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There's no wrong or right way to deal with unrequited sexual or romantic attraction in a friendship and it's up to both individuals involved in how they deal with it.
Yet every time I hear someone say they have the best friendship with someone they were rejected by or hang out with friends they have a sexual attraction to, something doesn't sit right. You can never kill desire, you can only suppress it.
Even when people say the desire fades out, there are many stories where unrequited attraction turns into requited attraction. So to me it's clear genuine desire never goes away and most people go into the 'friendzone' with anticipation of the possibility something could happen, even when they end up in a romantic relationship with someone else.
So is it morally honest to have a friendship with someone where there is unrequited attraction? Isn't the grounds of true friendship share intention and both people mutual benefit and are having their needs met?
Also are rejectors who shames a rejectee for not wanting a friendship with accusations of being immature and only wanting sex, being rational and compassionate? Or are they a bit of a narcissist who wants a friendship to be on their terms only and possibly enjoys the ego boost and power thrill of keeping unrequited admirers around.
Yet every time I hear someone say they have the best friendship with someone they were rejected by or hang out with friends they have a sexual attraction to, something doesn't sit right. You can never kill desire, you can only suppress it.
Even when people say the desire fades out, there are many stories where unrequited attraction turns into requited attraction. So to me it's clear genuine desire never goes away and most people go into the 'friendzone' with anticipation of the possibility something could happen, even when they end up in a romantic relationship with someone else.
So is it morally honest to have a friendship with someone where there is unrequited attraction? Isn't the grounds of true friendship share intention and both people mutual benefit and are having their needs met?
Also are rejectors who shames a rejectee for not wanting a friendship with accusations of being immature and only wanting sex, being rational and compassionate? Or are they a bit of a narcissist who wants a friendship to be on their terms only and possibly enjoys the ego boost and power thrill of keeping unrequited admirers around.