Does watching gay porn make a man gay/bi?

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prejudice against straight porn?? :tongue: *joke answer*

A totally fun person to hang out with?? :biggrin1: *real answer*

Haha I watch straight porn just as much as gay and lesbian! (Can't hsve the straight men on here in a tizzy :wink:) What I watch is decided purely on what I'm feeling at the time. Could be gay, lesbian, straight, threesome, rough, passionate, slow and soft, hard and fast--whatever.

PS - You aren't a bad guy yourself, CG :smile:
 

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When a young person is molested, the sad fact is that the physical feelings can feel really good and really exciting, whilst emotionally or morally the youngster will be repulsed, and this is where the damage is likely to cause long term confusion or harm to the victim.

Looking at gay porn could be someone's way of trying to make sense of conflicting feelings.

It is not fair for a youngster to have to experience this kind of angst in their formative years. Sometimes these feelings can be used to label oneself Used goods / Not good enough / failure, no one will ever love me 100% for who I am.

The real answer to the question is to be kind and careful with one another's emotions, and to demonstrate unconditional respect and love for each other.

In my first marriage, I was terrified of who I was and 100 "what ifs" -

My second marriage came when I was much older and had grown to like myself and celebrate who I am. I will always consider gay sex erotic, and see certain men as very handsome or even sexy, but my relationship with my wife would become diluted if I were to stray out of the marriage.

I know for sure that life comes with only one guarantee! Death! Between those two points, everything else is uncertain. Honesty, kindness and compromise are prime ingredients of a relationship.

As far as looking at a browser history goes, there are all kinds of reasons to look at browser histories, most of them legitimate, and may not intentionally have been to catch someone out. He could easily have cleared his cache or used incognito browsing.

Victims of abuse and people with bisexual tenancies, can and do make wonderful marriage partners.

Good luck
 

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No more than standing in a garage makes you a car...

Even if you derive pleasure from it, that's physical pleasure which can be spurred on by anything or anyone in the right circumstance. Pleasure has no gender...
What you love/are attracted to helps determine whether you're gay/bi etc.
 

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No more than standing in a garage makes you a car...

Even if you derive pleasure from it, that's physical pleasure which can be spurred on by anything or anyone in the right circumstance. Pleasure has no gender...
What you love/are attracted to helps determine whether you're gay/bi etc.

To use your car type analogy, standing at the alter in a church doesn't make you straight. We are what we are.

What I am hearing from the OP, is that she wants to invest relationship wise, 100% with his 100% and be pretty sure that she is buying into the real deal, and that she won't be a single mom with 2 or 3 jobs, if he decides to head for the hills with the pool guy.

Anyone entering a long term relationship has a right to really understand what the roadmap ahead is likely to have in store.

If a partner does a full disclosure, then what do either parties have to fear.

Best case scenario, partner can't live with the truth, and splits before house and kids etc.

Very Best Best Best case scenario, partner understands possible small bi-curious situation and realises (realizes for American spelling) it is no threat, gets married and lives happily ever after.

WORST CASE: Brokeback Mountain, and nobody wins. Lots of crying, Lots of pain and alimony forever.
 

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I think anyone needs to be able to accept themselves for who they are. No labels. In my mind sex is sex, and if someone is very vocal against a certain type of porn, they probably have some subconscious feelings for it.
 

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A straight guys enjoying gay porn would be a bit weird, because it wouldn't appeal to him, but he could be curious or something, this isn't something I like to remember, but I once saw the Tila Tequilla lesbian sex tape and I got off watching it, kind of weird, since it's only vagina and that weird lady, for a split second I thought about my sexuality, but I'm ok, I'm still gay, it's weird but I'd never want to change it.

No one likes (probably a bunch of weirdos) to watch disgusting videos, but people do, why? curiosity, that's probably why your bf watched gay porn, which isn't disgusting at all, I actually really like straight porn, and I'm ok with watching the vag, so why wouldn't a straight guy look at two big dicks for a few seconds, only to come to conclude how weird it is or how hot it makes him feel.
 

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he sounds bi to me....


ig there are a lot of gay site on his histroy then he might be gay but you said you just found two.


or maybe he was just curious... you never really know...


if you really want to know then just casually ask him later on. like

"have you ever found males sexually attractive?" you know come up with something that's not to obvious.
 

