Does this make me a slut????

[SpoiledPrincess]

For me it's the attitude of the women that defines sluttishness, if they're doing it from issues arising from self esteem and not because they like sex then I think that constitutes sluttishness - however, the women who are doing that are the ones who need the most understanding and the least judgement.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

2 sexual partners per year is acceptable.... lets just say you tend to have bad relationships.. (w/e) in 20 years thats 40 partners.. but if in less than 3 years you have 40 partners, sorry it is not the same thing..

That last sentence implying that, correct me if I am wrong, someone with 40 partners in 3 years is a slut.

Who appointed you judge of what is acceptable and what is not?

Didn't you tell me once you wanted to fuck your way around the world?

Do you label yourself a slut?

 

[billybulge]

Slut...NO way. You are an angel with that record.

 

[Peter19]

It makes you my dream woman.

You're husband is insanely lucky.

 

[jeff black]

That last sentence implying that, correct me if I am wrong, someone with 40 partners in 3 years is a slut.

Who appointed you judge of what is acceptable and what is not?

Didn't you tell me once you wanted to fuck your way around the world?

Do you label yourself a slut?

Look at his photos.. he's had sex with AT least 4 girls this year... PLUS, I remember when he first came around, he was claiming to have 4-5 girls on the go.

Hence my question about him being a porn star. I imagine he feels that he is a slut now.

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

I thought the point behind this thread was to judge the sexual character of HotMILF, not average sexual partners and relationships?

Hotmilf, I don't believe you are any of the adjectives you've listed, (In particular Bill Clinton unless there's something you've omitted.:biggrin
perhaps maybe a lapse in judgement of your partners, but slut doesn't ever give you the appropo adjective.

 

[Axcess]

Thanks Jeff - that's a very thorough explanation of where you're coming from.

I think it is intersting both Jeff and David see it in similar ways - that there is somewhere a line that gets crossed between 'person who enjoys sex' and 'slut'.

Looking at responses here and in the other thread about sluts I find it curious that all of us (even when, like Jeff [and I'd say me too], we try not to judge) feel that there is such thing as a slut but that the definition is really vague - and often shifts depending on several factors.

For some people it appears to be about number of partners over a given time - that is what milf is asking us to consider. She is also asking us to consider the relationships she had with the men she has had sex with. She even considers two incidents that many would consider rape in her list that we should judge her on (even though her consent was not given)*. Both in this thread and the other, people are discussing the motivation for sex, the choice of partner, their feelings for the person who may or may not be considered a slut, and so on.

Looking at the highly objective way that this is judged socially, even by the open minded, starts me wondering if sluts exist at all. Is it not just a term we use, mainly for women but more these days for men too, to define a sexual behaviour that we don't understand? There are a few people who take the term and apply it to themselves (usually defiantly) but most of us do not think of ourselves as sluts and define slut as something else. And who is to say why a person feels the need / want of many partners - who is to say (if that needs comes from insecurity, sexual energy, an inability to be close without sexual contact, or something else) that it is something to be judged entirely negatively. Like Jeff says, he feels different about the people he feels he understands / knows - How can we judge the motivations of people when we don't know the full story?

I don't see why we need the word 'slut' at all. The word is dismissive and derisory. Promiscuous is a much better word - it doesn't judge and is easier to quantify. It is still relative and open to interpretation but it leaves the motivations of the promiscuous person unquestioned.

So - getting back to the OP - no, hotmilf, you aren't a slut because I don't believe in sluts, they don't exist. You aren't promiscuous either - not by modern standards. Having said all that, I am kind of left wondering why you care how other people might define you?


*I'm not questioning your motivation there, milf, I'm just looking at the question (hopefully) objectively - I hope you don't find this offensive - that certainly is not my intent.

Actually I was joking all time . I don't judge people because their sexual life or practices. I don't like this doble standard that glorify men because they have sex with many woman but put down woman that do the same.

 

[B_Jennuine73]

I agree with MB, there are no sluts, only judgements.

 

[Sixofspades]

America has a thing for female purity and virginity which means we take even slight promiscuity in women badly - even though I don't think ten partners is promiscuous at all. In any case, it's just one of those old puritan values that we haven't quite shaken off yet. Were you born 50 years from now, you would've been just fine.

 

[Damian Johnson]

You are an angel compared to me baby :biggrin1:

 

[B_Think_Kink]

This pole is stupid. Who cares what people think. It's your life.

 

[Mule]

An idiot for posting this thread you can fuck who you want and if you feel you're not a slut then you're not, we're in charge of our sexuality, no one else.

What she said. You're a sweet, wonderful, gorgeous woman with your own mind. Not a slut.

 

[snoozan]

I chose none of the above because I have no business judging your sexual behavior, nor does anyone else. Further, I don't care. It doesn't make my (or most people's) interactions with you any different than if you'd only had sex when you conceived your children, and those times through a hole in a sheet.

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

Wow. If having sex with 10 men makes you a slut, then I don't even want to KNOW what I would be called...

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Wow. If having sex with 10 men makes you a slut, then I don't even want to KNOW what I would be called...

Meg :smile:

 

[Principessa]

If you are a slut with only 10 partners, then I must be the Whore of Babylon with 12 partners. I haven't even been married. :frown1:

I am interested to know at what number of partners (in a given time frame) it stops being 'just fine' in your perception.

I'm not sure, it's one of those things I know when I see.

America has a thing for female purity and virginity which means we take even slight promiscuity in women badly - even though I don't think ten partners is promiscuous at all. In any case, it's just one of those old puritan values that we haven't quite shaken off yet. Were you born 50 years from now, you would've been just fine.

This is true, we are still very puritanical.

 

[Ethyl]

I'm not a slut. I'm a connoisseur of men.

 

[Qua]

You're Bill Clinton. That option just made me laugh so I chose it. I believe that may have something to do with its popularity.

 

[Hand_Solo]

Heh, Hotmilf, I don't think that makes you a slut at all.

 

[185248]

S_L_U_T
L_U_S_T..........mmmmmmmm, I see nothing wrong with either or . Depends on your frame of mind and your definition of the word. If you find it derogatory, then it will be that way.


I lust for fruitcake with lots of butter.............spose that makes me a fruitcake slut..........or just a fruitcake