Does your fetish/porn addiction/taste make it hard to date or find a partner?

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Does your particular fetish get in the way of finding a romantic partner? Likewise if you have some form of porn addiction or very specific/rigid taste in guys. If any of these apply to you, please feel free to answer. You can also answer if any of these apply to you but they have NOT prevented you from landing a partner.
 

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I have always been a sexually submissive bottom. I like rough sex. I like hung men.

Logically, the more niche your fetish is, the greater you limit potential partners.

The alternative of not being honest about your likes is worse though.
 
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My “fetish” is versatile group sex with strangers. Before I met my husband I would attend sex parties or visit bathhouses all the time. Unfortunately my husband is super into monogamy so I have to confine my desire for group sex to porn.
 
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My “fetish” is versatile group sex with strangers. Before I met my husband I would attend sex parties or visit bathhouses all the time. Unfortunately my husband is super into monogamy so I have to confine my desire for group sex to porn.
Are you coping with that well?
 

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I have always been a sexually submissive bottom. I like rough sex. I like hung men.

Logically, the more niche your fetish is, the greater you limit potential partners.

The alternative of not being honest about your likes is worse though.
Thankfully I'm very vanilla myself so it won't be a concern for me but I was always curious if people are so taken by their particular fetish, how often does that hamper your sexual enjoyment in real life
 

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Thankfully I'm very vanilla myself so it won't be a concern for me but I was always curious if people are so taken by their particular fetish, how often does that hamper your sexual enjoyment in real life
I look at it this way. It's no different than any other criteria that you place. The more specific you are, the more limiting but at the same time the better the match.
 
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Recently got out of my first relationship. There were many reasons I had to break up with him but one that absolutely terrified me was about being open with him about my fetishes. I was open with him about how I was really into doms and he would try sometimes to recreate it but it wasn’t the same, he just didn’t really have the personality for it.

But one of my fetishes is extremely specific and I’ve come to acknowledge that it is almost impossible that I will ever have a partner who can fulfill it. I’m really into super muscular guys who wear karate pants and have a black belt. I especially like when they kick and put their foot on your face. I wouldn’t say that this is a dealbreaker for me to date someone but I can see myself being too afraid to tell any future partners about because it’s really weird and specific. And then imagine they might feel bad because they can’t fulfill it. I’d love to go back to dating but sometimes I think perhaps I’m not the dating type.
 
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