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If he has enough wear with all to tell you that he was sexually abused by men, I'd say he is pretty open and honest. It takes a lot of guts for a man to admit that. We are all human and no matter how someone says they have no secrets, there is always some aspect about them that they will keep secret to their grave. Women are wired different than men. Women are very relational and motivated sexually by intimacy and not so much by sight. Men on the other hand are motivated sexually by sight. He may have just been watching the gay porn to see where he measures up to the next guy. Even when a man is watching straight porn, like comedian Ron White says, "Men don't want to see a tiny dicked dude screwing a woman, they wanta see big fat hard cock." I am disgusted with the actual act of two men having rectal sex but if one of them is extraordinarily hung, I'll watch till it's buried, then click out of it. If he is not turning his back on you in bed, I would just let it go.
 

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Also as humans, we all have a little morbid curiosity. You did when you went snooping. Your secret is something you wouldn't want him to know.
 

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When a young person is molested, the sad fact is that the physical feelings can feel really good and really exciting, whilst emotionally or morally the youngster will be repulsed, and this is where the damage is likely to cause long term confusion or harm to the victim.

Looking at gay porn could be someone's way of trying to make sense of conflicting feelings.


It is not fair for a youngster to have to experience this kind of angst in their formative years. Sometimes these feelings can be used to label oneself Used goods / Not good enough / failure, no one will ever love me 100% for who I am.


The real answer to the question is to be kind and careful with one another's emotions, and to demonstrate unconditional respect and love for each other.


In my first marriage, I was terrified of who I was and 100 "what ifs" -


My second marriage came when I was much older and had grown to like myself and celebrate who I am. I will always consider gay sex erotic, and see certain men as very handsome or even sexy, but my relationship with my wife would become diluted if I were to stray out of the marriage.


I know for sure that life comes with only one guarantee! Death! Between those two points, everything else is uncertain. Honesty, kindness and compromise are prime ingredients of a relationship.


As far as looking at a browser history goes, there are all kinds of reasons to look at browser histories, most of them legitimate, and may not intentionally have been to catch someone out. He could easily have cleared his cache or used incognito browsing.


Victims of abuse and people with bisexual tenancies, can and do make wonderful marriage partners.


Good luck

This is a great response. It instills hope for both of you. Some one who was abused could be a hell of a lot more gratetful for their partner than some philandering narcissist that has nothing but had his ego stroked all his life.
 

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The scenerios in gay and straight porn are very much alike - a little foreplay which includes sucking and then getting down to the fucking. The difference is in straight porn only the guy's reaction is real because you don't know if the women is really having any reaction to what is going on - yes they can fake an orgasm. So I prefer to watch gay porn where both party's reaction can be readily seen.
 

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Saying that watching gay porn makes someone gay is like saying watching a chick flick makes someone a girl.

After all, if watching porn can change someones orientation, than the Church would be the biggest user of straight porn because they would use that to cure all homo sexuals.

Sklar
 

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Earlier today I logged on to my guys computer. I looked at his browser history (Because I'm a bit nosy) and I saw the occasional girl on girl, guy on girl porn clips that he had visited last month. Then I saw two links to clips that were 100% gay porn videos. One was three guys jacking off and sucking off each other. The other was two guys having anal sex. I was like "WTF?!?!" :eek:


I know what I did was wrong. I've always sort of had trust issues with people in general.

I definitely learned my lesson on being nosy.

At the risk of sounding harsh, it appears you both have real trust issues and an inability to communicate openly about tough personal issues. That said, as someone else pointed out, you never really know everything about people, even those closest to you. My understanding is that this is the basis for the concept of the seven year itch. About every seven years in even the closest relationships, one partner will say or do something that makes the other think that they really don't know who they've been sleeping with the past XX years. So, if you're seriously considering marrying this guy, I suggest you go to pre-marital counseling together and work with a professional to help surface your concerns (and hopefully his) in a safe environment. Perhaps then you'll be able to get to a place where you can both develop the kind of trust and open communication skills that you'll need to get you through the rough patches in marriage. Good luck!
 

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No i don't think he could be define bi or gay. there is 2 big difference between a gay behaviour and be gay, this difference is about yhe possibility to fall in love or not with an other man. There are people that are straight and make some gay sex too because they can't have all kind of orgasms. Men and women have got 3 kind of orgasm for women i know there is clito,vaginal and combinated for men is similar, i mean eiaculatory, prostatic and combinated.
A lot of straight men (if theit female lovers don't penetrate them with some toys or with thei fingers) cut a 50% of their pleasure. They never know what is a prostatic orgasm and it is a pity because the prostatic is lesser intense but still more interesting than the eiaculatory (it give you more pleasure because it don't have any "recover" time) and ( i don't want to burn other meat on the fire) they never have a "combinated" (eiaculatory+prostatic) orgasm that is the maximum that a man can have (as for women is the vaginal+clito orgasm that make them sometime squirt yummm)
So i can suggest to you to speak with him about this necessity and fantasy than you can try to buy a toy (for example a double dildo that penetrate you in your vagina and him in his anus at sometime) and try to "fxxxk" him.
Straight men see their anus as something that is "sacred" and they are scared that someone (girl or guy) can drill them because they are afraid to became "women" but, if i may, in my opinion to be fucked by your girl or your guy make you femminine as drink some bear make you an alcoholic.
I know it's difficult to explain but we are the perfect result of combinated factor as education,envirorment, religion faith and so on.. so i don't blame them neither i'm blaming you BF because maybe, and i'm saying maybe, they are what they are.
 

