Does watching gay porn make a man gay/bi?

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"I only killed one person, that doesn't make me a murderer."

Really guys?

You lie that makes you a liar, you steal that makes you a thief yes.
You watch gay porn repeatedly that makes you interested in gay porn.

Rubbish.

Gay guys can watch straight porn and have no desire to be the man.
 

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THIS is the best response on here.. again you will get a variety of opinions.. but try not to worry too much about it and try not to make it into an issue that it most likely doesn't need to be - other good point is to remember sexuality in general can be a very grey area - not always black/white... lots of in betweens... watching something and curiosity, doesn't MAKE you straight/gay/bi, even if you find it intriguing or even arousing ...and try to respect his privacy and have an open mind... just my 2 cents. good luck with your situation..

I've seen some (chose to) and I'm straight (and married). First off don't panic. There are way more serious things to get bent out of shape about. it's just porn. He would be mortified that you've seen his viewing history. Definitely embarrassed which makes us men very defensive. I've drank before- does this make me an alcoholic? When younger I stole...does this make me thief?

In general here's what I think is the draw for many straight men who watch or have seen gay porn...
1. The masculinity of it excluding the feminine. It's just getting off not making love type thing. Guys just enjoying themselves without having to please the female.
2. The amazement of the "intimacy" or willingness to share such a primal thing with another male. Most men dont experience this kind of bonding or closeness with another male so it can be inticing. And most men need and want a close relationship with a bro but we men being men seem to put things in the sexual context quickly.
3. the fascination with the cock. Most men if not all love their cock and want to compare.
4. Men wonder about anal sex because we've been told that there is a pleasure associated with the prostate that even women don't experience.
5. Most men have had something in their past that was male/male - even if it was when a boy. Innocent enough. But they are still curious.
6. He might be simply damn well open minded and secure enough in his manhood to be able to wrap around the thought that guys can and will and do find other men attractive. Like women do other women - and I'm not talking exclusively gay.
 

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you cant know if he watched it or not.. i mean there is so much porn out there and if he was randomly clicking on thing you can easily get on gay porn sites.... i have been on straight porn sites by mistake (talk about killjoy!).

So if its 2 clips and nothing more than that... i wont say its an indication if he actually was watching it. He probably got on there and closed the window soon after...

This was the first clip
3 Young Men Jack Off and Suck a Little - Pornhub.com


This was the second one...which is in the related video section of the first clip
Antonio Biaggi and Ian Jay bareback - Pornhub.com
 

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I think being gay or bi makes one want to watch gay porn.

It seems to me that your partner could be bisexual and unaware of it, or secretly bisexual, or perhaps just 'curious'. Are you sure no-one else logs onto this particular computer?

(I hate to say it, but if one goes looking into another's bookmarks list, or private diary, or facebook page etc, it is a violation of that person's right to their own privacy, their interior emotional / mental realm. We all have the right to demand this private space. And eavesdroppers always seem to injure themselves gaining info they shouldn't be privy to - it can be an extremely socially hazardous act. That being said, nobaodys perfect, we all do things we oughtn't to, I'm not judging you for your follies).

Why I think he is bi: he watches gay porn but he is also going out with you.

I should add that a lot of straight guys like to watch gay porn anyway, they just won't admit it, the wussies. Maybe what you discovered on his computer is simply No Big Deal.

I gotta say, bi guys are great! The worst thing that can happen to a bi human is being forced to pick a monosexual role - gay / straight. This is why we bis are the largest invisible sexual group on earth (aside from lesbians perhaps); society forces us to choose one strict path and be less than what we can be. For many people this is unsatisfactory.

I love being AC/DC. People are great!

If you think you want to stay with this guy, and if you discover that he is indeed secretly bi, try and be supportive of him during a potentially difficult time. It will be worth it. It was for me and my bi partner, we have a greater level of mutual understanding nowadays, and heaps more fun. These crises lead to greater levels of trust and intimacy if handled well. I wish you well.

And if he's bi, that's completely fine with me. I just don't want to find out 20 years from now that he wants to leave me because he's not happy and wants to run off with some dude because he didn't deal with this before he met me. I don't want any surprises. I know he's not gay because he is in a relationship with me and I know that I turn him on. This is just a totally out of the norm thing that I discovered about him that has got me questioning a lot of things. I will stand by his side and support him because I love him. But like I said, I just don't want to be hurt in the end because he chose to not be honest with me.
 

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i'm gay and sometimes watch straight porn, just cos i want to. it doesn't change my mind-sometimes makes me more sure i'm all gay with no straight tendencies.
other thought is just because it comes up in his history doesn't mean he sat and watched it all, i'm sure everyone has clicked on a wrong link and closed window as soon as it opened.but it would still be in your history.
 

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What if he checks your browser history and finds out that you come to a big dick site. Is he gonna feel that you may leave him in 20 years because his dick is not big enough?

I'm completely fine with his size. I've been a member here way before I met him and would frequent this site when I was single. I came here to post this one question because I know the general demographics of the members here and felt the responses would be better than the responses from, lets say, yahoo answers if I posted the same question there.
 

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honest with me. If we have plans to get married, I would want to know if he's interested in men...even if it's just a little bit.

If you plan to get married, I hope you'd know whether or not he's interested in men without having to snoop. Take it from a married man--even when people are married they have secrets. There's nothing wrong with it, really. The idea that any two people will be completely open and honest with each other forever and ever is a fairytale. Marriages survive despite human nature.
 

