Does you care if your woman has slept with many men?

[Dport]

Some of my favorite people are 'promiscuous women'.

 

[MrTh1ck]

Some of my favorite people are 'promiscuous women'.

Your favorite people to have a long term relationship with?

@Ben_c

How so? Motivate your answer.

 

[simbablk]

There is no number that's too high. We all have sex, some with a lot of people and some with not so many. As long as she's STD free, we're good.

 

[Dport]

Your favorite people to have a long term relationship with?

@Ben_c

How so? Motivate your answer.

Long term absolutely. They got spunk.

There's different motivations for promiscuity. I can get behind most of them.

 

[72361]

"What's too high of a partner count for a women to be considered LTR material?"

Guys sometimes ask each other this, and I think it comes down to two fears: 1. She'll cheat on me because she clearly likes having sex with lots of people, or 2. I'm afraid that I'm inadequate in bed because with so many partners, she must've had a few elite lovers.

As for me...eh. Human beings have sex drives. All numbers of partner count are fine by me, as long as they're having sex responsibly.

 

[Shackleford]

I'm long past shopping around for LTRs, but back when I wasn't, a woman's past never bothered me a bit. Who ever had to have surgery or get their car fixed or anything else under the sun and said, "No, I don't want the person who's done hundreds of these before. Get me somebody who it's their first day here!" Seriously, name one other facet of life in which there's such a thing as "too much experience."

And my gosh, how flattering would it be to know, "She's been intimate with all those guys and chose ME as 'the one?'" It's all a matter of perspective.

Unless those previous partners are still in the person's daily life and making things awkward or resulted in STDs or children, it's a pretty silly thing to be concerned about.

Honestly, too little sexual experience brings along its own problems. It's a lot easier to keep your partner satisfied if know what they want and vice versa. Also, if someone's been around the block a few times, they're not going to find themselves wondering "what if?" years into the relationship and feeling the need to stray to satisfy their curiosity.

 

[soren10]

I'm long past shopping around for LTRs, but back when I wasn't, a woman's past never bothered me a bit. Who ever had to have surgery or get their car fixed or anything else under the sun and said, "No, I don't want the person who's done hundreds of these before. Get me somebody who it's their first day here!" Seriously, name one other facet of life in which there's such a thing as "too much experience."

And my gosh, how flattering would it be to know, "She's been intimate with all those guys and chose ME as 'the one?'" It's all a matter of perspective.

Unless those previous partners are still in the person's daily life and making things awkward or resulted in STDs or children, it's a pretty silly thing to be concerned about.

Honestly, too little sexual experience brings along its own problems. It's a lot easier to keep your partner satisfied if know what they want and vice versa. Also, if someone's been around the block a few times, they're not going to find themselves wondering "what if?" years into the relationship and feeling the need to stray to satisfy their curiosity.

I agree with what you say but some people are " creatures " of habit. I mean they get used to a certain lifestyle, they try to change but fail and return to their old ways. What I'm trying to say is that there sure are women that are promiscuous , they choose a partner, they even marry the guy but down the line they miss the " good " old days and start to cheat. You can't say this never happened.

 

[rtg]

I agree with what you say but some people are " creatures " of habit. I mean they get used to a certain lifestyle, they try to change but fail and return to their old ways. What I'm trying to say is that there sure are women that are promiscuous , they choose a partner, they even marry the guy but down the line they miss the " good " old days and start to cheat. You can't say this never happened.

I know I'm not supposed to post in here but fuck it. What the actual fuck dude? You are seriously another one of the woman haters but you try to disguise it. You can't put either men or women in a neat little box. And what you are talking about... yeah, some women are like that. And some men are like that too. But not all. It depends on the individual.

 

[Dport]

Past promiscuity doesn't give you any info as to whether or not one is a shit bag cheater.

Stop projecting your insecurities on to women.

And stop making making me say things like "Stop projecting your insecurities onto women." I fuckin hate when people make me say stuff.

 

[soren10]

I know I'm not supposed to post in here but fuck it. What the actual fuck dude? You are seriously another one of the woman haters but you try to disguise it. You can't put either men or women in a neat little box. And what you are talking about... yeah, some women are like that. And some men are like that too. But not all. It depends on the individual.