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You should stop nosing around on his computer. It's not only an invasion of privacy, but clearly shows you're not trusting him. Anyways, you said there was a variety of porn, which makes me wonder if it was something he accidentally stumbled across, or was curious for a quick second. I see no reason to go to him about it. I would be concerned if all of the porn you saw we gay sites and videos.
 

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When a young person is molested, the sad fact is that the physical feelings can feel really good and really exciting, whilst emotionally or morally the youngster will be repulsed, and this is where the damage is likely to cause long term confusion or harm to the victim.

Looking at gay porn could be someone's way of trying to make sense of conflicting feelings.


It is not fair for a youngster to have to experience this kind of angst in their formative years. Sometimes these feelings can be used to label oneself Used goods / Not good enough / failure, no one will ever love me 100% for who I am.


The real answer to the question is to be kind and careful with one another's emotions, and to demonstrate unconditional respect and love for each other.


In my first marriage, I was terrified of who I was and 100 "what ifs" -


My second marriage came when I was much older and had grown to like myself and celebrate who I am. I will always consider gay sex erotic, and see certain men as very handsome or even sexy, but my relationship with my wife would become diluted if I were to stray out of the marriage.


I know for sure that life comes with only one guarantee! Death! Between those two points, everything else is uncertain. Honesty, kindness and compromise are prime ingredients of a relationship.


As far as looking at a browser history goes, there are all kinds of reasons to look at browser histories, most of them legitimate, and may not intentionally have been to catch someone out. He could easily have cleared his cache or used incognito browsing.


Victims of abuse and people with bisexual tenancies, can and do make wonderful marriage partners.


Good luck

This is a great response. It instills hope for both of you. Some one who was abused could be a hell of a lot more gratetful for their partner than some philandering narcissist that has nothing but had his ego stroked all his life.

I'd say I agree with this because I was molested by an older 'friend'.

I'm so confused it's ridiculous. Even though I was young, I never thought about boys in "that way" before it happened and it has really messed me up in terms of sexuality. I mean, I like girls but more in long term relationship more or less. Coupled with not having a father in the house doesn't help either.

Yes, gay pron is my main forte but should I become married, I could stop that. I have a weird attraction to where it's not exclusively male. For example, girls squirting gets me going (or her getting fisted). I can't get 'turned on' by a male unless he is either buffer, older or bigger than me. Other than that its a wash. A skinny twink can have gaping hole there begging me to come, but it would do nothing for me.

So I don't think it does. But, of course our society currently will attack that stance because it's supposed to be black or white.
 

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the term is (sexual identity), and people choose where on the spectrum they fall. from ridgidly straight, to flamboyantly gay. Does it matter if you watch gay porn and excites you? Do you let others define your own sexuality?. . DO you allow other men to tell you what sexual activities are right and wrong? . . those are just some rhetorical questions I would ask, back. It honestly doesn't matter what others think about you. I self identify as (gay) and I like having anal sex, with extremely well endowed men. (Many of which have been profusely thankful for being able to go balls deep in me). It doesn't matter what other people think about you. It matters what you think of yourself.
 

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Some men like gay porn because gay sex is not something that they would never do in reality (or most likely), even though the fantasy is there (but fantasies aren't reality, or are they?). Also, there is the taboo of nature of it: male homosexuality is a no-go for many men; this, in turn, can easily bring a man to "taboo attraction". And, thirdly, there is the man who looks at gay porn more for homo-emotional reasons than actual true attraction to male physicality (same-gender love, acceptance, etc.)

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So, absolutely not: watching gay porn in and of itself is no indicator of a man's true sexual orientation.
 

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I'm gay but I sometimes what straight or lesbian porn. I sometimes find it hot to watch but in no way do I want to have sex with a girl or even watch girls go at it or a guy and a girl go at it in person.. The only time I would be comfortable or turned on in person is if it's only guys.