I think the only thing faith can really do is repress your sex life, or at the very least make you feel guilty after. Having said that, the only place I've ever seen (heard) someone call out the name of God or Christ is during sex. There's few times when we are more spiritual or closer to God then when we are having sex in general and having an orgasm specifically.
so then how would faith limit that closeness? certain dogma and indoctrination, sure, but to say the ONLY thing faith can do is repress your sexuality then turn around and say that we are closer to God while being sexual seems to contradict. it's not the act or notion of faith that represses sexuality, it's how that faith is enacted and what it is placed in. if your faith says sex is dirty and wrong and impure and should only be used for procreation, then yes, you're going to wind up with some repression. if your faith says that sex is a wonderful and natural part of God's plan, that we are His beloved children and He wants us to enjoy that physical, emotional and spiritual intensity and intimacy...then not so much with the repression. sex becomes a fulfillment of faith, not besmirchment upon it.
Wow, there are some sheltered people out there with a tremendous lack of understanding. Take a look at the "Song of Solomon". Yes, it is in the Bible and it is all about sex.
Absolutely, one of the most sexual, spiritual and poetic pieces of writing in the world.
"Love is stronger than death, passion as fierce as the grave. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it."
Made in the image and likeness of God - to be part of God's creativity in the world - God wants us to be unfulfilled and incomplete? Yeah, right.
Walk in God's light as an instrument of peace and all will be well with the world.
amen.
Yes, it does affect most folks' sexuality. My Mrs for one; since she became a devout christian, i've found myself masturbating more and looking lustfully at women like never before. Well, all thiis is because she thinks most of the stuffs i want us to do are just not proper.
Mind you, this same lady liked having sex everywhere before she bacame a serious christian. She told me she had done it a car with someone from her past, and, we have done in in a park in broad daylight, in the tiolet at a cinema, on the balcony you name it. All that is now history. Sometime i tell her she'll push me between the thighs i mean, into the arms of another woman.
Having said that, i'm sure there are folks out there who are just not about to be slowed down by religion.
this is not always the case, though. i know plenty of highly devout Christians who are not only very sexual people, but rather kinky and experimental as well (yours truly included, lol). and from all denominations as well. also known a fair share of Jews, a few Buddhists and at least one Jainist who were much the same (never talked much about sexuality with the few Muslims i've met). repression is the tool of the institution, not the faith itself. it's important to remember to separate the two.
are you at all religious or spiritual yourself? perhaps it's time to talk with her about WHY she feels the need to limit herself sexually in order to serve her faith. if it's affecting your marriage, then that doesn't serve God at all. maybe try finding a more progressive congregation that you can both take fellowship in...allow her to free up her sexual side again to bring her closer to you while you try realizing your own spiritual side to bring you closer to her. just a thought. best of luck to you both.