I said some. Read my post again. It seems like you ignored the fact that I agreed with the guy, but showed him that there are another kind of women, nowhere in my post said that those are many. Get over yourself, you also put men in little boxes accusing them of being woman haters , when you actually don't know them , you judge people from a couple of posts. In this case only one post, who jumps on conclusions now?

 

[rtg]

I said some. Read my post again. It seems like you ignired5the fact that I agreed with the guy, but showed him that there are another kind of women, nowhere in my post said that those are many. Get over yourself, you also put men in little boxes accusing them of being woman haters , when you actually don't know them , you judge people from a couple of posts. In this case only one post, who jumps on conclusions now?

It's not just based on one post. Your posting history is almost always putting some kind of negative generalisation on women or trying to "catch us out" for something. And that's all I'll say on the matter.

 

[soren10]

It's not just based on one post. Your posting history is almost always putting some kind of negative generalisation on women or trying to "catch us out" for something. And that's all I'll say on the matter.

I'll just leave it here, you have no idea what you are talking about, you don't know me. As said you judge people on some internet posts, Really? Are you this much judgmental?

 

[Shackleford]

I agree with what you say but some people are " creatures " of habit. I mean they get used to a certain lifestyle, they try to change but fail and return to their old ways. What I'm trying to say is that there sure are women that are promiscuous , they choose a partner, they even marry the guy but down the line they miss the " good " old days and start to cheat.

Knowing a woman cheated in her past would've been an automatic deal breaker for me barring there being some seriously extenuating circumstances behind it.

Fucking a lot of different people and cheating are two completely different things with entirely different motivations behind them. Even establishing a correlation there, much less a direct one as opposed to an inverse one, would be iffy business. Of the women that I know for a fact were promiscuous in their younger days and are married now, every single one of them is happy and their marriages are perfectly stable.

Also, "You can't say this never happened" is one of the worst possible arguments anyone can offer about anything. In thousands of years of recorded history, it's nearly impossible to find anything that's not happened at least once.

 

[soren10]

Well I guess I have to say that again. Some women do that , some may be 1000 , some may be 100000 , some may be 1000000000. All I'm saying is that this may happen or have happened before. The fact that you don't know of a woman that has done that, doesn't make my argument invalid. Though , I agree with your point that this isn't common.

 

[TexanStar]

Well I guess I have to say that again. Some women do that , some may be 1000 , some may be 100000 , some may be 1000000000. All I'm saying is that this may happen or have happened before. The fact that you don't know of a woman that has done that, doesn't make my argument invalid. Though , I agree with your point that this isn't common.

If you know it's not all of the time, then why even bring it up?

If we worked at an office together and a new employee joined who was black and I said "Oh, some black people are pretty violent and into selling drugs" what would you think of me?

 

[soren10]

If you know it's not all of the time, then why even bring it up?

If we worked at an office together and a new employee joined who was black and I said "Oh, some black people are pretty violent and into selling drugs" what would you think of me?

My opinion of you wouldn't change.

 

[someperson]

Hey guys,

Curious how the men on this forum view promiscuity among women.

The question is regarding women that you want for a long term relationship. It's obvious it doesn't matter that much for one night stands / hookups if she has a high partner count.

So: Do you care if the woman you're in a LTR or trying to persuade in to a LTR has slept with many men before you?

as long as she does not have STDs it does not matter..


Pickle rick.!!

 

[someperson]

lots insecure and immature boys here.. LOL! now go cry to ur mummy..

 

[Slanted82]

Well it doesn't matter to me; my last two long term partners had been with 100+ men and 2 before me. Did it affect the kind of human beings they were and whether I would spend time with them in committed relationships, of course not. No offence intended but I think only the most insecure of men would think this is in any way a barometer of marriageability (sorry invented my own term there); there is really no reason sexual partners is of any relevance. I would hope a woman wouldn't judge my eligible batchelorness in the same situation based on how many women I had been with...

 

[Acratopotes]

I am married, so not in the market for a g/f, but for me I would be interested not so much in how many men she's had inside her but in how many relationships she had previously. Too many of those would suggest that she has little staying power, i.e. either easily bores or cannot accept the imperfections of real men, in which case she would not be worth my time. Nice as it would be to imagine there something totally unique about me that would mean she would stay with me for life when she only lasted a year or two each with 10 other men, I am not a fool.