobic people are scared shit less that they might have gay tendencies. A few homophobic people are that way because of their strict religious upbringing.