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I've seen some (chose to) and I'm straight (and married). First off don't panic. There are way more serious things to get bent out of shape about. it's just porn. He would be mortified that you've seen his viewing history. Definitely embarrassed which makes us men very defensive. I've drank before- does this make me an alcoholic? When younger I stole...does this make me thief?

In general here's what I think is the draw for many straight men who watch or have seen gay porn...
1. The masculinity of it excluding the feminine. It's just getting off not making love type thing. Guys just enjoying themselves without having to please the female.
2. The amazement of the "intimacy" or willingness to share such a primal thing with another male. Most men dont experience this kind of bonding or closeness with another male so it can be inticing. And most men need and want a close relationship with a bro but we men being men seem to put things in the sexual context quickly.
3. the fascination with the cock. Most men if not all love their cock and want to compare.
4. Men wonder about anal sex because we've been told that there is a pleasure associated with the prostate that even women don't experience.
5. Most men have had something in their past that was male/male - even if it was when a boy. Innocent enough. But they are still curious.
6. He might be simply damn well open minded and secure enough in his manhood to be able to wrap around the thought that guys can and will and do find other men attractive. Like women do other women - and I'm not talking exclusively gay.



Possibly the most intelligent, thoughtful response to any post I've seen at LPSG. Well done!
 

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It could also be in a way he is admiring the bodies of the actors and not so much the gay sex aspect as weird as that sounds. He may enjoy getting off on seeing such fit blokes looking in prime condition having sex, rather than whether it is gay or straight sex the said actor is participating in.


I agree. There is a "space" between being truly gay and being fascinated by beautiful men who are sexual. It's like a "bro" thing in some cases, tho not all.

I suggest you bring it up in the most supportive way possible.
 

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It could also be a fetish or kink. If it exists, it exists as a fetish.

Many fetishes are more deeply explored in gay porn, than in straight porn...haircutting, for instance. Heck, he might even have a fetish *for* gay porn!
 

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I can't believe you don't see the irony here. You accuse him of not being open and honest -- but how open and honest is it for YOU to go snooping around on his computer history?

You said you can't get it out of your head and pretend that you don't know. But can you get it out of your head that you went behind his back and violated his privacy?

If you are troubled by what you found, then you deserve what you got. If this relationship falls apart now, maybe use what you've learned for future reference: mind your own business.

Honesty and openness is a two-way street. Don't pretend there aren't things about you that he doesn't know. :rolleyes:

Hi everyone. Even though I've been a member for quite a while, this is my first post because I'm a bit of a wall flower. Anyway, I have absolutely no one to ask this question to without feeling awkward or weird afterwards. I really need someones advice.

Earlier today I logged on to my guys computer. I looked at his browser history (Because I'm a bit nosy) and I saw the occasional girl on girl, guy on girl porn clips that he had visited last month. Then I saw two links to clips that were 100% gay porn videos. One was three guys jacking off and sucking off each other. The other was two guys having anal sex. I was like "WTF?!?!" :eek:

I am a 100% straight female and I do enjoy watching porn. I have never ever had the urge to watch females finger blast each other or eat each other out. So, I'm beginning to think my bf is gay or bi. I would love to hear what everyone here thinks. I don't even know how or if I should confront him. I can't walk around and act like I don't know about it either. It has totally changed the way I look at him now because I thought we were completely open about our sexual preferences and likes/dislikes. It's always going to be in the back of my head. This was a total shocker because I never once questioned his sexual orientation. Straight guys, have ya'll ever watched gay porn? If you did, why? :confused:
 
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PS: I'm sorry, folks, but this is the truth: the only conclusion anyone can draw from this is as follows -- his computer history has some links to gay porn on it. That's the ONLY honest answer anyone can give. Everything else is just interpretation. (And for the original poster, the only way to know if someone is gay or not is to ask them. Sexual orientation really cannot be tested nor proven. It's an issue of identification. People choose to identify as this or that. There is a difference between sexual activity and sexual identity. There are straight men who have sex with gay men for money, but do not consider themselves straight. I'm sorry, but nothing can be drawn from what you found other than the fact that you found links to gay porn on his computer. End of story.)
 

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I've seen some (chose to) and I'm straight (and married). First off don't panic. There are way more serious things to get bent out of shape about. it's just porn. He would be mortified that you've seen his viewing history. Definitely embarrassed which makes us men very defensive. I've drank before- does this make me an alcoholic? When younger I stole...does this make me thief?

In general here's what I think is the draw for many straight men who watch or have seen gay porn...
1. The masculinity of it excluding the feminine. It's just getting off not making love type thing. Guys just enjoying themselves without having to please the female.
2. The amazement of the "intimacy" or willingness to share such a primal thing with another male. Most men dont experience this kind of bonding or closeness with another male so it can be inticing. And most men need and want a close relationship with a bro but we men being men seem to put things in the sexual context quickly.
3. the fascination with the cock. Most men if not all love their cock and want to compare.
4. Men wonder about anal sex because we've been told that there is a pleasure associated with the prostate that even women don't experience.
5. Most men have had something in their past that was male/male - even if it was when a boy. Innocent enough. But they are still curious.
6. He might be simply damn well open minded and secure enough in his manhood to be able to wrap around the thought that guys can and will and do find other men attractive. Like women do other women - and I'm not talking exclusively gay.

This is an excellent analysis, but I'll add in one more thing: I have a very old friend of mine who is 100% straight, but he's seen gay porn--because he's seen EVERY type of porn. Over the years, he's looked at least a little at every category or type out there. I used to have another straight friend, and I think this was pretty much true about him, too.